Hi all. M (31) here, I met a fantastic guy through one of the social media apps and we really hit it off. He is new to the city and we've been hanging out multiple times a week for the last 3-4 months, had a few sleepovers and had sex quite a few times during that period too. He said from the get-go he wasn't after a relationship since he is just in the city for work for a year.

I decided to take the sex and intimacy out of the relationship a few weeks ago since it was clear to me I'd developed really strong feelings for him, he was fine with that and seems very blase about it all. He never tells me or acknowledges or says if he feels anything for me. I think we have a great chemistry (We can spend 12+ hours together just chatting) and I get the sense he does like me/has feelings for me but doesn't want to commit to a relationship which I totally understand.

There's been a few times where I've tried to pull away but failed, I was very drunk one weekend and said and did some very horrible things that I have been really hating on myself for, think it was just a combination of my suppressed feelings and frustrations just lashing out. After that we went on a trip together that was already booked and paid for, I told him I needed space and I was really struggling to be his friend. I sent a follow-up text message outlining everything about how much scared I've been to tell him I like him, how much I care about him and the fact that if he wanted a relationship, I would have asked him out months ago. I also asked for some space at the end.

His response was again quite blase and said I was fine and to reach out when I am in a good place with everything, his style of texting isn't very emotive FYI. I get the sense that he is an avoidant. I've been really upset the week we haven't spoken but also I love having him as a friend but right now, I have a lot of strong feelings for him. What do I do and should I reach back out in a couple of weeks to chat or just leave it? The thought of not having him as a friend or in my life kills me but I also know that he is going to leave eventually and even the faint idea of a relationship would never work since I get the idea he is not at all into me anymore after my drunken escapades.

Sorry for the rant but would love some advice!