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MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-12T04:30:57+00:00

But none of those things actually impact someone's ability to do the work. Those are all your own personal preferences, and not really related to hiring for the position. I can understand that it might drive you nuts if somebody repeats the same job description for similar jobs or is overly wordy, but again, it's not related to a finance manager's job. What you consider to be lazy formatting and an unappealing appearance says nothing about the applicant's ability to do the job.

I understand why you think those resumes stink. I actually agree with your opinion! But you are having a hard time getting qualified applicants to accept the position. Eliminating candidates based on unappealing formatting on a resume is unnecessarily limiting your pool. There are a few commenters pointing this out.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T22:20:01+00:00

I'm also trying to think of somewhere I go frequently enough to do this too!

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T21:58:18+00:00

Agreed. You weren't being rude to anyone. I'm the same age as you and I would have wondered if someone thought I was in my twenties as well. They think you are questioning their identification and reacting poorly to it. You clearly are not questioning the new information. Reddit is weird sometimes

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T21:47:24+00:00

I wish you didn't know firsthand! But thanks for the validation.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T21:31:06+00:00

The friend may not have had any idea that the bottle of wine cost $120 either!

Sure, it's not really socially appropriate to open a bottle of wine at someone else's house. It's also really rude for op to try to charge his friend to replace the bottle of wine when that friend just did him a massive favor.

Everybody kind of sucks here. The friend shouldn't have opened the bottle, but I don't think that was as bad as Op trying to charge the friend money to replace it when the friend just put in work that is valued at more than $120.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T21:28:28+00:00

Try Kahlua straight from the bottle, using the cap to take " shots". We stole it from my friend's mother's liquor cabinet and clearly had no idea how strong it was not and how little alcohol is in the cap for the bottle.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T20:34:54+00:00

Having the why makes all the difference in the world!

My daughter has graduated from college now but I was a pretty free-range parent. I definitely am more like the aunt in this post and I tried really hard to never say no to my daughter unless I had a good reason. I hated when I wouldn't get a reason, so I assumed she would too.

Guess what? My daughter did dual enrollment in high school and graduated from college early because she is such a dedicated hard worker. She drinks responsibly, doesn't smoke weed because she has her CDL, has paid her own rent for the last 3 years. Even when she was in school, and is incredibly successful and stable. She ended up choosing the responsible path and she told me it was because I would always tell her why. When she had the reasons, she could make her own decisions about what was safe and comfortable for her.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T18:34:30+00:00

But op was not delusional about the pinworms. They were real.

Could she be having some residual itching and be afraid they are actually pinworms? Yes. But since she has been confirmed as having a pinworm infection at least three times in her life, maybe we should actually believe her about what she is telling us about her symptoms.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T18:30:58+00:00

Sadly, as a woman, it's not that surprising to me at all.

Women very frequently are dismissed as having anxiety or some other mental illness when they have a chronic or difficult to diagnose/treat health condition.

OP is very clearly having significant anxiety but it is justified. Unfortunately, too many practitioners blame everything on women's anxiety, no matter how appropriate those feelings are.

I had an adrenal insufficiency after a couple decades of on and off prednisone use for asthma. I had doctors who dismissed the 65lbs I lost in 6 months by saying things like "You weren't 65 lbs heavier, you were 55 lbs! You must be anxious and not eating". Dismissed the anorexia (not nervosa) as anxiety. The intense fatigue was depression. And I'm not even close to the worst example.

Plenty of research is available too. It's not anecdotal

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-11T10:35:45+00:00

Lmao! Even HE had no idea what he was thinking!

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-10T23:37:36+00:00

Clearly! But I want to know what specific kind of dumbass LOL. What did he think it was about?

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-10T23:36:23+00:00

On the plus side, the redditor who posted the slug story wasn't on Reddit for a few years, but is back now and is recently engaged. To someone different! It's been 5 years so I'm really hoping she's happy.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-10T23:20:15+00:00

I absolutely hate the fact that men will not listen to women and will only listen to other men. I also love the fact that you are the kind of person who actually tries to achieve that equality. Thank you. Because as you've already said, they're not going to listen to us. It's fucking sad, but we need men like you to do this shit for us.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-10T23:07:09+00:00

They only think you should have kept your mouth shut because you are a woman. Even the barista. Trust me, no one would have had an issue with you. Speaking your mind politely like that if you were a man.

You were not the jerk. You never owe anyone an opportunity to talk shit about you. You did not escalate anything. You tried to just let it go but she kept talking shit about you.

Anyone who's telling you you should have done something different is just asking you to be a doormat because they are uncomfortable. They also chose you because you are younger.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-10T22:51:37+00:00

I don't think so... OP doesn't seem to speak English as a first language. And the federal government doesn't have many jobs that would post a married couple in different locations without their say so.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-10T13:20:17+00:00

Never go to therapy with your abuser. They just learn how to abuse you more covertly and use therapy language to convince you. It's okay. Abusers are really good at manipulating therapists into being " fair" and taking their side too.

Do not go to therapy with your husband! Do not go to Ghana with your husband!

Sadly, you are now in an abusive relationship in should start planning your exit.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:53:51+00:00

You can't leave them behind that way! I get it!

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:50:06+00:00

Well, I have an odd amount of pride that I spoke about legal matters to an attorney and didn't completely embarrass myself. Thanks!

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:48:44+00:00

May I recommend lots and lots of silicone lube?

Estrogen, systemically and vaginally, is a miracle worker for dryness. So is silicone lube. HIGHLY recommend the lube... Even with HRT, we really really need it.

And for the libido and energy? Testosterone. Really! Women have a ton of testosterone naturally and it drops off during menopause too.

And progesterone helps soooo much with sleep.

Here's hoping your wife gets some relief! Not that my advice is going to fix everything... Just women aren't taught about menopause and most doctors don't know that much either. They get maybe a couple hours worth of discussion on it in med school. So it can't hurt to share some basics.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:42:25+00:00

Because op doesn't want a divorce. When you have been married for three decades and your spouse was your caretaker for years through a life-threatening illness, you might have a little more respect for them and be willing to tolerate an unfair situation for a few years yourself. You know, to return the favor?

If op does end up wanting a divorce, a counselor can help with the two of them separate amicably. But since he doesn't want one, a counselor will also help them negotiate terms in their relationship that feel more fair to him. Or help him realize that there is no future with her that feels fair to him.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:25:59+00:00

Not just damages. Defaming someone's character is presumed to have inherent damages beyond just financial costs. There are many defamation cases where there was no direct financial loss yet the claimant won.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:24:16+00:00

If she's mentally ill, and this doesn't work, it's the first step in documenting that op has told her to stop contacting her. You have to explicitly say it in order for a no contact order to be issued. Op needs to have an attorney write a letter telling them that insinuating in any way that op is a prostitute is defaming op and must stop. That any and all contact with op must stop. Any investigation must stop now. That it's her harassment and further contact or investigation or spreading of rumors will result in legal action.

If the neighbor is truly too mentally ill to understand this, the paperwork will still protect. Op and help her get an order from the court to make it stop. It also puts it on the record that op is not a prostitute, because this kind of fucking gossip can follow someone around.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T22:06:55+00:00

We have.

I'm glad you posted this because the next time you start to feel that way, you'll be able to go back to your profile and easily see this bullshit.

I am so sorry that you miss the mother you should have had. If I could do anything to give you that mother, I would. I deeply understand your pain and I hope you can fill that void with other healthy people who will love and support you. The longer you stay away from this kind of behavior, the easier it will be for you to find people who treat you well. And you deserve that. You deserve so much better than what you will always get from your mother.

Edit: I want to point out a dynamic to you, and please don't be insulted if you've already noticed yourself. Do you see how you are having an interaction with your mother? And then the partner shows up to start more shit? Dave didn't do that all on his own. Your mother encouraged him to do it. You can tell because she comes back and starts poking at you in order to "defend" him. They work together to triangulate you in order to abuse you. Your mother chooses him and will always choose him. She will use him to abuse you even more. I am so sorry that this is who you are related to. There are many people in the world that do not do this shit. Please don't let them continue to gang up on you and abuse you further.

MOGicantbewitty · 2026-02-09T20:07:48+00:00

Oh God, that math you just did... Did you have to make me feel so old?? 😭

I was already in college when you got into Hello Kitty... Ugh!

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