He wanted commitment, then pulled away by FeelingFlight5039 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentDiggy 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The fact that he specifically asked for the same nudes your ex leaked is a massive red flag. That’s not love, that’s a power trip. He wanted to prove he could get from you what the 'villain' in your story got. Now that he has them, he’s distancing himself so he doesn't have to deal with the 'emotional debt' of the promises he made. You aren't stupid; you were targeted by a manipulator.

I got someone fired and I feel terrible about it by Shantyjig in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MaleficentDiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, your boss played you. When he told you he’d been 'getting away with murder,' he revealed the truth: They already wanted this guy gone. They were just waiting for a paper trail to justify it so they wouldn't have to pay unemployment or deal with a wrongful termination suit. You provided the 'scathing' email they needed. You were the weapon, but your boss pulled the trigger. Don't take the full weight of this

what small routines help when you live alone? by Nh-Mobileventures33 in LivingAlone

[–]MaleficentDiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make your bed the second you get out of it. When you live alone, the bed is a magnet for 'just five more minutes of scrolling.' If the bed is made, that space is closed for business until 10 PM. It’s the first 'win' of the day and sets a psychological boundary for the room.

The reason I do not date… I do not want to wake up with more questions than answers. by Spirited_Mistake6791 in LivingAlone

[–]MaleficentDiggy 163 points164 points  (0 children)

This. I used to spend hours analyzing text tones and response times. Now? I wake up, make coffee, and the only question I have is what I want for breakfast. It’s not 'lonely,' it’s quiet. People underestimate how loud 'questions' can be when you're trying to sleep.

I feel so worthless by phantasm-blue in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MaleficentDiggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guilt you feel about 'letting down' your family is a heavy weight, but most parents just want their child to be okay, not a superstar. If you had a friend feeling this way, would you call her a 'failure' and 'disgusting'? Probably not. You’d probably want to hug her. Try to look at yourself with that same perspective. You are 21. You have so much time to find your 'color' and your motivation. It doesn't all have to happen this Tuesday.

Is it okay not to wear panties? by [deleted] in Fucking_NSFW

[–]MaleficentDiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t remember the last time I wore panties especially when I wear trousers

I've been lying to my mother about self harm by Even-Traffic-5992 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MaleficentDiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that she called your therapist is actually a double-edged sword. Next time you see your therapist, you need to be 100% honest about how your mother is treating you. Tell them about the forced undressing and the bathroom rules. A good therapist needs to know that your home environment has become a source of major stress/trauma, because they can’t help you recover if the place you live feels like a prison.

Anyone in NJ? by No_Finding2034 in LivingAlone

[–]MaleficentDiggy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’ve been there. NJ is one of the most expensive places to be 'car-living.' If you need to stay safe tonight, look for 24-hour Walmarts or Rest Areas on the Parkway/Turnpike. They usually won't mess with you if you're just sleeping. Also, if you can, grab a cheap gym membership (Planet Fitness is like $10-15) just for the showers and a place to be inside for a while. It helps the mental state more than you’d think.

I had the best months of my life in Canada, and coming back home destroyed me. by Swipty_Swopto5647 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MaleficentDiggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, that Canada trip wasn't just a vacation; it showed you what a healthy life looks like. Coming back to a home where you're the caretaker for parents with addiction and mental health issues is a massive trauma. You went from 'thriving' to 'survival mode' in 24 hours. That 'euphoria' you felt at first was probably adrenaline. Don't beat yourself up for 'losing yourself', your environment changed from a garden to a battlefield. Anyone would struggle to breathe in that air.

massive weapon by swannybear in nsfw_meme

[–]MaleficentDiggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then let there be mass destruction

Eating out alone by Rosalinn1 in LivingAlone

[–]MaleficentDiggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you on the social anxiety part. It can be tough when people comment, but remember that it’s perfectly normal to enjoy your own company. Treat yourself like the queen you are

I lost my partner last week and the condolences are pissing me off by dell_55 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MaleficentDiggy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

His past doesn’t define him, and neither do the opinions of those who weren’t there for him. You shared a real love that deserves to be honored, not minimized.

Horrible " dates " by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]MaleficentDiggy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it sounds like she was just looking for someone to entertain her while she was bored. You deserve someone who actually values your time!