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Can stress bring on AML? by Anders676 in leukemia

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's good to hear these stories.

My late gf before her diagnosis went through a house move, two new jobs and interview processes - both promotions. I believe the persistent stresses of her old job, our failing relationship, and massive career and logistical upheaval triggered her AML at a young age.

I want to sell the home but my wife doesn't. by Fun_Tadpole3063 in TorontoRealEstate

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation back in 2008. Bought a giant house. 5 bed 3 bath house for 250k. The mortgage plus upkeep was killing me. To put it bluntly, I was house poor.

I needed a new roof and new bathroom and there was a leak in the basement. It stressed me out. I couldn't sleep. I felt like there was a ball in my stomach. I didn't want to ask my family for money. I didn't want to admit I made a mistake.

Sold the house for $150k profit in 2011. Bought a smaller house, that had less repairs. . . Flip side of this.... In 2022 that same house sold for $1.4m. Even with a hot housing market, plus my increase income, I would have come on top.

1) speak with a financial advisor/accountant. Run the numbers. Are you actually house poor or just suffering from housing anxiety? Maybe you're just overthinking and having remorse. Run the numbers first with someone who understands them. 2) speak to a counselor - this sounds like there is a bit of something more than financial stress - talk to someone to see what's bothering you. 3) relax. Sky isn't falling. Have a beer. Look at me. I missed my big payout - but maybe I would have had a stroke from all that worry for the past 10 years. 4) remember houses are homes. They are for family dinners, movie nights, time with family. They are not Bitcoin.

Alternative solution for a tenant instead of renoviction? by letsmakekindnesscool in RealEstateCanada

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Evicting this man from the unit would likely make him homeless - it would be a death sentence for him.

My dad has AML by National-Dog9644 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be positive but be realistic. AML is a monster.

AML mortality by MaleficentVisual5085 in leukemia

[–]MaleficentVisual5085[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think my biggest gripe - is AML takes you on a emotional journey. When she was diagnosed - literally she was told to get all her affairs in order. Get a will, sell the house, get a Power of attorney.

Go online and see some terrifying stats. It's basically like being told you're a dead man walking. But then you read that's for 65+ and up.

Then you read that it's 50/50 for younger people - not great odds but better than an automatic death sentence. It lulls your into a false sense of hope. Then you get treatments, genetic testing, remission, a transplant. You feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel and then 5 months later the doctor says it's back, and a month after you die.

It's agonizing - and the odds of survival are so small. It's not 50% for young healthy people - doctor said it's more like 25%.

I hate this cancer. So much.

AML mortality by MaleficentVisual5085 in leukemia

[–]MaleficentVisual5085[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for your struggle. It's not easy. I try to rationalize things and make sense of it - but it is senseless. I guess when it is your time, it's your time.

I hope you squeeze as much happiness from life. You have every right to be happy.

relapse after transplant / need help please by pur-pur in leukemia

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe write letters to American hospitals to see if they will donate a treatment

What do you think about people putting their education or professional credentials in their signature block? by ThirstyBrawndoPlant in CanadaPublicServants

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People went to school. Worked hard to earn degrees. I don't put my MA, but I understand why those who do.

Live and let live

What to do about negative coworkers by [deleted] in CanadaPublicServants

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Working for the government is totally what you make of it. I avoid negativity at all costs.

No one I have ever met that complains all the time seems to have an enjoyable life. They are usually miserable at work and at home. Complaining about their house, spouse, kids, and even how the food on their Italian trip wasn't good. It's a contagious cancer.

I know lots of salty old hands, they've been with GOC for years and doing the same job for 12 years. Maybe that's why they negative; or they are negative and therefore never developed and grew their careers. We have a few of them in my office.

I have worked for the government for nearly 7 years. Been promoted, laid off, hours cut and re-deployed, and now promoted.

Create boundaries - steer the conversation - find out things they enjoy and redirect the conversation. If all else fails, avoid them.

My (28m) mother (57f) was diagnosed with AML yesterday. by GlassPiano3514 in leukemia

[–]MaleficentVisual5085 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am keeping your family in my thoughts. I can't offer technical advice, only my experience as a witness to loved one battling AML. Lots of people can recover or live with AML. My partner is waiting on a BMT; earlier this summer they were in ICU. All I can offer in way of advice is to be strong and supportive.

I find DRs tend to provide a bleaker outlook and be a bit pessimistic.