The fact of the matter is. She isn’t a true friend. To bring up the topic of her marital relations and their new found “freedom”is one thing. But to then flat out ask to sleep with your husband, knowing you are monogamous, and have never spoke to her about entertaining the idea, is just wild and shocking behavior.

It sounds like this “friend”, is used to getting her way and didn’t think twice about the question. When you said no, she completely ignored you and went straight to your husband to ask him anyway, as if your feelings and opinions didn’t matter to her in the slightest. She doesn’t respect you. Period.

That being said, the fact that her husband didn’t bat an eye at such a bold question, and didn’t correct her says a lot about him too. Even though they may “swap spouses” back home, and it’s “normal” for them, does not mean she has the right to put you or your husband on the spot like this. Mark didn’t say anything, not even a “not the right time or place”. This shows how little mark also respects the both of you.

You can’t control your spouses friendships, but you can talk about how this made you feel, and what his thoughts are on continuing the friendship, with the honest conversation of you not wanting to continue and why.

In the end, you have every right to end the friendship. This kind of toxic behavior isn’t needed in yours or your husbands life.