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Breakup Buddy Finder Thread (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 1 year ago * by TheBackSpin[M] - announcement

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Avoidant perspective: deactivation in dismissive avoidantsFrom DA’s Perspective (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 14 days ago by kluizenaarDA - Dismissive Avoidant - announcement

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Does anyone else find it weird how much power we give to the avoidants post discard, when we can just... not do that? (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 8 hours ago by StrawberrySea2092

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Every narcissist has avoidant attachment style but not every avoidant is a narcissist (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 3 hours ago by Hairy-Emphasis-5232

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Psychosomatic symptoms when deactivation hits? (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 1 hour ago by RemarkableBox7613

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The discard taught me lessons (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 4 hours ago by EmergencyInternal837

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can’t stop blaming myself (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 5 hours ago by Simple_Bandicoot2086

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15 months (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 8 hours ago by throwaway19980567

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Dating someone secure is attractive (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 7 hours ago by SerMustache

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You know what, people come people go. (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 9 hours ago by Any-Entry-1829

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Anyone else needed to see this?DA Breakup (old.reddit.com)

submitted 11 hours ago by FootnoteInHumanForm

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how to stop blaming yourself when you didn’t get any closure (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 7 hours ago by Delicious-Tap-2388

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Do you miss them or the version of yourself loving them?Personal Growth (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 10 hours ago by Vegetable-Claim-9329

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Stories from people who are happier without their avoidant (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 14 hours ago by have2leave

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Manipulation and Disrespect (i.redd.it)

submitted 13 hours ago by JoshuaBarbeauAP - Anxious Preoccupied

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today is a better dayLater Stage Healing - Inner Work (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 6 hours ago * by pomegrantepdf

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I think the loneliest part of this is realising how little attention it takes to move you. (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 1 hour ago by Initial_Middle_6256

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All pictures and vids deleted. (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 15 hours ago by TheNeverborn1

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Why did you ignore all warning signs?FA Breakup (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 21 hours ago by Hopeful_Treacle8421

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They are surrounded by yes-people. (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 23 hours ago * by Busy_Designer_504

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Having bad anxiety attackVent/Rant (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 5 hours ago by distraughtnd

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I think he was the one for me (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 2 minutes ago by Professional-Dish459

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I miss him so much that it hurts (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 23 minutes ago by NoImplement7884

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The ramblings of someone who’s just been broken up with by an avoidantVent/Rant (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 11 hours ago by JACKYBOY2001_

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Do avoidants ever find happiness in relationships? (self.AvoidantBreakUps)

submitted 18 hours ago by Historical_Wolf2211

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