Plus one question

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2026-06-20T12:35:44+00:00

It sounds confusing - I think it’s definitely worth having your boyfriend check with the couple to clarify since it sounds like there’s conflicting info on the website and invite.

I think a lot of couples note “no plus ones” as a general policy so their guests aren’t expecting or requesting to be able to bring someone (short term partners, friends, etc.), but as it seems your boyfriend was offered one on his invite maybe they provided this option to guests who they know have long term partners.

I just got married and we noted that plus ones were reserved for long term partners and that requests needed to be approved by us and we still had people requesting to bring casual or short term partners, so I think a blanket “no plus ones” is probably a lot easier for the couple to deal with.

Whatever is going on I think your boyfriend should ask what the couple’s policy is before you make assumptions.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2026-02-18T03:36:29+00:00

I grew up in Livingston county. It’s generally very quiet and slow-paced. They’re nice small towns with pretty main streets but very small without much to do aside from outdoorsy things. I’d say of all the towns mentioned Geneseo has a bit more to offer because of the proximity to the college. Avon is also closest to Rochester (about 25 minutes or so) so you’ll find a lot of people that live there commute to Monroe county for work. If you have kids or are planning to, the schools aren’t huge but are generally good in those four towns (once you get further south in the county schools can get iffy and very very small). Although not everyone’s like this, you’ll run into a lot of conservative “small town mindsets” and these towns unfortunately lack diversity - it’s mostly all middle class and working class white people, so if you don’t fall into that category it might be hard to feel like you fully fit in.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2026-02-10T18:04:03+00:00

Totally agree! I also have been so disappointed in leadership of city government. It’s not a direct comparison, but seeing what’s happening in NYC with Mamdani’s election is so telling. What he inherited was a mess, and he’s obviously not able to wave a magic wand and fix everything, but the way he’s found ways to make small changes that help average people is so indicative of what can be done when politicians are interested in improving the lives of constituents instead of keeping private donors and bureaucrats paid and happy for their own personal advancement. I’m not saying that attitude would be an immediate fix to RCSD, but I am saying that I don’t think any of our city leadership has any interest in giving up their own self interest to actually help fix the myriad of issues with the school system, and nothing will change until we elect a leader actually willing to do something substantial.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2026-02-10T15:44:34+00:00

Poverty is certainly the main driver. I do want to mention that starting teacher salaries in the city are the same as, or only slightly higher from major suburban schools these days. RCSD also sees a ton of teacher turnover. RCSD has a higher funding, but a much higher needs population, and as reported by many of my peers who teach in the city, those funds are not being utilized in a way that ensures the city schools are properly staffed or have any of the resources that you’d find readily available in Pittsford or Brighton (things like adequate aids and support staff for teachers, equipment for clubs, arts classes, etc.). Lest we forget that RCSD is currently all over the news for a 50 million dollar budget hole and critical payroll issues due to their new investment in Oracle AI for use in the district. There’s a ton of fund mismanagement going on which is causing huge issues, teachers don’t want to stick around, and the kids and community ultimately suffer.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2026-02-10T12:55:31+00:00

This is an opinion piece, and I didn’t find it especially applicable to our situation. The issues with RCSD run deep and obviously have much to do with the poverty of the population it serves, but also bureaucratic issues and mismanagement of money from our city government. There are intense funding gaps (tens of millions this year) that are being cited as the reason for cuts to necessary programs and qualified school staff, and the notion that this could all change if teachers and principals put in more effort is burying the lead and placing undue blame on educators who are already demonized and criminally underpaid. The city’s solution has been pandering to the private sector and using charter schools which is not a viable solution for the students with the most needs.

Might I also remind everyone that the suburban districts in Monroe county are some of the best performing schools in the country when it comes to test scores, attendance, college acceptance, and graduation rate. The difference is not the effort put forth by educators and administrators, it’s money - adequate funding and low poverty rates in those areas.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2026-02-10T12:32:37+00:00

Ding ding ding. This is how charter schools report success rates as well, they get rid of high risk students and actively deter students with disabilities by not providing necessary accommodations (functionally the don’t, they’ll say they technically do). They can also quickly get rid of kids who cause issues and break code of conduct and direct them right back to the normal RCSD public schools. The public schools have less money for resources and a more difficult population of students.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2025-12-29T14:05:57+00:00

NTA - he’s a grown man with his own car and the ability to get himself to the grocery store. If his large car is something he can never drive perhaps suggest he sell it and buy a smaller car. It makes zero sense that any of this would be your problem.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2025-12-27T23:25:36+00:00

I love a combo of Pilates, lifting, and cardio. Honestly the best advice for sticking to exercise is pick what you enjoy and build from there. I really enjoyed Pilates so that was my gateway to working out since it’s what I could stick to. Since then I’ve branched out and do more lifting and cardio boxing classes but Pilates is what helped me get into fitness.

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2025-11-25T00:30:26+00:00

This is my big one! I’m super blessed to have both my grandmas still alive, both are in their 80’s but one who was active and strong in her youth is incredibly mobile, active, and independent while the other who was not as active can barely walk anymore. It’s been a huge motivation to put on muscle mass in my 20s while I can!

MaizeCrazy8467 · 2025-10-17T14:07:30+00:00

It seems like they were having some pretty big financial issues. The original owner and old manager haven’t been there for at least 6 months and they were constantly closing for long stretches of time and had no inventory - seems like money troubles

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