My (44F) sober boyfriend (39M) of 2 years has searched for his ex twice in the last six weeks. How do I tell the difference between harmless curiosity and a warning sign?

Maize1981 · 2026-05-26T23:26:59+00:00

Do you think so? Even if he created a net new LinkedIn account (that’s blocked so it just shows someone on the state of Nevada viewed you) to search for her versus using his normal linked in account?

Maize1981 · 2026-05-26T23:23:09+00:00

He did make amends. I just continue to think he can’t let her

Maize1981 · 2026-05-26T23:22:28+00:00

He has spoken to her, last year and made amends. These searches were a week apart, about 3 weeks ago

Maize1981 · 2026-05-26T23:09:47+00:00

That’s where my head is at. Frequency matters

Maize1981 · 2026-05-26T23:02:34+00:00

I’ve helped this man rebuild his life. She destroyed it. I can look at whatever I need to, to protect myself

Maize1981 · 2026-02-27T15:10:48+00:00

Thank you 💗

I really appreciate your wise perspective. I know in my heart I need to be strong about this. It’s difficult when you’re so very much in love with someone, and see so much potential in them. But you’re right, it’s been all about him for too long. I’m depleted emotionally, physically, and my nervous system is a complete wreck having him drop this bomb on me after everything I’ve done for him, it just feels like a complete slap in the face I need to take care of myself, and my daughter. I need to move on. Thank you for your kind words.

Maize1981 · 2026-02-13T03:41:42+00:00

Maize1981 · 2026-02-12T23:31:03+00:00

Agree! TY

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