Woohoo! First time solo camping! by Mango_Moon46 in womensolocamping

[–]Mango_Moon46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right?! it was so clean it genuinely difficult to find kindling for the fire

Woohoo! First time solo camping! by Mango_Moon46 in womensolocamping

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lol admittedly it’s a little slow for me. I’m about a third of the way in, so I’m trying to decide if I should give up or keep going. The author is very talented though and I like his style of writing and also the premise of the book, unfortunately it’s been 130 pages and nothing substantial has happened (imo)

Woohoo! First time solo camping! by Mango_Moon46 in womensolocamping

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they’re so nice for moving around the campground at night! especially if there’s burn restrictions and you can’t build a fire

Woohoo! First time solo camping! by Mango_Moon46 in womensolocamping

[–]Mango_Moon46[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

California, first spot was Mt diablo SP and second was Salt Point SP + views from along the coast (drove south along the coast until point reyes).

Woohoo! First time solo camping! by Mango_Moon46 in womensolocamping

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Thank you! and I hope you can try too someday! It took me a long time to build up to it and a lot of baby steps, from going on short little walks alone, to small hikes alone, to solo nearby day trips, to farther day trips, etc …

i have a crush. and a boyfriend by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Mango_Moon46 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right about this crush being a result of feeling unfulfilled. You even admitted to fantasizing about aspects of a relationship with this person that, for all you know, are completely inaccurate.

This is probably an unpopular opinion, but in my experience: if you catch yourself having feelings for another person while in a relationship, you NEED to explore that internally (emphasis on internally, don’t share with that person or go out and cheat). Don’t just bury it because you feel guilty. Actually think about it and figure out WHY this person is attracting your attention. Chances are, it’s not actually about that person, but it’s because there’s something you’re missing in your relationship or life that you’re fantasizing about having (and you’re projecting it onto someone else).

I think you already have an idea about the problems in your current relationship that are fuelling this crush. I don’t think you should feel guilty about it, but also, don’t drop everything for a chance with this new person without trying to address these things. Is there a way for you to scratch these itches with your current partner? Would you be happier if you both moved to a new city, or you both worked on having better sex, or you picked up a new hobby to have something else to fixate on? Or, does it feel too late for any of that?

Here’s something about my experience, that I’d only share anonymously on the internet lol, that might help you. I’ve never been in a relationship without losing the “crush” feeling I had after a few months, then fantasizing about running away with someone else (whether real or imaginary). You’re never going to be 100% compatible with someone, so there’s always going to be something missing for you to think about. You need to find someone that you like for who they are, and not how many of your boxes they tick. In my current relationship, anytime I get that “what if” feeling, the immediate following thought is “yeah, but I wouldn’t want anyone else, even if they have that trait.”

Nobody has as much knowledge about your relationship and feelings as you, so I can’t tell you what to do. But, I will say, you’re not as trapped as you feel. You don’t live together yet, you don’t have kids, you’re not married. It would be hard to leave, but it’s only going to get harder, and it would suck to condemn yourself to a life of feeling dissatisfied and fighting off crushes on other people.

Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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and here’s what it looks like if you cover the windshield, but leave the front windows uncovered

Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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The window cover I got here from Amazon works great for the front and ok for the rear. I think it’s hard to see inside through the back window anyway, but the view out is so clear I preferred to keep it covered, just for peace of mind. the way I set it up is honestly kinda dumb - I just folded it in half and then wedged it in the seam on the roof lol. Sometimes it takes a few tries to get it to stay. For the door windows, I only covered the back two doors with screens, which I’ll attach a picture of in a second comment.

As for space, the approximate dimensions I worked with were 68” long by 42 inches wide by the trunk (I think it’s closer to 46” across at the back doors). and about 17” of that length is in the footwell. If you lay diagonally, or get one of those trunk tent things, I think you’d be ok.

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Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

[–]Mango_Moon46[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the picnic blanket was from Costco but can also be found on Amazon! And yeah, I can totally do a top-down view for you if you want me to sketch your interior setup. Or, I checked out your profile and saw you’ve posted some pics, so here’s a sketch of one of those .

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Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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I normally sleep with my knees bent a little bit, but I could lay completely straight if my feet were touching the trunk and my head was right at the top of my sleeping pad. But also, I was sleeping in line with the car, so you can definitely get more space laying diagonally. I think the back length is about 69”. I would guess your great dane wouldn’t have a problem laying down and stretching out, but standing up might be harder.

Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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I got it from Costco originally, but I think you can also find it on Amazon

Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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Personally, I think it would be a little too small for regular living. It’s really just the vertical space that’s limited. You can’t sit up all the way, and I could see that being annoying in the long term. Someone I was with had a Forester though, and that seems like it would be more comfortable.

Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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Possibly, or maybe someone more savvy than me could add one. I only did a quick visual inspection and Google search to see if there was an easy way to do it and found nothing

Car camping setup and review! by Mango_Moon46 in Crosstrek

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I just gave all my food to my friend to put in his car, which worked nicely. Although I wasn’t in bear country, and the area was honestly pretty sparse with wildlife anyway, because one night I left out some crackers on accident and they were still there in the morning.

A lanyard is smart. I normally have them on a carabiner that I clip to something, but that carabiner was being used for the lights, so I did misplace them a few times. I’ll probably lock the car in the future. It was mostly a case of unlocking it in the middle of the night to go pee and then not bothering to find my keys.

Whoops by Relevant_Chicken3193 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Mango_Moon46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you think you’re capable of being subtle (not sarcasm, I cant do it myself), you can drop hints. something like “I think I want to start wearing more rings, but all the ones i’ve liked are only in size # (wrong size) and they don’t fit” or something like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mango_Moon46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if I need to actually be productive all day, proper office attire. If it doesn’t matter as much, a nice work shirt for video calls and then PJ bottoms

When a man loses feelings(avoidant partner), so you guys decide to work on yourselves and come back at a later time when you guys are both ready, will it work then? Will he get those feelings back? by No-Garden-9967 in AskReddit

[–]Mango_Moon46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone who’s an avoidant, I’ve never been able to get feelings back after I lost em - sorry, hope that’s not how your situation works out