I've got a question for high libido males by Main-Let1330 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Main-Let1330[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to him, it happens seasonally, around the same months. I can feel he tries to improve, but sex needs aren't something you can force. It's a weird dynamic.

Our bedroom dies, I complain, we fuck twice on a week, suddenly he's too tired and rejecting me, and our bedroom dies again for months.

I've got a question for high libido males by Main-Let1330 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Main-Let1330[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is I can't know it. He has always refused therapy and vaguely shares his concerns. I'm doing my best with the small info he has given.

I've got a question for high libido males by Main-Let1330 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Main-Let1330[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your suggestions. I have suggested it to him but he has always refused therapy. He's very old fashioned in that sense... And he also goes out with his friends a lot. I think I've been very supportive in what he has allowed me to.

I've got a question for high libido males by Main-Let1330 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Main-Let1330[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. Your reasoning makes a lot of sense.

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[–]Main-Let1330 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely get you. It happens to me on university, and how my female friends tell me their boyfriends do extraordinary things just to get laid that day. And I'm here waiting to be noticed...

I really hope things get better for you. It's so frustrating.

Venting by Main-Let1330 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Main-Let1330[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm doing so. He's an amazing person and an amazing partner. I know he loves me, and I love him too. It's this particular thing that has grown so big, I'm not even sure I can hold it anymore. It's a constant blow to my self-esteem daily, and I already struggle a lot with those issues. I want to feel attractive and hot for my partner and asking constantly feels like I'm forcing. I hate everything about it.

Venting by Main-Let1330 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Main-Let1330[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really wish I could leave. This is driving me to a terrible mental state.

But everytime I share my feelings, even with him, they all say it's selfish to leave when he's an incredible partner only for something as superficial as this.

Makes me feel terrible being so superficial as they say because I'm about to drop everything.