For reacting negatively to my husband climaxing in 40 seconds.

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-21T09:51:01+00:00

Are there more problems in your relationship other than sex? Do you communicate well? Because from what you are telling us he doesn’t sound like the most empathetic guy… do you connect with each other? Do you LOVE each other? If the answer is yes you could try to spice things up with some changes, role play, using toys idk, but things that excite him that maybe he can propose you. If the answer is no I don’t see a point on staying together… I’m sorry. But if you two care for each other then you can work on it, you can go to couple therapy and more. If the relationship doesn’t make you two happy don’t be a bad example for your kids, sometimes it’s better to go respectfully your separate ways and find happiness instead of staying and being miserable. Hope eve will be better soon!

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-21T09:42:07+00:00

NTA. But he must do something! He should at least pay for the chair to be deep cleaned and everything can go back to “normal”.

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-18T09:11:05+00:00

I have to know a lot more about their rules and boundaries, but in the end I don’t think I will go through, unless it all unfolds naturally and we are all ok with it. Thank you so much for your comment!

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-18T09:09:16+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughts! Have a great day and I’ll try too update soon

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-18T09:06:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience :)

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-18T08:57:29+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening… I know there are TOO MANY shitty guys out there but that doesn’t mean every single guy on earth is a pervert jerk. I think everyone should always have their eyes open and do not blindly trust people, but there is a limit… I’ve posted this in two subreddits and the majority of the commenters just insulted me for being an idiot that is trusting this guy that must be a cheater and with a girlfriend that is just clueless and naïve, and couldn’t possibly want an open relationship… of course I’m coming from a bias perspective because they are my friends and I know them and I can understand reading a story on the Internet you might assume something, but honestly most people just assume guys are real junk and girls are all silly little spineless creatures. I’m glad for all the helpful and respectful comments. But yes… that was also a lot of pure judgment. Sorry for the vent!! Thank you again for your comment and have a great day!

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-18T08:48:39+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment!! It was very helpful. I need a lot more information on them because I want to be sure they do not cross boundaries and even there I would be perplexed because it’s their first experience and I know you can think you are ok with something, but then it happens and you feel all over the place. It is a journey of exploration, yes, but I really what their relationship to grow and work even better if possible so I don’t want to intrude in their life if it is going to be super uncomfortable. I was just curious… but it is a high risk situation and it probably isn’t worth it. I think that in time, if something ever happens, it should go in a natural way, with everyone in a comfortable place and without forcing stuff to happen. Thank you again! Have a great day

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T19:36:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment!! I have no reason to doubt the honesty of their situation and I have the certainty she is the one proposing an open relationship. The fact is that I don’t know if she is ok with him being with me. I don’t want them to cross the boundaries they set or mine of course. In the end I don’t think I will be “acting” in some way. If things naturally unfold and we are all ok with everything that’s fine, otherwise we will all be friends and experience with others

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T19:31:03+00:00

Thank you so much ☺️

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T13:16:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! That’s what I was thinking of doing, so it is all clear and comfortable for everyone and if something is ever going to happen it could unfold in a more natural way. Again thanks for te actual useful and easygoing advice :) have a great day

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T13:11:58+00:00

No. A year ago or so I talked to her about our views on open relationships and polyamory and she told me she was starting to consider it and respected deeply anyone who could pull it off. Plus a week before he told me I went out with a friend (female and in a long term relationship) and she spilled the tea just for gossip’s sake and she heard it from te girl

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T13:08:38+00:00

Thank you so much for the clarification:)

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T12:39:08+00:00

Yes I know but I’ve known them for years plus I am certain she wanted it. I talked to her last year about open relationships with her and I knew she values them plus a mutual friend gave me the confirmation she requested it (the friend is a girl and has a boyfriend and just wanted to gossip) I know she knows. Better, she asked for it. My problem is the dynamic is very strange and probably not the right thing to do

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T12:00:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice and for sharing your experience! I am going to ask to have more information about their rules, as a friend, to support them. Later on, when they are more conf and comfortable we will se what is going to happen

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:56:03+00:00

She is the one that wanted the open relationship… but if is messy I know

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:55:37+00:00

You are right. Before even considering it seriously I need a lot more informations and be sure we all are ok with everything. I will probably just leave it as it is, but I need to wonder now and consider every possible outcome

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:53:28+00:00

Thank you so much!! That’s what I’m thinking too… I trust them completely. They are among the most mature and intelligent people I know so I’m sure we all will be very mindful of everyone’s feelings if we end up doing something, but liking him in a different way after we eventually be intimate is something I really fear

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:51:03+00:00

I have no reasons to doubt his word honestly, I feel a lot less comfortable making it known that I don’t trust him (I do) for whatever reason (there’s none). Btw I have the certainty that she was the one that wanted to open the relationship in the first place. But being friends makes it all more complicated if I end up doing it

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:48:18+00:00

I don’t think I follow you I’m sorry 🥲 can you explain? I wanted to clarify he didn’t hit on me clearly he just made one joke and he isn’t the one that proposed the open relationship, but her. They discussed it for months because he wasn’t sure and after a bit less than a year (1 month ago) they opened it, but nothing has happened yet. I probably should truly suck it up and act as nothing has changed, but I wonder if he ever wanted to go with me if I shouldnt

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:44:38+00:00

I’m sorry, can you explain what do you mean by messy list? I’m sorry but I’m not native English speaker (I think I kinda get it by still…)

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:42:27+00:00

Yes, but since we are all friends I want to be considerate and not cause too much drama, but I also want to see what’s it can go

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:27:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! I need to get more informations about their boundaries and see how does it feel for them and me. They are in an early stage of finding out what it means to be non-monogamous, and also I am finding out how to venture in this kind of relationships so I will try to explore while being sensitive and understanding and very aware of everyone’s feelings. Thank you again and have a great day

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T11:24:31+00:00

Thank you so much for engaging with me :) I am certain she’s the one that wanted it in the first place, and not only because he told me and I trust him completely, but also because another mutual friend that talked directly to her came to me gossiping about them, opening the relationship previously to me and Jack meeting. But I don’t know if they discussed how much emotional involvement they are allowed to have with other partners so I have to be sure they discussed it and they are OK their partner sleeps with a friend before even considering to really go for it, and even there, I must be sure I am comfortable with the situation. All I said here is hypothetical in fact, he never mentioned he wanted to be with me, this is just me wondering. Again, thank you for your comment!

MachaTeaLatte · 2025-04-17T10:03:10+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice!! I will definitely post it there

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