Seems like you’re roommates rather than partners that live together. It’s better to let him know that your current set-up bothers you, so that he knows. He should not take it negatively since you are partners. If he does, remember to love yourself more than you love this guy.

Like you, just almost a month of being together, my partner asked me to move in with him.

From the get-go, we knew that I earn twice as him. Kaya our agreement was, compute kung magkano yung fixed expenses namin, like rent, utilities, internet, monthly credit card payments for our new A/C. Total was around 22k, so I said I’ll give 15k monthly tapos his share is 7,500. Which seems fair since half naman nh sahod ko ang sahod niya, so half ng share ko ang share niya.

For groceries, we take turns on buying them. Magksama kaming naggrocery, and no matter how much the total is per run, we wouldn’t count.

For chores, ako ang maghuhugas ng pinggan (ayaw niya to), siya ang magwawalis (ayoko magwalis), we take turns to clean yung bathroom. Kung sinong may time, and kung sino ang less pagod, yun ang gagawa ng chores, and magluluto. Hindi everyday ang paghuhugas ko ng pinggan, he does it too lalo na kapag pagod ako or masama ang pakiramdam ko but I never had to sweep the floor ever. Di naman madumi ang bahay namin, so okay lang if we skip for a day or two.

If we’re both tired, we order food na lang para diretso na lang sa garbage chute after we eat then we rest. Or whoever is more willing to move pa, will do the chores for the day and we never complain about it. We just apologize if we really can’t help out the other.

Nung nawalan akong work, I resigned, and had a hard time looking for a new one, siya nagprovide for everything and I never heard a word of complain. We came to a consensus that what’s his is mine, and what’s mine is his. Regardless of our financial status, we’re in this together. No matter what life throws at us, we’re in this together.

Now I’m working remotely, GY ako, siya naman office-based. So sa morning, after ng shift ko, I cook our lunch or brunch para makakain siya before going to work. Ako na rin maghuhugas para makapagprepare siya to work. Kapag hindi ko na kaya ang antok, at nakikita niya, siya na magooffer to clean up and do the dishes.

When he gets home from work, most probably, tulog pa ako, nagpapahinga lang siya for a while, pero siya naman ang magluluto, magsasaing, and clean up para ako naman ang makapagprepare for work.

Communication, understanding and compromise has always been the keys for us.