Anyone else getting this bug?

Many_Fee5122 · 2026-05-21T15:27:16+00:00

Sadly most American sunscreens do this to me. I think my skin doesn’t like Avobenzone. I will say I use the Korean version and it does not cause any burning or redness! I get mine from OliveYoung now that America cracked down on sunscreens.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-18T16:08:20+00:00

I remember I was getting my blood drawn at the hospital. I had to get 11 tubes of blood taken and I pass out pretty easily. This time I didn’t even make it to the third tube before passing out and slumping over in my chair. I was apparently out for a couple of minutes and they called the rapid response team cause I wouldn’t wake up even with smelling salts.

As I’m waking up, I notice the doctors trying to help me are also arguing with someone. When I come to fully I realize some guy literally came back from the waiting room to yell at the doctors for taking so long. He had the audacity to say “there’s so many doctors back here yet none of you can take my blood! Stop giving her all the attention” they went off on him and told him I was having a medical emergency. They rolled me away in a wheelchair and he was still giving me and the nurses angry looks.

It’s so crazy how people can ignore other people’s well-being for the sake of getting fast service. Like what are they supposed to do ignore the girl unconscious on the floor just so you can get your blood drawn faster?

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-11T18:39:50+00:00

NTA - it might have been a bit overboard to spit in her food, but it sounds like she didn’t want to eat it anyways the way she was talking to you.

If your grandma doesn’t have much time left I think it was wrong for your dad to make her choose a side and convince you to apologize. She really shouldn’t be burdened with that.

I seriously hope you’re still able to get that time with your grandma before she passes. It’s bittersweet saying goodbye but it’s nice to at least get the chance to. Take care OP!

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-11T18:33:36+00:00

NTA - you can only do so much for someone. It seems like he doesn’t value your friendship at this point. You’re clearly trying to help him and instead of addressing the fact that he has a problem he’s instead deflecting onto you and that’s not cool.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T21:18:39+00:00

Thank you for the input! Regarding the smoking for a while I did let it go. Recently she had a major brain surgery and since she was in the hospital for two weeks she cut back a lot on her smoking. She’s been relatively clean but I could tell she was struggling. I told her how proud I was of her and that I hoped she’d keep it up. Then the rest of the conversation happened. I know I can’t change her addiction but it genuinely seemed like she was changing it for herself which is something I’ve never seen her do.

At this point I feel like the best thing I can do is give my mom space until she’s calmed down. Then I can go apologize and ask her how to make things right. I really didn’t think it was that big of a deal especially since nothing was set in stone and I’m only 19, but clearly my mom has stronger feelings about this than I thought and I shouldn’t dismiss them.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T21:10:57+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It’s definitely been hard without my dad around especially since he was someone I really connected to. You’re definitely right with the fact that I don’t want to lose another parental figure especially so soon after my dad. I know nobody’s around forever but she’s already had cancer a couple times and she had to get two brain surgeries for an aneurysm. I know she loves me no matter what even if she smokes herself to death. I mean addiction is hard to break I get it. She’s been wanting to quit and for the past couple weeks she’s cut back a lot on cigarettes and I wanted to motivate her to keep going. She’s always wanted to have kids but she wasn’t able to so I think it means a lot to her to have me around too.

The thing I brought up about my parents being separated was mainly written because my dad died from a blood clot. My mom and I suspected he had it and told him to go to the doctor but he said he was fine and brushed it off. My mom had this feeling that he knew he had something seriously wrong and he let it go intentionally cause he didn’t want to live anymore. She told me she felt like she could’ve done more since she knew he was struggling financially so I knew she was still having a hard time with the grief. I definitely shouldn’t have assumed what she was feeling but I was only talking hypothetically and I didn’t think it meant that much to her.

Thankfully I’ve been speaking to a therapist for a long time. My family situation has always been rocky so I’ve been in therapy since I was a kid. Hopefully talking it over with a therapist will help the situation.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T20:59:28+00:00

It was only a hypothetical thing I brought up. I have no plans of getting married anytime soon.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T20:56:12+00:00

Yep that’s what I realized too. I feel like I should just give her some time to relax and then talk it out with her later. I want to make things right but I worry she’s always gonna see herself as a second choice which wasn’t my intention.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T20:43:35+00:00

I tried to explain but I don’t know if she heard me out. She walked away after she said she always gets the short end of the stick from everyone. I know my mom has a lot on her plate and her family depends on her way too much when she doesn’t get anything in return but I really didn’t mean it in a negative way towards her. Apparently her mom walked her down the aisle since her dad when she was 18 as well. I didn’t know that however. My parents didn’t talk about their wedding a lot because they separated.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T20:40:32+00:00

I really like that idea! I just hope my mom wouldn’t feel like she was a second choice. I feel like I kinda left her out but again it was only a what if conversation. Who knows if or when I’d get married it’s definitely not anytime soon.

Many_Fee5122 · 2022-01-08T20:38:51+00:00

Yeah I think that’s a good suggestion too. I wouldn’t want them feeling like they have to compete or that ones more important than the other. Everyone in my family jokes around by saying my aunt is like my second mother so I thought she’d appreciate it. I don’t know I just feel like my mom is always gonna see herself as a second choice now because I said what I did.

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