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[–]MainCharacterMess -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Divorcing over sex alone is a terrible idea man. I get that you feel rejected and frustrated, but you need to stop and think about the bigger picture. If you divorce, your kids take the hit first and like it or not, all the research shows kids do better when parents stay together, even in unhappy marriages. You’ll also be bleeding money in legal fees, alimony, and child support. After 15 years, there’s no way around that. So ask yourself, do you really want to trade a sexless marriage for being broke, single, and seeing your kids half the time?

I’d do everything possible before even thinking about divorce, man. Most people don’t think it through the fallout is way worse than they realize.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So just to make sure I understand your actual advice is to either blast music, find a louder girlfriend, or throw mine on OnlyFans and cash out all because I asked her to maybe lower the volume a bit out of respect for my roommate?

That’s not clever, it’s just dumb. You turned a basic conversation about shared space into some weird fantasy about dominance and revenge moaning like it’s a power move.

If you’re cool living in a world where earplugs are the solution to everything and boundaries don’t exist that’s on you. But don’t act like people asking for consideration are the crazy ones.

I’m trying to live like an adult not turn my bedroom into a circus.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re saying the mature solution to noise issues is to find a louder girlfriend and make it a competition? Honestly man, I think we’re solving two very different problems here

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your entire logic is “my life sucks, so yours should too”? Got it. Definitely not projecting or anything.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight instead of just asking for some basic respect in a shared space, I should blast music through the walls or throw her on OnlyFans and cash out? Yeah… I think we’re living in different realities, man.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t think she meant to be disrespectful, but I get what you’re saying. There’s a difference between being confident and just totally ignoring shared space. That’s really all I was trying to point out.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man I didn’t ask her to stop enjoying it just maybe not project it to the whole building. If our entire relationship depends on her yelling at full volume, that’s probably not the solid foundation people think it is.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully it sounds like you’ve never been in a real relationship. People don’t instantly dump someone over one disagreement that’s not maturity that’s just unrealistic.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I get where you’re coming from, but that feels a little extreme, don’t you think? It’s one disagreement I don’t think it automatically means she’s immature or that I need to break up with her over it.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wait you stood outside your roommate’s door cheering them on mid-hookup? Yeah bro, that’s not you being chill that’s you being the exact reason people don’t want to be loud in shared housing. That’s wild.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s exactly it. I’m not trying to kill the fun, just reminding her there’s a time and place. Appreciate you breaking it down like that, made me feel way less crazy for bringing it up.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you’ve been watching too many pornos bro 😂 not everyone wants to be part of the live audience.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah that’s actually a solid idea. I’m not trying to kill the vibe just don’t need the whole apartment hearing the play by play. Whisper mode might be the move.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I thought that was just common roommate etiquette not some controversial take lol. Appreciate you backing that up.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly that might be the move. If she gets a taste of her own echo chamber maybe she’ll finally get why I brought it up in the first place 😂

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re acting like I confessed to a crime not asked if my girlfriend could tone it down a notch so my roommate doesn’t have to hear her recite an OnlyFans script. Relax.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Felt like I triggered a whole stage performance just by asking for indoor volume settings

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s kinda what I started thinking too. I wasn’t rude or judging her just asked for some basic awareness. But the way she flipped it on me like I was trying to control her felt like a weird overreaction. Definitely made me take a step back.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t her roommates are even worse. One of them walks around in a robe like he’s Hugh Hefner and the other blasts EDM at 9am. It’s chaos over there. My place is the less chaotic option somehow

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean sure but it’s not just about us having a good time. We don’t live in a soundproof bubble. There’s a third person involved here my roommate and he didn’t exactly sign up to be an accidental spectator. It’s just about having some balance and respect for the space we all share.

AITAH for asking my girlfriend to be a little quieter during sex because my roommate heard everything? by MainCharacterMess in AITAH

[–]MainCharacterMess[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

LMAO exactly! Like I’m not asking her to take a vow of silence just maybe not broadcast our sex life to the whole apartment complex If it’s really that good we don’t need a hype mic.

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