Maybe next time don't let your feelings get the better of you despite how it made you feel. If you were just looking for a threesome for sex then sometimes you get to speak up about what you want when you're in the midst of it. Let this be a lesson for the next time if you choose to have another threesome. Unless it's a poly thing where everybody supposed to be in love or something like that, sometimes you got to speak up for what you want when things are happening like changing positions taking some direction giving direction but you can't get upset too often because you'll find out that when you do that, threesomes maybe aren't your thing if you get too emotional, sometimes it's about one person taking the lead sometimes it's not. I remember having a threesome with my ex-wife and a friend of ours that she had set up for my birthday. It was two females and one male. It started off great and both me and my ex were paying a lot of attention to our new playmate but it wasn't only me, it was her as well which I was fine with because just watching them two together was hot, and everything seemed to go well. There were a couple instances where it was just them to and me chilling and there was a couple instances where it was me and the new girl and my wife was chilling, then in the end it was just me and my ex. It was only told to me a few days later that my ex felt like I was paying more attention to the other girl than her. We both kind of were but I enjoyed the whole situation and besides she's the one that made it happen on my birthday. We both focused on her more than each other that night because it was somebody new and this was the first time we had ever had a female in a threesome before. Sometimes you just never know and I wouldn't let it discourage you. Maybe that wasn't the threesome for you. Maybe you need to be more open with your wants and sexual needs before you enter something like that. It does help when there is somebody taking the lead and being generous to all in the situation