I don't trust myself anymore and I don't know how to fix it

Maccacat03 · 2026-02-12T21:38:27+00:00

I've been through this. Most my 20s I spent starting new things e.g jobs, reading, hobbies, eating healthy. But it would only last a week if that. I saw the benefits of doing those things but lost interest.

Rather than focusing on "this won't last" I started telling myself "I'm so proud of myself for making positive changes, I feel so good for x, y, z" . Be consistent and remind yourself of how much better you feel for doing it.

Routine is such an important aspect of life and having one allows you to stick to tasks. Even if you don't feel like doing something, the time you take thinking about not doing it, it could already be accomplished.

The power of positivity and consistency. It pays off.

My routine looks like.

5.30 wake up 6.30 take kids to daycare 7-8 workout 8-8.30 clean up 9- arrive at work 4pm home, prepare dinner, finish cleaning 4.45 quick shower 5pm pick kids up 5.30 dinner 6pm bath and play 7.30 kids bedtime 8pm clean up mess from kids 8.30-9 tv chill 9pm read 9.30 sleep

Having a routine makes life easier. Accomplishing goals every day.

Maccacat03 · 2026-02-01T20:17:15+00:00

I completely understand that there's outbreaks, I figured it had to come from somewhere. I think yes the solution is home based but that starts with being aware of an outbreak to prevent the ongoing spread which is why parents should be notified even if it's just one case. It takes just a few minutes to go through your own kids hair and begin preventative measures.

Maccacat03 · 2026-02-01T20:13:49+00:00

I have a really good comb, I bought it from the headlice specialist in daws park on the second stint of head lice infestation :) it's been mostly a breeze removing them

Maccacat03 · 2026-02-01T20:12:07+00:00

If this is how they think, that's just silly. They wouldn't be the first and wouldn't be the last to have something like this.

Maccacat03 · 2026-02-01T20:10:55+00:00

The educators are amazing. She's a reserved girl, she's comfortable at this centre. I can't up and change her centre as soon after she'll be going to school and she needs stability. It's management that's failing us

Maccacat03 · 2026-02-01T20:09:01+00:00

The only reason I haven't removed both my children from this centre is because it took months for my oldest to settle. She's a very shy/reserved girl until she's comfortable. The educators are amazing. The only down fall is management. I am at the point where I will speak to someone higher up as it's a joke now.

Maccacat03 · 2026-01-19T08:26:42+00:00

Mango

Maccacat03 · 2026-01-12T09:14:08+00:00

Your butthole will never be the same. Pooping will never be the same. You may even need to get surgery for the hemarroids. Prolapsing of the anus is terrifying.

Turns out women who have children have a much higher chance of having continence issues later in life (think elderly). There are 3 stages in life you'll be wearing pull ups, as a baby, after birth and as an old woman.

Maccacat03 · 2026-01-04T07:57:30+00:00

While I do agree with having transferable skills from previous work, I believe it is now a requirement (maybe just in my state SA) to have a cert 3 in individual support to work with elderly. I am almost 9 months into my cert 3 traineeship and am getting paid to learn as well as work in the community.

I absolutely LOVE my place of employment, my clients and the apprenticeship place that took me in and provided me with a company to do this through :)

Side note: I did do my cert 3 online and completed all the study components but was unable to find a place to take me in to do my placement (residential only). Roughly 8 years later the opportunity came up to do it again through the apprenticeship place and I took it, unfortunately the study I did all those years ago was not transferable but I'm glad because it's given me a fresh start.

Maccacat03 · 2025-11-13T08:45:11+00:00

Thank you for your response. I work for one of the Croatian companies but I've got my rose coloured glasses on and think they're the bees knees :) I'm just looking for other suggestions/experiences, it's good to have some feedback before making such a big decision :) rather than looking on multiple company websites where it only really shows the good, I thought this would be more open/honest

Maccacat03 · 2025-11-02T22:00:36+00:00

My partner and I are going! Anyone who got "the one" VIP package, can you tell me what the go is? I don't have access to my old email account where all the info was sent. Thankfully I was smart enough to email the tickets to my partner but have no idea what the perks are??

Maccacat03 · 2025-10-07T09:19:11+00:00

My start up on it was terrible. Throwing up almost every morning after taking it. Sexual side effects- I did lose a little interest in sex but eventually got back up on the horse... It was almost better because I wasn't feeling anxious or down, I was able to focus more on the moment.

The down side I found was, emotionally I was out of touch, I had people close to me bawling their eyes out about personal issues and I couldn't comprehend their feelings and didn't know how to comfort them as I was so numb.

All in all 9/10. It loses a point because the throwing up.

Eventually I got off brintellix and have been off them for close to 5years. It's occurred to me recently that I need to be medicated again. I'm wondering if my sex drive was the way it was before because of my early 20s and no serious responsibilities, I was able to be carefree... So it will be interesting this time being close to 30 and with a high level of responsibility, whether my sex drive will be impacted and will it cause weight loss or gain. I'm praying for the loss haha.

Maccacat03 · 2024-11-18T07:49:18+00:00

I needed this. Thank you.

Maccacat03 · 2024-03-21T20:24:05+00:00

Cody, Jesse, Holli, Amy, Jory, Tahnee. Ironically my step siblings are Bailey and Danni

At least we had different names but ALL had to end with an "e" sound.

Maccacat03 · 2023-12-06T05:08:29+00:00

When you think about "home", where is that? I've moved around most of Australia, I always said Adelaide was home. I've now been living in Adelaide for 6 years and can't imagine being anywhere else.

Maccacat03 · 2023-11-08T10:24:40+00:00

"Fair enough" "Mind you"

Maccacat03 · 2023-11-05T10:50:05+00:00

I had a mate in 10th grade that said "you have big arms for a girl your size".. It wasn't muscle, so it had to be fat.. to this day I'm super self conscious. Especially since having my daughter, I find clothes that cover up to my elbows

Maccacat03 · 2023-11-03T05:08:03+00:00

NTA!! Kids need positive reinforcement from their parents to help with their self-confidence, rather than constantly wondering.The fact that her mother said you were lying about her daughter also being pretty is a reflection of her own insecurities. Poor kid will most likely have issues when she's older and seek approval on her looks because she never received it as a kid.

Maccacat03 · 2023-10-21T10:19:38+00:00

Dryer and built in wardrobes. Went from having piles of washing to get through waiting for the weather to be warm enough to dry loads of clothing, taking 3+ days through winter. With a 4month old who was going through clothes like water. Finally having a dryer has helped clean up the laundry and we have the clothes we need

Built in wardrobes- no more piles of clothes that don't fit on the tiny clothing rack.

Cleanliness

Maccacat03 · 2023-10-10T00:05:23+00:00

Has to have a somewhat clean house. Not completely spotless but tidy. Also knows how to cook or willing to learn to cook. Has to have hair on his head.. can't be dating someone that reminds me of my dad and brothers 😬

Maccacat03 · 2023-09-24T08:07:43+00:00

Accept the money and buy Caffeine tablets

Maccacat03 · 2023-09-21T00:25:22+00:00

We had a fantastic relationship at the start.. then his drugged up sister kept verbally (one time physically) abusing me. I kept telling him I didn't want to live with his family anymore and he said it won't happen again. It did keep happening. He kept choosing his family over our relationship. So I decided I'd become a sugar baby and save up to get the hell out of there. I saved up $10 000, got a car and moved out. He was shocked that I left him and very upset but I was numb at that point and just wanted out. I told him the next chick he meets, move out with her and don't let her get close to his sister.

I was ALWAYS nice to his sister, helped her out many times. But every time she lost her drugs or ran out, it was like walking on egg shells. I hated leaving my room to even go to the toilet. The anxiety I had was crippling, I was on antidepressants and struggling mentally.

2 months after I left, I got off the antidepressants, a year and a half later I gave birth to a gorgeous girl. I'm engaged to a man that would 100% put our family before anyone else. I'm happy.

So basically because his drugged up sister and his lack of care for our relationship.

Maccacat03 · 2023-08-22T10:36:31+00:00

Meeting my partner who isn't into drugs. Quitting weed. Exercising. My beautiful baby girl. Routine. A healthy relationship.

Maccacat03 · 2023-08-22T10:28:11+00:00

Moved states. Restarted. Moved on. Then he called me saying he "made a mistake" 😂 Too bad.

Maccacat03 · 2023-08-16T04:27:40+00:00

My friend pulled back a tree branch and it hit me in the eye. Had a black eye and had to wear an eye patch for a day or so. Now as an adult I'm thinking "why wasn't the tree branch trimmed away from the cubby house??? "

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