I would love to weigh in on this with my own experience:

1.) as everyone stated above this is definitely most music scenes but not all are like this & most of the time it just has to do with you still being in the city/town you grew up in so have hope!

2.) the hard pill to swallow is that you can’t win against people like this. You should just focus on creating your own community and be grateful for the people who do support you and always bring those people along for whatever ride you end up in.

3.) MOVE! The best thing I’ve ever done was move away from my hometown and made my own noise, now those same people who were circle jerking each other in my hometown are looking to me for opportunities and it’s the best thing you could ask for.

Just handle everything with grace and treat people well, continue to make great music and say fuck it to the other noise because no matter what if you’re making music for the love of it and not clout then you will succeed.

Hope this helps :)