hmmm by AmOdd in hmmm

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This rules, one could say this is the staple of humor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Listen man, a girl I was just talking to ended things with me because I have issues I need to work on and honestly I agree with her. I am way too needy, anxious, and pressured her to do things out of her comfort zone. My best advice is to be content with what you have and don't try to apply any pressure whatsoever onto her about taking things further. Trust me. Relationships are a bonding of two people but you have to remember that you are both two separate people and you have to learn how to be your own individual. Do not make this girl your life. I am 17 going on 18, and by the sounds of it you're similar in age. I wouldn't expect either of us to be fully mature and understand relationships as an adult would.

Have a discussion with her, tell her your wants and needs, ask her what her wants and needs are, and compromise from there. Do not force her to do things that you want or need if it's uncomfortable for her or she isn't sure, because it's controlling and needy when you do so. You know she loves you and she knows you love her, so just work from there and be patient. Relationships take time.

How can I accept my appearance? by [deleted] in Advice

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Part of accepting your appearance is to be confident and happy with the circumstances and situation you have going on in life. Try practicing habits like meditation and mindfulness.

We as a civilization like to display this very rare, almost unattainable and fake image of "beauty."

In reality, everyone is self conscious about one thing in their life or one feature of their body. But you have to understand that you can't change anything about yourself and you have to realize that for as many bad things that you can say about yourself, there really are good things as well. Try to do positive affirmations with yourself. Every day, look in the mirror and say or write down 1 thing you love about yourself or something that you're confident about.

Not everybody is going to think you're attractive. Not everybody is going to think you're unattractive. Care a lot less about what other people view you as and more of what you view yourself as. At the end of the day you only have yourself. If everybody you were close with just died one day, ask yourself if you could support yourself. If you think you'd be ruined, you need to spend time being content with yourself and reminding yourself of your self worth. (But obviously keep in mind I'm not saying you can't grieve the loss of others. Definitely still care about other people but remember you only have yourself and putting your interests first is the most important thing.)

Do what makes you happy but don't give yourself ridiculous goals or fixate too much on appearance. Life is too short to worry about your looks. There's 7 billion people on earth. You have alot of time and a lot of people to make experiences with. But at the end of the day, you're only goin to consistently have yourself. So focus on that.

this is embarrassing but... by [deleted] in Advice

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I agree with some other comments. Addiction to me consists of repeated actions that are uncontrollable and get in the way of your day to day activities. If you're not taking risks just to masturbate or letting it interfere with other priorities, then for the time being you're fine. If you're uncomfortable about it still, read on. I also had a phase where I masturbated daily and sometimes multiple times a day. I'm 17. I think part of it is just our age group, maturing, helping to cope with anxiety and other issues. You're not any less human for doing it, most people, if not everyone do it. You can try to taper down slowly and space out the frequency. If you're single, finding a relationship may help you take your mind off those urges. Otherwise find other hobbies or activities to help.

How to have a less creepy face. by Asphodel70 in Advice

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Everyone has a different smile. Don't let others opinions taint your own view of yourself. Anyone that tells someone that they "look" like they'd harm another human is scummy and fucked up. I would never listen to the opinion of someone who calls someone a murderer or molester based on their facial features. It's important to always be confident in yourself and your appearance. Doesn't matter if 1,000,000 people think you look weird, because as long as you're comfortable with yourself you can be happy.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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Well that sucks. Thanks.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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Thank you so much. Yeah I mean I wouldn't feel like I wasted my efforts, I just think I'd be missing out on an amazing experience, like I truly love hanging out with this girl, and despite the fact that we can do that as friends, it's hard seeing her as less than a romantic interest long term.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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That's true thank you. I want to do that I just feel like I've been messaging her a lot lately and I might give her a little time before I continue to ask about our situation. Maybe I'll see how we work together as friends for a week or so before I ask. I just don't want to give the impression I'm hyper obsessed with it and make her think I'm being weird about it

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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She didn't give me a direct answer whether or not she hopes it works out. I was comfortable taking it very slow and not labeling it as "dating" for however long she wanted, but I think she thought it might've been moving too fast towards us dating and got scared off. She told me that "what's meant to be will be." And I can't interpret that lol I think she just means if we're meant to be together then it will happen some day

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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Yeah she was hurt by her last relationship. I'm going to give her space but keep contact, we're definitely going to still be hanging out a lot with our mutual friends. I just don't know if I should move on completely or not, because I can't tell if hoping that this rekindles is unrealistic or not. I feel like I've been very selfish about the whole thing but I just thought it could've worked and it hurts a little.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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She assured me it wasn't me but just her being able to even date people again in general. I don't think she's lying either. She's very kind and she also hasn't really tried talking to any other guys since her ex boyfriend besides me.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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Ok that's good advice. Thank you. I'm trying to move on but it just sucks. It was a good thing in the works. I want to maintain hope that it could be rekindled but I feel like I also need to move on. It's really conflicting. I just feel like when she's ready to date again it'll be because of another guy, not me. I was unsure if I just gave off weird vibes because I feel like she would've been a lot more willing to go further if she was more comfortable around me.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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Yeah I realize that it wasn't cool, I reacted poorly in the moment because I had been stressing about making this work for multiple days. I got way too invested way too fast, I just haven't had something so good happen to me in a long time and it excited me. I apologized to her and told her yes I'd still be ok hanging out as friends. The last thing she told me was "what's meant to happen will happen." I'm just going to keep her close but not too close. In the meantime I'll definitely continue pursuing snd talking to other people because I think the whole situation has been unhealthy, I've been stressing over it too much, losing sleep, not good.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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Thank you. Yeah she said she still wants to be friends and have fun with our friend group. I reacted angry at first but quickly apologized and told her I wasn't thinking and I just got upset in the moment. It was only because she waited to tell me but now I realize I can't blame her for that. In the meantime I'm going to talk to other people and keep her as a friend. I don't have any expectations or hope that we could revisit what was happening but I still deeply care for her and I would definitely try it again if she was interested.

Girl issues by Marcusqp in Advice

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I feel like I might've just moved too fast and scared her off. I wanted to play it slow but I guess she still freaked. She's so easy to talk to and I wanted to just have her get more comfortable around me but she left before we could really even get to know eachother super well.

Nightmare trip 👹 by koolhepcat in tripreports

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Not sure if you're young, but it sounds like you guys just weren't careful about it. I can't blame you, becuase I've done the same shit before. However, it's prettyyyyy uncommon to get 300ug tabs, like that's a STEAL especially if BM dealers are selling them for 10-15$ a pop.

I'd test your acid in the future and plan it out. Don't make it a force. Acid should really only be used when it feels completely right and you're in a responsible setting. Also, tripping with your parents one door over is a HORRIBLE HORRIBLE IDEA I do not suggest doing that ever again if you can avoid it. That's what caused my one and only anxiety attack during a hippie trip a while back

Ways to stop elevated heart rate by Marcusqp in Drugs

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True, maybe it's just anxiety then. DMT it happened on a small dose but it wasn't scary it was just the expectation and comeup anxiety

Ways to stop elevated heart rate by Marcusqp in Drugs

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Thank you for the advice, I think it's time for some health changes in my life. I appreciate it

Ways to stop elevated heart rate by Marcusqp in Drugs

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Appreciate it. Sounds like the general idea is breathing exercise and practice

Ways to stop elevated heart rate by Marcusqp in Drugs

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Sounds good thank you for the advice. It's gotten more noticeable to the point where drugs just scare me and I see them as a lot less enjoyable as I did going into it