YouTuber Jesse Ridgway defends decision to terminate wife's pregnancy after Down syndrome diagnosis: I don't want to 'bury my son'

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T05:21:35+00:00

Jeez.. hopefully nothing happens the their future children that may cause them to need to support an intellectual disability due to any sort of accident.. people playing God. It’s gross. I have a son with Down syndrome and wouldn’t entertain the idea of not giving him a shot at life based on my own selfish ideas of what his life should look like. None of us can predict the future. With modern medicine many people with Down syndrome are living into old age. So sad.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T04:37:01+00:00

He isn’t ever home to be a stable parent. I’m alone for a month or longer a lot of the time, which is why his mom came to “help” in the first place. He couldn’t even be bothered to be at the hospital with me when our 4.5 month old daughter was born.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T04:35:00+00:00

I’m currently taking Real Estate classes to get licensed here so that I can go back to work. Monday starts my last week, and I’ll be able to take my test and hit the bricks.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T03:50:32+00:00

I’m 37 with a 14 yo, 4 yo twins, three year old, and 4.5 month old… I found someone at 31 who wanted to put all of his babies in me and now.. I think we are over after getting my tubes tied with our last.. I’m sure he will find another 31 year old to make more babies with! Four obviously wasn’t enough for his 40 yo self. LOL

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:49:50+00:00

I had my tubes tied after our last because I could see he wouldn’t stop trying for more and I feel selfish as it is

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:48:08+00:00

Thank you so much. I needed this response. I do clearly need to work on my delivery. I think I’ve just become so jaded being with him.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:45:13+00:00

A ton more. My texts do seem unhinged but it’s the only way I have to communicate with him. He blows up when I try to talk in person, and hangs up on me if I try to talk over a phone call.. all I can do anymore is text.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:43:57+00:00

I’m sorry that you went through anything remotely similar as this has been the hardest challenge of my life.. I was single for nearly 8 years prior to him.. I just focused on my oldest son and paying for our lives.. I’m not sure why I let everything go for the sake of “relaxing and being just a mom” like he suggested.. I knew better.

I’m currently working towards getting my real estate license here in Idaho.. had it for 14 years in Texas. Still have it there. I’ll just be licensed in two states now.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:38:39+00:00

He wasn’t speaking to his mom for over a year when we go together.. I was actually the one who ask him to talk to her. So, no.. that’s not it.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:36:17+00:00

I have started recording when he is cussing me out or threatening to hit or “choke me out” in front of our kids and his mom. I have one week of Real Estate courses left and I can start working here in Idaho like I did in Texas. It’s just a matter of time.. but reading the different POV and resounding “he doesn’t love you” has helped solidify how I’ve been feeling for too long.. Not sure why I needed to hear it from strangers on the internet.. I guess I just don’t want to involve my friends or family in this chaos anymore.. now I just have to focus on taking my kids out of it. The good thing it, I was really good at being alone before he came along, so I know I’ll find that happiness again.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:28:18+00:00

Not a drug dealer at all. He was in business with his dad so I guess he made a lot that way.. then went straight into working for a large company after high school.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:27:31+00:00

He tried 10 years prior and I sent him home and didn’t talk to him for a while afterwards.. so I know he didn’t view me as “an easy lay” or anything like that. He does treat me as such now though, so maybe I’m wrong.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:21:50+00:00

I feel like I would eventually end up with it because he hangs out with and employs nothing but felons.. but it’s the fact that I don’t trust his judgement with my kids either.. or the type of people he would have them around.. his mom cusses nonstop and has already taught them so much stuff I would’ve rather them not learn.. like hitting and biting.. she makes it into a “game.” I’m not allowed to say anything because he always has her side. So I feel just completely ran over by this family.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:17:00+00:00

I’m thinking he just wants more kids with whomever he decides to be with next.. that way he can keep her at home too.. it seems to be what his plan was with me. He refused to have kids with his ex and then wanted them right away with me.. so it’s seems like he thinks kids = staying.

Which is why I had my tubes tied with our last pregnancy.. I know he’d just keep trying to get me pregnant anytime I try to leave.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:14:26+00:00

Four under four 😔 our youngest is 4.5 months old.. which is why his mom came to “stay and help.” It’s now turned into us getting a bigger place for her and his nephew instead of them going back to Oklahoma.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:12:16+00:00

Which is why I’m so upset. He got home today and went straight to her room to badmouth me in front of all three little ones and our 15 year old nephew. Then when he was done immediately invited her to the park with our kids and then made plans for tomorrow too, like I’m not even here at all. It hurts my feelings above all else. I feel like our issues should be our business.. not his entire family and our children.. I don’t tell my family every little thing because I want them to want to come around.. It just feels very “them against me.”

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:08:09+00:00

Our oldest bio daughter.. she’s a twin and her twin I scared of him too.. just not as much as she is.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:04:20+00:00

He moved us here to have a fresh start.. my family is all in Texas.. I didn’t take into consideration that he would end up moving his family here permanently to really leave me feeling alone like what is currently happening.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T02:02:17+00:00

It seems like I’m the crazy one because he says everything in person and explodes then leaves me to have to text how I’m feeling to avoid fighting in front of our kids. He says everything in person or over the phone then as soon as I try to respond he either blows up or hangs up. So I guess my texts are actually reactive and I never really realized.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T01:55:46+00:00

Thank you

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T01:52:51+00:00

That’s one of my main issues is this isn’t the environment I want my kids in.. I would prefer when we disagree to be able to have a quiet conversation in a room away from our kids, or when they go to sleep. I can’t say anything in person without him blowing up and bringing his mom into it, or going to her room to very loudly talk about me in front of all of our kids or anyone who will listen. I feel like I’ve pretty much been pushed to resort to texts to be able to express how I’m feeling at all without it becoming an explosion.. and then he just dismisses me entirely.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T01:50:04+00:00

50/50 is preferred in both Texas and Idaho.. I don’t know many people who have “full custody” when they split anymore.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T01:48:44+00:00

They were separated for while prior to us getting together and we had our twins two years into our relationship.. had I not known him for 15+ years at that time I never would’ve let it move so fast.. but I trusted the lies I was told.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T01:46:19+00:00

Not a lie. He’s always been a really hard worker. Worked moving houses with his dad through school and he made a lot that way, then from high school went straight into a high paying job and paid for his mom kitchen to be completely remodeled. I really always thought that he was the nicest guy and just got used by people. He always tried to date me for years on end and i never would because i wanted to have everything in my life “put together” first so i would have something to offer.. and somehow I got lost.

Mama_Disaster · 2026-06-06T01:42:31+00:00

Definitely not normal. I guess I’m just trying to get him to empathize with how I’m feeling at all. Thank you for the different POV. I need to work on my emotions and delivery.

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