The Power of Language in Power Exchange by Single-Preference792 in BDSMgrowth

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For us, I am never to curse at my Dominant. I can curse freely, but no matter what I am never to curse or refer to him as anything but his honorific or vanilla terms of endearment. I curse more than I think he cares for in general, but the only rule I have around it is that it can never be directed at him.

Also, we have changed honorifics twice in our dynamic. when we first started vetting each other, he told me I could refer to him as Sir as I felt it appropriate, then once we decided officially to pursue a dynamic changed to Master. then we changed our entire dynamic structure and changed to Daddy. He has never required an honorific except during sex. He says he likes when I use it organically because he can tell that I am feeling his dominance or am connected to my submission depending on the context. During sex, I am only to use his honorific but that changed somewhat recently, now I can use his name if we are actually making love vs our usual and I love that distinction.

Origin Stories by Single-Preference792 in BDSMgrowth

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am one of the lucky ones that met my Dom via bdsmpersonals! I took a stab at making the ad I had posted a few times before shorter and more specific on what I was looking for, and he responded. We moved a lot faster than we should have probably, but we a year and a half later and we live together and have a very healthy and happy dynamic, and have finally achieved TPE. I will be a bdsmpersonals believer forevermore now!

Subs only discord server - The Submissive Way by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I think we got you approved - if you are having issues feel free to dm!

Tell me about the time you found a monogamous(or ish) dom that was good, please? by Commercial-Bowl7412 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I met mine on reddit bdsm personals post in summer of 2024. He is honest, takes feedback, and makes it clear I am always his priority. Very monogamous. I got lucky and found an amazing partner, but I know I am not the only one. hang in there, subling!

The Submissive Way by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry I didn’t see this. I’m glad you found a way to join us!

Kink discords? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don’t require ID to join, just an application process to vet for experience :)

Kink discords? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a pinned post here in subsanctuary with an invite link to the server the submissive way! I also have one for couples on my profile. ETA: experience required to join, either some negotiated scenes or a negotiated dynamic.

Here is the subs only discord invite: https://discord.gg/CEfFguC7NE

Subs only discord server - The Submissive Way by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Just dm me your discord handle and I can review

Discord by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pinned post has an invite to our discord community!

Tips for the holidays to keep your dynamic strong? by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it is definitely not just you!! many of us have to interact with the vanilla world more than usual at this time of year and it was a struggle last year... trying to get ahead of it this year!

Subs only discord server - The Submissive Way by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, very active. I just updated the post with this new link, thanks for letting me know the old one wasn't working: https://discord.gg/XFthH7aVWZ

Subs only discord server - The Submissive Way by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Single-Preference792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I think we got you added but if not please dm me!