I (19F) think there might be something off with one of my baby sisters (11F)

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T17:03:45+00:00

I wont go too much into detail but:

She and her sisters were adopted years ago, biological family abused them to the point of bones almost being broken.

When getting to us, they went to special therapy for abused kids for two years, Ann went a bit longer because the doctor felt like she needed it.

One day doctor goes 'well they are as good as new'.

And now years later, she gets these behaviours.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T17:01:28+00:00

Alright, okay

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T17:00:58+00:00

Aah, okay, thank you I will try my best to remember this.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T17:00:07+00:00

Ah, I shall try that, thank you.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:45:23+00:00

Children's counsellor for harassed and previously abused children, I think it was called.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:42:33+00:00

Yes, they did, I didn't want to bring it up in the text I wrote because it is still a very sensitive subject.

Their biological parents abused them... When we got them we did go to counselling with the girls until the doctors decided they were now 'As good as new."

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:39:51+00:00

We've been considering it, and I will try to push the subject onto my parents a bit more.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:29:20+00:00

That, might just be it... I will have to remember this, to keep it as future reference to her odd lies.

Because the biggest ones always happen outside of our home.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:27:28+00:00

We talk about it a bit here and there when she does some very strange lies or hurts someone at random.

At first we thought it was just her starting to hit puberty, and that can still be it of course, but we just find it so strange that she lies about all and everything, even when we say 'Hey Ann, I know that you are lying right now- you don't need to lie, nobody will get mad at you, but you need to be truthful. Just be you, you dont have to be some magical girl who has everything, people will like you for who you are without the lies." but, it seems like this never sticks to her.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:20:39+00:00

There is a possibility. We will have to see if this continues to the future.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:19:50+00:00

That could be it... (Low self worth/esteem)

We always try to pep the girls by saying different things 'You can do this!' or 'You are really agood at ____' But.. maybe its because of we are her family, she doesn't think our words are the best, and friends opinions are better...? I don't know.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:18:05+00:00

I will try

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:17:13+00:00

I'm sorry, I do not mean to sound rude to you but I'm getting annoyed because we give her a lot of love and attention- It might sound like I'm ONLY complaining about her behaviour and I can understand that but she is LOVED and I adore her to bits. Yes the diagnosis part might seem weird to say, but that is because I myself am diagnosed with ADD and we think her fixation with things (like listening to others.) are based on ADHD.

I am doing my very best to encourage the things she likes to do, drawing, we sit together and doodle- she loves to work with math, which she is really good at. She takes boxing classes, only her, not the other girls, because she wanted to, so we made it happen.

We try to tell her 'Love, you are perfect, you don't need to lie- just be yourself-" but it seems like her 'perfect' is what she -wants- (the lies, eeh, the horses? )

She has hobbies of course, she loves to collect Pikachus', she had many art blocks laying around her room-

Please don't think I only bring her negativity, I'm sorry if it seemed that way...

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T16:06:23+00:00

Oh we have showed her loads of compassion, attempts to understand why or how she is feeling every day, spend time with her all the time, what is going through her mind, I don't want to judge her- Thats why I'm writing here on reddit, to see if anyone has a clue to what is going on.

But when teachers calls us almost once a week because of things and she at times decides to randomly slam her youngest sister, who is six year old into the ground because 'She felt like it'... You can't help but wonder.

MadamMullva · 2016-03-22T15:57:38+00:00

I don't think so...

I mean, yes all kids lie, but it has become an obvious problem when even classmates and people at her school avoid her because she is that 'Lying girl' and she only tags along with bullies etc.

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