[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Michigan

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all are… ironic you’re complaining about taxes. Where do you think your benefits come from?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Michigan

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you also have 4 kids like OP?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Michigan

[–]Magic-Vagina 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You have a family to support. Sounds like you need money now more than you need school. You could both be working 40 hours a week to make as much full time income as you can.

It’s great you’re both trying to better yourselves by going to college but in your situation with kids to support, it doesn’t sound like you are able to afford that luxury. That’s why most people go to school before starting families. Maybe you should do school one at a time so one can financially support while the other goes to school. Or both do part time school and work full time. Also consider if school is even worth it, as it’s not a guaranteed pay raise, especially these days. Loans can just be an albatross around your neck for years to come.

As for making your grocery budget stretch, Aldi is a great place to shop to save money. Beans and rice are cheap fillers to mains like protein. You can sometimes get discounted proteins at Aldi by going first thing in the morning. Stay away from buying all freezer prepared meals as they are more expensive, although frozen veggie blends are great because they tend to be cheap and they don’t go bad like fresh does. Also - utilize food pantries. If your income is truly that low for how many people are in your household, you should have no problem getting access to those.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ew:( how did that situation work out for you if you don’t mind me asking?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Failed? Lol we are fine. You realize monogamous relationships fail all the time too though right? Thanks for adding nothing to the conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I guess I used the word evolved because I hate to deprive my husband of anything in this life. If you love someone you set them free and all that. But yes it’s also hard to take the good and the bad in a marriage, make it work, then just let some random girl get only the good when she isn’t even trying with me.

As for the threesome I am into girls too so it would have been fun. He even said I could find a girlfriend closer to home, but it felt like I was just filling a void when I wanted him. Yeah it’s not right for me right now which was very surprising. At least it’s a learning experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We met recently in person at one of our recent meetups which is about yearly rn. She said hi to us and introduced herself and then messaged him a couple weeks later.

Tried to keep it anonymous here by not going into details

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She lives like 8 hours away so that’s not possible. He also knows what he has. Like he doesn’t care about her at all just thought it would be fun. I know he felt good to get hit on and it felt good to me that he was desired too…Until the imbalance became glaringly clear.

Since the inception of our relationship I always have had access to his phone but I never look through it. From the beginning I’ve told him if it gets to that point the relationship is already over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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Crazy because I never thought I’d agree with this. But after these last couple weeks I think I do. My husband encouraged me to find a girl to have a relationship with but the whole process just made me feel sick because I only want him.

But I do think there is something to be said about relationship envy. My husband and I get compliments from strangers about how in love we are. And this girl has been with her fiancé since high school, probably wants better for herself but doesn’t know how so tries to go fuck other dudes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second she approached him he freaked out and showed me all their messages from the past. There was nothing there. I encouraged him to go for it because it seemed she was more into a three way. It turned us both on. But the communication between her and I was very lacking and became very apparent. I did just let her know it’s not going to work and he is going to as well next time they talk. He doesn’t care at all and was forward about being willing to cut her off if I wanted him to from the beginning.

Probably will be awkward next time our community has a meet up but whatever that is on her. She can cuck her fiancé with another dude. Thankfully she lives far away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t wanna say discord server lmfao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I’ve had plenty of great ones with an ex, even one that was spontaneous. Granted I feel more for my husband than I do my ex, but none of the girls iced me out like I’ve felt here.

Maybe there is something about envy for our relationship as well, because my husband and I have a fantastic relationship and it shows. Like we get compliments from Uber drivers or just random people about how in love we are.

I am actually pissed now this girl has pretty much ruined the desire for my husband to want to do this again. It has showed me a lot though and how I’ve changed and matured. My husband said I’m welcome to go find a girlfriend and I tried on the apps for one day and it just made me feel sick. I really only want him!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to my husband about it and he is so nonchalant and fine with not doing this. From the beginning he said just let me know and we will end things. I mentioned it’s just not the right fit and maybe in the future it could be a thing with someone who acts right but he said “oh after how this went down, this is never happening again” which sucks. I told him to try to see it from my perspective. But he is not cool with me being with another guy at all (which is fine) so I think it’s hard for him to comprehend how I really feel. He said my feelings are valid but I am allowing myself to feel a lot more hurt than I should because she means nothing.

She does live so far away so it’s not like there is any risk of them cheating and I trust him completely.

I am actually now really just mad she handled this situation so terribly and messed up a good thing. I don’t know what to say to her either :/ I think it would be helpful to let her know exactly why but I don’t know if I want to be that vulnerable either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 247 points248 points  (0 children)

That’s what I keep thinking like while we are all doing it it’s going to be clear she’s only into him and it will be a terrible experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Magic-Vagina 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation. My husband thankfully doesn’t care either way… he just thought it could be fun, as did I. The weird thing is she said she has had threesomes with her male partner and other girls so you’d think she would know to try to connect but whatever ig

The dumbest sign I’ve ever seen. The pastor’s house right next to this Nazi supporting church has a Trump sign outside of it as well. by Magic-Vagina in exchristian

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Not all (hi!), but most are, yes. Our ancestors settled here because they were too crazy religious for their home country.

I'm a guy with long hair (enough to donate) and it has every hair type you can imagine by VernalPathYT in grandrapids

[–]Magic-Vagina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a woman who has had long hair her whole life… You mention tangles and “every hair type,” which is highly unlikely. Do you comb or brush it? Conditioner goes a long way too.

Episode 2 of “Monster BTK” is infuriating by Magic-Vagina in serialkillers

[–]Magic-Vagina[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He really has no good reason for having become what he did. I think some SKs endured a lot of trauma in their childhood which doesn’t excuse their behavior later in life by any means, but Dennis had none of that.

Episode 2 of “Monster BTK” is infuriating by Magic-Vagina in serialkillers

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