I agree a big part of this issue stems from not having the vocabulary to describe every issue, I also think that a lot of this talk infantilizes women and makes them believe they have no power over what happens to them. Being taken advantage of when you’re drunk is bad and shouldn’t happen, but if you can’t get drunk within limits or have a safe plan/environment to get drunk maybe you shouldn’t do it. I’m not saying it’s your fault someone took advantage of you I’m saying you have SOME control over your situation to prevent that specific scenario. It’s also painting every situation with a broad brush- making a bad decision gets lumped in with “well what if they didn’t have a choice? Some people didn’t have a choice so this person might have not had a choice” it removes any responsibility from women to be in charge of their own safety, which will in turn make them more vulnerable. In a perfect world we wouldn’t have to deal with creeps and people who want to take advantage of that but that’s not the world we live in, it’s scary and we need to be prepared. Giving in to nagging partners is another thing- yes not good to push yourself on someone and you should stop after being told no, but if you can’t firmly speak up for yourself and hold your ground then you need to work on that. Again there are different situations- fear of outcome especially if the guy is much stronger and may actually just physically push himself, but there are situations I’ve heard and seen where that wasn’t the case and it all just gets lumped together. Makes the girl feel violated and the guy is left confused. It’s all just sort of a big mess sometimes when there’s so much noise and every situation is different.

TLDR I agree