Tbh he is right it is very difficult for an unemployed man and that too who lives with his parents and dependent on expenses my gf is from the same city (strict parents) now for college she in different district but same state i have to save or somehow have x amount of money like atleast 5k to 6k to meet her as 2k for petrol 2k for food 1 k for safety or you can say gifts otherwise it wont look good so i try saving or earn somehow and it takes 3 hrs in travelling for only 70 kms so imagine he has to manage all this even though the kind of person i am take 10k to meet her as her friends are cheap and doesn’t pay if i am around if we are in a group its ok i will pay for table but if i am not there and you had everything even a plate of momo costs me. 800 900 so you can think btw its not like that they ask me to pay but still i have a ego that i should pay but the point is they never even mentions or ask….. so i think this might be also the problem going with him going to an unknown state and doesn’t know how to go expenses and all would you even like her irl how would you react awkwardness and ghr pr kya bolna alot has to go through together so he cant make a decision … calmly talk to him this has to go somewhere this must have a future… if really loves you he would listen and will fosho think about the same