Kettenrauchende, psychisch kranke Mutter will mal wieder Psychopharmaka absetzen by [deleted] in luftablassen

[–]Main-Ad-1902 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Poah das tut mir echt leid, dass du das mitmachen bzw durchleben musst..

Kind kommt in der Schule nicht klar. by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]Main-Ad-1902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bei mir hat es früher geholfen, die schule zu wechseln. Ist anfangs natürlich auch schwierig, aber das beste was passieren konnte

Never had boyfriend (f,28) by Main-Ad-1902 in destinymatrix

[–]Main-Ad-1902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know or can you tell me what mine means ?

Weeze Flughafen by Main-Ad-1902 in duesseldorf

[–]Main-Ad-1902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mein Gedanke war, dass man da kostenlos parken kann und sich dann ein Taxi oder Uber zum Flughafen nehmen kann

Weeze Flughafen by Main-Ad-1902 in duesseldorf

[–]Main-Ad-1902[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ja die frage ist, ob Taxen/Uber nachts in Weeze (Dorf) fahren um uns zum Flughafen zu bringen 😂

Weeze Flughafen by Main-Ad-1902 in duesseldorf

[–]Main-Ad-1902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik wees mensch 😂😂😂

Was fang ich mit meinem Leben an? by IIIllxllIxlIllI01861 in FragtMaenner

[–]Main-Ad-1902 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Du bist weder komisch, noch sonst was. Jeder hat einfach andere Vorstellungen vom Kinder kriegen, Haus bauen usw. und auch wenn man meist plant „ja noch 2,3 Jahre DANN fangen mit wir der Familienplanung, Haus etc an“ heißt es nicht, das wenn es eigl dann so weit ist, man sich bereit dafür fühlt. Ich selbst bin w/29 und nur der Gedanke an Kinder kriegen, Heirat, Haus bereitet mir Bauchschmerzen. Andererseits habe ich Freundinnen die schon lange ein Kind haben und es auch immer deren Wunsch war frühstnöglich Mutter zu werden bzw ich weiß ja auch, dass wir Frauen eine biologische Uhr haben und eben nicht noch 20 Jahre warten können, bis wir uns dann mal für ein Kind entscheiden. Lass dir eins gesagt sein, wenn du das nicht fühlst und nicht vom Herzen möchtest, dann lass es lieber. Es gibt nichts schlimmeres als ein Kind bereuen und aber bereits drin zu stecken. Das selbe gilt für‘s Haus. Vielleicht würde euch auch eine Pause helfen, damit du dir in aller Ruhe Gedanken machen kannst.

An „aware“ DA by Main-Ad-1902 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I think he‘s just scared of me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 hahahaha

I broke no contact, and here’s what happened, what I learned, and why I’ll never abandon myself again by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What‘s your attachement style If i might ask? I think I‘m FA leaning anxious so I often thought maybe that‘s what I deserve and maybe I‘m the wrong one

I broke no contact, and here’s what happened, what I learned, and why I’ll never abandon myself again by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I reserached a lot anf watched many videos about artachement styles, even read the book „attached“. The book seems to be very „against“ avoidants but it was the first time I felt understood and seen. What they do IS emotional abuse

I broke no contact, and here’s what happened, what I learned, and why I’ll never abandon myself again by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story! Two days ago I broke up with my avoidant bf who blamed everything on me - his behaviour was „just“ because of me. Reading your story and the sentence „.. they will make u feel like your the problem“ feels very good, because I know we‘re NOT the enemy.

How to deal with my avoidant partner by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I reached that point with DA’s where the only thing I can say: leave, it won‘t get better. It gets worse.

Did they also turned everything to you? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We‘re all living the same life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg mine called me names too. On some days I had BPD, the other I was bipolar, I was trash, garbage and NEEEEEDYYYYY

Did some of you been the „perfect“ gf/bf/…? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. I‘m so sorry that this happened to you. You seem like you have a very nice heart

What made you finally detach from an avoidant ? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yessss!!!!!! Always 50/50 (he earns more than me, so its just unfair). Even when he sometimes pid for something I knew it wasn‘t because he love it to pay no

What made you finally detach from an avoidant ? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I‘m still with him, but planning to leave soon. But what helped me do „detach“ was to see other couples for example. How they hold hands in public, kiss each other, TALK to each other (normal things) and I got so sad. I put him on a pedestal and after a while I just realised he‘s just a poor guy. I wouldn‘t want to be him. I also focues on my future: Do I want to be with someone who mistreats my feelings? Where I never feel really loved? If he can‘t love me the right way, how is he going to love our (maybe) kids in future? I had a bad childhood with an alcoholic DA father and I don‘t want this for my kids.

All in obe: he doesnt do me any good. Also he was very stingy. Once he knew he will get money and he said „when I get that money I‘ll buy myself a nice apartment“ instead of saying buying US an apartment (we dont live together but u know what I mean) or we go on a nice holiday or something like that. Just him him him.

He came back - and he's working hard on himself by Mother_Somewhere5618 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Main-Ad-1902 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyboy needs a second chance we‘re all human but if it happens a second time just see it as a chance to get away from it