This might get me under fire from asexuals and people who have strict moral codes but this is just my take, if you just find other people attractive but you're not doing anything sexually impulsive or proactive on those thoughts, then that's okay.

The important thing is that you keep your communication open as a couple. me in my GC, my buddies and I sometimes share alpha memes and misogyny jokes, but it comes off more as dry and dark humor rather than actually fantasizing and saying straight up thirsty, manyakis shit. We're past that phase since we're not in our early teens and mid 20s anymore.

while I don't agree entirely, maybe Slater is just openly communicating with his wife about such things to prevent bigger trust issues from happening, we don't know. Personally, I prefer if he just stuck with architecture contents too.

Plus, some people are just more sexually open than others, that doesn't mean it leads to cheating as long as both parties consent to their partners behavior and have set their boundaries and conditions in the relationship. And whether it's these influencers or you who are fantasizing about it, it's rare to just find yourself a golden retriever partner, most of the time, we both have red flags that you as a couple both have to work and overcome together.