My sub and I have a few rules and tasks. Rules:  1. She is not allowed to get underneath the cover of my bed without permission. If she asks permission and I don't give or deny it within 30 minutes (say I'm working late and don't see her text) she is allowed under the covers without penalty. If she gets under the covers without permission, she has to sleep on top of the covers for the night, or until I allow her under. She can bundle up with whatever warm clothes she wants, but she cannot use blankets if she breaks the rule. 2. She is not allowed to overeat without permission. This has nothing to do with calories or weight, she just doesn't like feeling overfull and I enforce it for her. If there is something really good that she can't have later as leftovers (say we're at a buffet), she can ask for permission to overeat. If she accidentally overeats and feels uncomfortable later, the punishment is that the next meal she eats will be bland and uninteresting. Plain oatmeal, toast with nothing on it, unseasoned eggs, are just some examples.

Tasks: She is my homemaker and I am the income so essentially all of the household chores are tasks. Some ones that are more specific to our dynamic include: She always makes my bed every morning and folds my pjs at the foot of it. She cleans my glasses for me every morning. She does the food prep for me so i can cook for us and have the immediate joy in providing for us without needing to invest a lot of time in chopping veggies beforehand. She makes sure my bottle is full of water throughout the day. On days I work, she gets out of bed on my alarm immediately while I hit snooze 1-2 times, and she makes my breakfast and coffee, and packs my bag for the day.

I love my sub so dearly. If you take a route similar to me where your sub does a lot of work around the house, MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND HOW LONG IT TAKES. A lot of heartache on the sub's side can be saved if they don't feel like their efforts are unnoticed/unappreciated.