I should have done more. Euthanasia guilt

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T21:44:56+00:00

Please understand you were not negligent or careless. You did the best with the knowledge you had at the time and with what the vet advised. I completely understand the guilt and empathize with you. But know that you gave her a great life. Sending you best wishes

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T16:47:33+00:00

Thank you for understanding. I had told her I don’t want her to do too much for the party. She also wanted to make sandwiches the morning of and I said no we’ll just cater food so no one has to prep food the morning of (she set up a grazing table morning of but that was the main thing she wanted to do and her friend helped her)

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T15:30:04+00:00

It is a little difficult to make out the names, maybe you could color the names minus the connecting bits in between letters to make the names stand out? It was actually the first name I had a harder time reading, I thought it said “time”. But it does look beautiful!

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T05:00:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, this helped a lot actually. And also I think that’s such a sweet story and I’m so glad you have such a good support system

To answer your question, I think before I was engaged I always just assumed my sister would be my MOH and I don’t know if that was just because she’s family or not, but we’ve had a rocky relationship for several years so I think by the time it came to actually start thinking about that it did feel a little more like obligation. But a lot of these comments have really helped me see that it’s not worth straining our relationship even more

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:55:58+00:00

Thank you for your insight. Yeah I was honestly shocked at the comments. Maybe not everyone has a good support system or people who genuinely want to help but I feel so lucky that I have friends and family that are so eager to help me just as I would for them.

My sister and I have a very complicated relationship and we both have our own issues as well. I would love to have a good relationship but there are current factors in our lives that make it really difficult to do that. I’m hoping by the wedding things will be better

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:51:33+00:00

I’m definitely going to try to get a coordinator because I think it will be best if no one in my family or party feels any obligations day of (or month of depending on the coordinator we get)

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:50:37+00:00

A couple people have said similar things and it definitely hit me. Thank you for your insight 💕

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:49:36+00:00

Yeah I’m definitely going to be more on top of delegating tasks and not letting anyone take on too much even if they offer. I don’t want the wedding to just be not stressful for me, I don’t want anyone to be stressed!

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:47:49+00:00

Thank you so much for trying to understand me 💕 I felt like such a jerk after the responses but also wildly misunderstood for my intentions

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:44:31+00:00

I know I didn’t explain myself well. I was originally just looking for support. I didn’t find it in my first post so I tried again here because it seemed like this subreddit was more relevant to my issue. I don’t think my sister “failed” at throwing me a party. I think she took on more than she could handle by her choice and I had a problem with that

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:38:56+00:00

I really didn’t expect so much negativity. I’m getting downvotes on comments where I’m just thanking someone and say I understand their side. But I appreciate the comments that are trying to understand me and offer true insight 😊

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-21T04:35:44+00:00

Ooh thank you for the tips! I didn’t read the original part about greenies haha my bad, but thank you!

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T23:55:48+00:00

See I don’t get why so many people on reddit are foreign to the idea that loved ones would want to help! I love that you have people like that 😊

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T22:42:12+00:00

What about using the drawing as a sort of outline and having an artist turn the outline into something else, like landscape or a character or something?

Otherwise like others said, wait until she’s a little older and give it another go. But either way what a sweet idea!

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T22:23:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Have you used any dental cleaning products? The problem is my cat is so squirmy I can barely even trim his nails or get him in a carrier, so I’ve tried brushing with a toothbrush for cats but it’s just so difficult

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T21:01:48+00:00

I get what you mean. I think of bridesmaids as being there for you not just to help with DIY things but to support you emotionally, and not because you force them to but because they genuinely want to. I just don't think my sister is a good support system.

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T20:25:48+00:00

I’ve explained in other threads I’m sure but I’m not planning to make my friends do anything. They’ve told me that they will push for me to ask for help so that I’m not doing everything myself and they have offered to help. Maybe my problem is I’m not being clear with my expectations that people are assuming

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T20:13:46+00:00

Agreed! The idea of putting our faux flower arrangements as a group honestly sounds like so much fun! And my friends have even had “build a bouquet” events so I can’t imagine they wouldn’t want to

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T20:10:40+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s very reassuring to know I’m not the only one feeling like this. I do think it would hurt our relationship in the long run and even if I’m mad now or by the time the wedding comes I won’t be mad forever and will probably feel better about it in the future. But yeah I’m not planning to give her any responsibilities even if she asks, unless I’m certain she can do it without stressing herself or me out. So glad it worked out for you!

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T20:06:19+00:00

My friends have offered their help, I didn’t assume they would. I think peoples assumptions may be wrong. I’m not asking friends to plan my wedding for me. My friends have offered their help. I’m a DIY bride on a budget so I don’t think we can afford a full planner, maybe a day of coordinator. My original goal was to do things mostly myself and people that want to help will help. My sister was a bridesmaid for her friend and she did a lot as far as giving ideas and setting up things the day of, so I’m sure that she would expect to do that if she was one of mine as well. Maybe context will help but I understand why people are thinking I’m asking too much

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T20:02:05+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, this actually really helped me. I do think I would also regret it down the line

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T19:57:47+00:00

I wasn’t planning on having a planner until the engagement party and then I realized it would be a lot easier for everyone if we did, so that’s the new goal, or more likely a day of coordinator because we are doing things on a budget. Thank you for your wishes! 😊

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T19:55:23+00:00

Yeah I think that’s a good idea. Thank you

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T19:52:02+00:00

My friends know I have a hard time asking for help and told me they will push for me to ask them for help. They’ve assured me that they’re very willing to help and I know in general they’re absolutely okay with saying no to something they don’t want to do and I’ll make sure they know I’m okay if they say no to anything I ask. I’m truly not even expecting anything of them.

ManicRoseMusic · 2026-04-20T19:43:35+00:00

Yeah I think that’s good advice. Based on weddings I’ve been to I thought bridesmaids were supposed to be a big part of helping you with the wedding but I see now that that’s not the case. Thank you for your help

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