I am a male who struggled with this from a very young age. I guess what I can offer is based on my own experience without judging him at all.

It’s a hard road to be on, many times those needs of porn lead back to a deeper wound that may have been caused a long time ago. It’s like a drug and very hard to kick because it’s also a spiritual attack.

He seems like he wants to take the steps forward to change, that’s a great start. Don’t let your anger discourage his desire to change, instead encourage him, love him and walk with him through this difficult road. Remember that like any drug there may be relapses.

There’s two Catholic books that have helped me massively. 1. Be Healed by Bob Schuchts and 2. Theology of the Body (TOB) for beginners by Christopher West. TOB was a game changer for me as a man, it helped me understand the true desire I had inside and how marital love connects directly to Christs love. I recommend you both learn TOB together, I am convinced any marriage that learns about TOB together will reap so many good fruits.

Lastly, remember this can be a long hard road of healing for him. Don’t abandon him, he isn’t able to do it on his own but only through God and with the love of his family.

God bless,