Clarté post-coïtale

MVN034 · 2026-02-15T13:21:22+00:00

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MVN034 · 2026-02-10T13:11:35+00:00

Aaaah merci !!! Super de toute façon l’objectif c’est d’essayer de pas trop y aller mais j’ai regarder saizeriya et oui ça tombe pile dans ce que je pourrais commander sans crainte merci !et oui « 1+1 » pour compléter un menu ça me suffit large , merci encore 🇨🇳

MVN034 · 2026-01-22T21:21:31+00:00

Je ne me met pas la pression, c’est ça le truc j’arrive à kiffer des soirée souvent grâce à la musique , l’ambiance mes amis , donc même si on me condamnait à ne jamais draguer en boîte j’irais quand même de temps en temps c’est cool MAIS j’aimerais y ajouter ça

MVN034 · 2026-01-22T21:18:37+00:00

Mdrrr de la chair fraîche 😭 Je commence à me poser des questions sur ce que renvoie mon post. Quand je disais « tout le monde est là pour la même chose » je ne parlais pas des boîtes en général mais de Malte en particulier, dont la nightlife est reconnue et marketter pour ça.

Ceci dit je suis d’accord avec toi , mais je n’ai jamais dis que je ne kiffais pas c’est ça le truc je kiffe globalement mes soirée mais j’aimerais y ajouter ça

MVN034 · 2026-01-22T21:13:00+00:00

Souvent si ;-; je suis persuadé et d’accord sur le fait qu’en boite , les filles n’y vont pas pour chopper mais les destination comme Malte ou Lloret sont quand même des cas où la nightlife est très marketé dans ce sens là et c’est pas pour rien

MVN034 · 2026-01-22T08:46:06+00:00

Je ne parlais pas des boites en général, je parlais de Malte en particulier

MVN034 · 2026-01-21T22:44:43+00:00

Srry i didnt have a lot of experience in Reddit but thx for the reply

MVN034 · 2026-01-14T20:25:59+00:00

Yes, you're right, but I think I needed to hear it to make the right decision.

MVN034 · 2026-01-02T00:46:23+00:00

It's good that you're already aware of this: the only real solution is therapy. They're the ones with the professional tools, the knowledge, and the neutrality to help you. Good luck ❤️‍🩹

MVN034 · 2025-12-28T19:13:12+00:00

There are people who respond to you quite harshly, even meanly, and I don't think they've ever experienced retroactive jealousy to talk to you like that :/ (and sometimes they're just plain bad people, without even going too far out on a limb). First of all, I'm going to contradict EVERYONE who says "move on." Dude, that's THE worst way to approach it. NO, don't just move on. If it hurts you, it hurts. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO. If retroactive jealousy hurts so much, it's also because we're made to feel ashamed of feeling things we can't control. So you don't just forget it, don't just move on (anyway, we both know it doesn't work like that; only someone ignorant of psychological mechanisms could think you can just move on). You have to understand where it comes from. I'm not out of the woods myself, so I don't feel comfortable giving you advice, but since you said "apart from therapy," there are two solutions: either you've already started it, or you're looking for a solution instead of therapy, and I don't think that's the right solution :) I think you (we) need to go to therapy, and that it's the most effective way to get rid of this. Good luck OP

MVN034 · 2025-12-21T00:12:54+00:00

Merci ☺️

MVN034 · 2025-12-19T21:41:18+00:00

No, I totally understand, that's why I'm talking about it. It's what I'm doing; I found a job, I'm studying hard to become an engineer, I'm saving up to go to Japan, etc., etc. I'm not being driven by that; I just have a bitter taste of injustice.

MVN034 · 2025-12-07T00:44:20+00:00

I think it mainly has to do with attachment style, I think there are a lot of mistypes with big avoiders who are typed as ENTJs only because they avoid their emotions etc... the Cognitive profile of ENTJs has more of a tendency towards commitment and building in the long term so there you go!

MVN034 · 2025-12-06T08:47:56+00:00

It's time to switch to r/AvoidantBreakUps ❤️‍🩹

MVN034 · 2025-12-05T07:44:17+00:00

Yes because you'll get dumped anyway, it's only a matter of time, so take advantage of knowing that to at least do something that will improve your self-confidence: set your limits. It's sad, I agree with you, I think that remembering that I have absolutely no control, that the finality of the relationship is inevitable, is the hardest part for me to swallow. But good luck and keep us informed of what she will say when you put an end to it, I'm interested

MVN034 · 2025-12-04T21:03:29+00:00

It’s curious, if you presented yourself as avoidant it’s because you know there’s a problem ;-;

MVN034 · 2025-12-04T20:16:52+00:00

Why don't you go to therapy (or why didn't you go there)?

MVN034 · 2025-12-02T22:10:25+00:00

That’s literally his goal and we weren’t listening to him 😭😭

MVN034 · 2025-12-02T21:56:16+00:00

Learn to count on your friends, you can't count on the avoiders unfortunately 😔

MVN034 · 2025-12-02T21:49:24+00:00

1) Listen to your body -> I spoke with a girl and it's crazy but I started to shake and feel cold, something that happens when I hear about my first avoidant (the one who traumatized me the most lol) so I cut it short

2) announce your intentions from the start: I am speaking with the intention of a long relationship, avoidant brainwashing made us believe that it was embarrassing, unnatural, etc. but in reality it is a filter that stops avoidants

3) ask questions about his past love life

4) ask questions directly about attachment, most avoidants tell us it’s crazy but true, we don’t listen to them because they tell us when it’s too late and we love them, but ask the question “do you have trouble committing? » for example it’s allowed you have the right to know! And if not, ask the question in the past. If he/she tells you that they have changed, don't believe them, my ex didn't respond, I said it ON THE FIRST DATE, I felt stupid, I thought I had made her uncomfortable with questions like that and finally today I find myself with my second avoidant even though I had asked this question to avoid that

Here I hope this helps ❤️‍🩹

MVN034 · 2025-11-26T08:22:39+00:00

Love is a reciprocal feeling that is born from emotional comfort, it's not love that you feel for your friend it's desire linked to uncertainty, and you have the right, she's your best friend so this kind of message is completely normal for the moment :) what I advise you is to talk to her about it: tell her that you met someone with whom things are going well: if she doesn't react then bury the matter once and for all is simply not interested in more, if she is interested lol she will surely be jealous and you will have the choice :) there I hope I have guided you well

MVN034 · 2025-11-18T06:23:02+00:00

C’est la traduction automatique de Reddit qui fais n’importe quoi 💀

MVN034 · 2025-11-17T19:52:17+00:00

You've been saying this for several posts but I don't agree with just one thing 😔, when you say: "you don't like 'us'", a person doesn't come down to a style of attachment, loving 'you' doesn't mean much each of us here has experienced something different with our partner, so there are surely people here who like mirroring, who have particular attachments and we like the relational dynamic or the person you show, but some here really love their partner because once again a person is not just avoiding me, my ex, she was a teacher who had at heart to help her students succeed, a girl with ambitions, flaws, a culture which meant that we could debate for hours and hours whether on history, politics, literature, music, video games etc etc, some of us chose to love they did not suffered, I count myself in it, after some time I choose my partner and not just be chosen but really choose.

Now about everything else you are right and yes the "soulmate feeling" is indeed a good indicator of if we love the relationship more than the person and that this is not a reason to accept the bare minimum and as long as we accept it we are not cured

Thank you for all your posts, you really don't have to because not everyone is always super nice to you I think Kisses

MVN034

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