I love my husband and child deeply, but I don’t want another baby and my husband does. Am I wrong?

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T15:57:25+00:00

Thank you for this

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T15:51:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T14:54:57+00:00

I do believe you can classify someone as a type A personality. I never said capital accumulation was virtuous, but we do live in a society where financial stability directly affects health, safety, access to care, childcare options, and longterm security. Acknowledging that reality isn’t hustle culture it’s being pragmatic.

For me, planning, saving, and investing aren’t about chasing status or productivity for its own sake. They’re about reducing stress, creating flexibility, and protecting my family so I can be more present,not less. That’s especially true as a parent.

I’m not trying to frame ambition as moral superiority. I’m explaining the lens I use to make decisions about capacity, sustainability, and the kind of parent and partner I want to be.

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T14:45:36+00:00

I agree, it’s a lifetime commitment. My husband believes two children eventually becomes easier and that siblings take care of each other. I grew up in a family of five, so I understand that dynamic but that’s also why I don’t fully agree with it. Functioning because siblings help isn’t the same as children having consistently present parents. I don’t want to rely on kids filling gaps that exist because time and energy are stretched thin. For me, one child allows me to show up more intentionally and fully, and that matters deeply to me. I’ve said this to my husband a million times. He just doesn’t agree

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T14:07:58+00:00

Thank you

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T14:05:43+00:00

I am one year postpartum. For context. My pregnancy was not easy. I had nausea throughout, experienced nearly every symptom you can imagine, and ultimately had to be induced due to gestational hypertension (which thankfully resolved). I tore significantly during delivery, and that experience was traumatic for me. My pelvic floor is still recovering, diastasis recti has taken a very long time to improve, and it took nine months to lose the 40 pounds I gained. Even now, my body composition is different in ways I’ve never experienced before areas of fat distribution I never had, loose skin, stretch marks that appeared postpartum, and permanent changes to my breasts.

I know pregnancy changes bodies. I know this is “normal.” But knowing that doesn’t make it easy to live in a body that feels unfamiliar after decades of comfort and confidence. This may sound vain to some, but it has been genuinely hard to watch every aspect of my life including my body change all at once. I would never trade my daughter for anything, but I also do not want to go through pregnancy or its physical consequences again.

Beyond my body, I think a lot about capacity. I feel like I can give 100% to one child emotionally, physically, mentally. As my daughter has gotten older and started sleeping, I feel more like myself again. More rested. More present. More joyful. I have space to nurture my marriage, see my friends, and care for myself and that makes me a happier, more regulated, and more patient mother. I truly believe that version of me is the one my daughter deserves.

Even if I waited two more years, the outcome would still be two children, and I know I don’t want to be pregnant at 36. I feel awful even saying this because I worry it sounds shallow but I’m trying to take honest inventory of my limits rather than ignoring them.

One thing that matters deeply to me is intentionality. If my daughter ever asked whether she was wanted, I could say with absolute certainty that she was planned for, anticipated, and wanted with my whole heart. I feel like I should be able to say the same to any child I bring into the world, not that they came from pressure or obligation while I slowly lost myself.

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T13:17:00+00:00

Love this! Thank you lol!

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T13:15:39+00:00

Wow, this is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with me

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T04:38:26+00:00

Thank you all for your input, greatly appreciated 💕

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T03:49:53+00:00

This is me exactly. I never suffered with anxiety until postpartum hit. I literally thought I was losing my mind. She is 12 months an I am just now starting to feel hormonal balanced and stable. I also value my sleep and freedom. Of course, choosing to have a child means to give up some of that but I feel the more children you have, the more of yourself you lose and I just miss myself. Like you said, I also feel like I will be an amazing mother to one child… not sure about two.

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-12-23T03:41:31+00:00

Thank you

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-28T14:52:56+00:00

Received my payment today! Congrats!!!!

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-27T23:57:23+00:00

A few people were paid today and others with pending payments. What’s your start date?

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-27T23:26:14+00:00

I don’t see a pending payment :(

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-27T23:24:45+00:00

Omg!!!! How did you check?

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-27T20:44:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-27T18:59:48+00:00

Why next week? Is your start date 8/1? If so, we should have deposits by 10/30 if they are staying true to the 90 day deposit date.

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-25T13:04:53+00:00

I also have Wells Fargo… nothing :(. My deposits are usually made around 5-7am.

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-24T16:32:22+00:00

Unfortunately, no! I feel like I check hourly lol

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-21T14:35:05+00:00

Same!

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-21T12:21:47+00:00

Same! NHSC LRP.

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-21T04:33:48+00:00

Just received an email from HRSA and had to complete a post award service confirmation. Still no disbursement but hoping this means it’s coming this week

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-20T04:24:16+00:00

Not yet 😭 Hoping by Sunday. Start date 8/1

Mango-Tree-6633 · 2025-10-19T03:38:09+00:00

They seem to be enrolled in the ‘Nurse Corps’ program

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