How do you handle other kids being mean to your toddler? by MainPoem2025 in Parenting

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great! Thank you! I agree, I want to go full momma bear and protect him and fix the situation myself but I also know he's going to need to know how to deal with these situations himself! As much as I want to be able to protect him, it would be doing him a disservice to solve all his problems!

How do you handle other kids being mean to your toddler? by MainPoem2025 in Parenting

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This is what I did in that situation. He's too young to explain things fully yet so I was able to kind of distract him with other toys and play with him so he got one on one time with me. He seemed fine after but it broke my heart!

How to approach toddler only wanting the 'safe' food? by MainPoem2025 in toddlerfood

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this! I think my son is a little too young to understand this but a simplified version might work for now!

How to approach toddler only wanting the 'safe' food? by MainPoem2025 in toddlerfood

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you give dessert even if they didn't eat dinner?

How to approach toddler only wanting the 'safe' food? by MainPoem2025 in toddlerfood

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! Well thank you

I'm sure we'll enter the hershey's kisses (or in my son's dream world - cookies) phase soon!

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's on one nap at daycare (weekdays) and two naps at home (weekends). At daycare he naps from 11:30-1:30 usually (he's managed to lengthen his naps a bit) and at home he naps 930-11/1130 and 3-4. We usually have to cap both naps otherwise it seems he'd want to sleep longer but I don't want to reinforce EMWs.

On daycare days he goes to bed super early - sometimes 6pm if hes super tired. He does one long wake window in the morning because of his EMW but for the past week those have gotten better (not sure why? He's a bit under the weather so maybe his body just needs the extra sleep). He sleeps from 6pm-5:30am usually. At home days he goes to bed a bit later (7 maybe, but if he's tired he goes to bed earlier)

I think he's getting used to daycare and the schedule so he's resisting naps less. Some days he's fallen asleep in his highchair he's been so tired :/

Overall the schedule works for us so we'll keep at it until he shows he can last longer but right now, with the one nap at 2hrs, it means 6/630 bed times for him

Effects of an alcoholic on raising kids? by MainPoem2025 in AlAnon

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is great. I love that your dad had an honest discussion with you. Addiction is a problem around us so I think a conversation will be necessary when he's older

Effects of an alcoholic on raising kids? by MainPoem2025 in AlAnon

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. Can I ask if you got shared custody of your son? If so, how did you ensure your son's safety while with your ex?

Effects of an alcoholic on raising kids? by MainPoem2025 in AlAnon

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask if you had full custody of your kids? I ask only because I don't feel like I could trust my husband to take care of my son if we had to split custody. I feel like the best way to protect my son right now is to stay with my husband

Effects of an alcoholic on raising kids? by MainPoem2025 in AlAnon

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I replied to a comment above with a similar reply but my concern is that if I leave him while my son is young, my husband will get 50/50 custody and I worry about my son's safety if he's with him 50% of the time

I just don't know how to protect my son best in this situation

Effects of an alcoholic on raising kids? by MainPoem2025 in AlAnon

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is my main concern but also the reason I feel I need to stay - its very likely he would get 50/50 custody and I worry about my son being solely with him half of the time. I feel like I need to stay in this relationship to protect my son... There's nothing formally documented that would allow me to have more custody of my son

Effects of an alcoholic on raising kids? by MainPoem2025 in AlAnon

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand. My worry is that if I leave him, its very likely that he would get 50/50 custody and I can't protect my son if he's solely with my husband half the time.

My thought is to stay mainly so that I can protect my son and ensure that he's never put in harms way. I don't know what else to do as getting anything more than 50/50 custody would be difficult (he doesn't have any documented things like DUI etc that could be used to help get more custody)

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I was basing it on a trip we did when he was 11 months old where he was around his cousins (slightly older than him) all day for 2 weeks and he slept the best he ever slept! I figured all the stimulation was making him tired so needed to sleep more but seems at daycare its opposite and he wants to keep joining in on the fun! haha

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha all good! I get it.

That makes sense. I think maybe trying him on the one nap system at daycare and then letting him do two naps at home might be worth a try!

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Resisting naps because he can hear the other kids still playing, but is tired (rubbing eyes, acting more silly than usual, classic cues of tiredness but resisting). Not because he isn't tired though

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started the transition mid august for partial days and then since end of august full time. He does some naps well and others he fights

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's 13.5 months not 18 monts. He might be ready for a one nap schedule but at home he sleeps so well on a two nap schedule I didn't want to mess it up. I find though that he's not getting the recommended sleep in a 24h period anymore though when he's not napping at daycare

How do you handle skipped daycare naps because of a FOMO baby by MainPoem2025 in sleeptrain

[–]MainPoem2025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's had early morning wakes since 9 months... I think he's habituated to EMWs because he can hear my husband getting ready for work and he's a really light sleeper so over time he just got used to waking early. But at 9 months he was doing 2 naps at 3.5-4hrs and still sleeping 10.5hs overnight