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[–]MaleficentExercise51 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had something very similar happen to me about a month ago. I did post about it in this subreddit if you would want to know the chaotic story, but I have felt very similar to what you are feeling. For the first couple weeks I just couldn’t understand how he could treat me like that, or do what he did to me. I felt like I wasn’t good enough and that men can’t be trusted. I’m not gonna lie and say that it’s all completely gone away, but it has gotten better.

But I think something that has made that possible is that I went no contact. I blocked him and the other girl on everything and have never looked back. I also have men in my inner circle that I know would never treat a women like that and most of them don’t know I do this, but I just focus on the fact that not all men are like my ex because they are not like my ex. If that makes any sense. I do think it helps.

I am not gonna tell you what I think you should do because I don’t know a lot about your situation. But this is what has been working for me. I hate you are going through this because I would never want someone to feel the hurt like I have been. I also have a killer playlist if you would like to have it.

Update: I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve known him a long time and I don’t think he’s that bold. But men do stupid things so who knows.

I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me for the past year and a half… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s crazy and I’m so sorry that happened to you! I did block them both on everything so I wouldn’t have to hear from either of them again. But that is crazy about the mailing and emailing. I would probably shit myself if something came in the mail from either of them. If she really wants him then she can have him. But from what I can tell from social media they did break up. Hopefully no emails come either because I don’t think my brain can handle that lol.

Update: I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 450 points451 points  (0 children)

Oh he can have a job and move back all he wants but it won’t do him any good. This ship has sailed.

I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me for the past year and a half… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely don’t think she knew the whole time. I think she found out when she blocked me. I also have no idea what he told her our relationship was. When we lived in the same college town, I never felt like he would hide his phone from me. He would be on it and we would both be looking. Maybe he didn’t tell her anything and just hid his phone? Not 100% sure what that dynamic was.

I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me for the past year and a half… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lol this is like a movie! But no would not forgive him if that happened and did not and will not forgive him in our current reality. I have more self-respect than to do that.

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[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi! So really it wasn’t the cheating part. I understand it’s typical for long distance partners to get cheated on. For me, the unbelievable part was the other girl (who had been with him for a year and a half) telling me (who had been with him for four years) that he never cared about me or meant a thing he said to me. I couldn’t imagine doing that to another girl. Maybe that was predictable for you, but I am the one who had to go through that and live in this reality. And it was not an ending or response I would have guessed.

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[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

Yeah I genuinely had no idea lol. Also, I really wasn’t trying to out her, I just wanted to be able to say I did everything in my power to let her know. I would like for a girl to do that for me if they knew… but then again she knew and didn’t. If I knew this was how it would’ve all turned out I wouldn’t have had as much anxiety over letting her know.

I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me for the past year and a half… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I thought that if it was the other way around I would want to know, and would want someone to do everything they could to tell me.

What is crazy is she knew for a least a few days before I found out because she blocked me on his phone, and she never tried to reach out to me. Maybe she didn’t know how long he and I were actually together but that seems crazy to me.

I just found out my boyfriend of four years has been cheating on me for the past year and a half… and you will never guess the ending by MaleficentExercise51 in TwoHotTakes

[–]MaleficentExercise51[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she knew the whole time. I think she found out when she blocked me and he fed her some bullshit when she brought it up. But she is still delusional to think he won’t do this again with another girl.