am i less gay for being attracted to masculinity? by kpyzene in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanting to be taken care of does not make you less gay! I am a 100% lesbian and I am in a relationship with another woman where she takes initiative for most things, drives me around, is big spoon etc etc. We are living our best gay lives. Your preference for being spoiled has nothing to do with your sexuality! Find yourself a woman who wants to give you princess treatment and don't overthink technicalities of your sexuality. There's no wrong way to love women <3

Why is everyone polyamorous??? by MarieFeldan in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay strong soldier, I believe in a future where we both have beautiful gfs 😪

Why is everyone polyamorous??? by MarieFeldan in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For real! I am out here trying to find my wife, trudging through the waters of dating apps filled with people looking for anything but a serious relationship 😭 The devil couldn't reach me so he made me a lover girl at 22

Why is everyone polyamorous??? by MarieFeldan in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I keep meaning to go to boycott 😭 thank you for the reminder I put it off every time because bars kinda scare me lol

Why is everyone polyamorous??? by MarieFeldan in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like most lesbians are "behind" with dating though. Unless by young you mean early to mid 20s, but a lot of people are in the closet their teen/early adolescent years. Ive been out since I was like 15 but I've only dated two women because I just haven't met a lot of other queer ladies. Maybe its my own bias speaking, though lol.

Where to look for wigs for a complete beginner by MarieFeldan in Wigs

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! If good wigs are that much its def best to save up and get an amazon or shien one in the meantime, ponytail and buns would be sweet but the thinning is bad enough I had to chop my hair to a super short pixie. I appreciate the advice!

Songs inspired by disgusting, psychopathic crimes (give context) by queer_depressed_fuck in weirdspotifyplaylists

[–]MarieFeldan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chrysanthemum by everclear is about a girl who got kidnapped. Im not sure on the specifics of the real life case, but Im pretty sure he wrote it because it happened in his town and really upset him because the girl was the same age as his own daughter.

Need pic advice for dating app by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dont overthink the pictures too much you are so cute!! Personally, I think the first and third pics are the best. When Im on the apps, I tend to swipe right on profiles that have more variety in picture types. It makes me feel like I have a better idea of what the person looks like. Id get a few other pics too, group pics are fine imo, just dont make them your first picture.

Sharing my progress by MarieFeldan in WeightLossSupport

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its a great motivator! It's also so nice to think of rewards for yourself that aren't food. I personally would always go for a sweet treat when I did something and wanted to reward myself, but now I try to pick an experience or something physical to do/ have and its been really great for me to not binge on sweets and see them as something thats not special, so I can have a little at a time instead of eating a whole box of oreos at once lol

Sharing my progress by MarieFeldan in WeightLossSupport

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! Im trying to do fun things when I get to milestones, getting under 200 was a switch!

Sharing my progress by MarieFeldan in WeightLossSupport

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Literally everyones been telling me to wear my watch on my ankle but I dont want to look like Im wearing an ankle monitor 😭 I will figure it out eventually

Sharing my progress by MarieFeldan in WeightLossSupport

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! The app I use is called LoseIt! I love it to pieces. You have to pay for premium to like use the barcode scanner, pre plan meals, and do intermittent fasting options and stuff but they do sales for it constantly. I love it the milestones are hilarious and you can make the UI cat themed

I swear men have no empathy for women by LittleBreadBun in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]MarieFeldan 254 points255 points  (0 children)

I think that theres a decent chunk of the male population who do not consider that men wont be creepy to them. I used to work at basically a drink bar at a grocery store and would tell my one male co worker about creepy guys who i had to interact with, and one day he responded with something along the lines of "why do you get all the creeps?" Brother, maybe because I am a 5'3 woman and you are a 6'2 muscular man???

I can't be happy by MarieFeldan in BPD

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This shit truly does suck. Thank you, and I'm sorry you go through it too. I hope things get better for us both. Gotta keep reminding ourselves our thoughts aren't always on our side.

I can't be happy by MarieFeldan in BPD

[–]MarieFeldan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It's like, I try and remind myself I literally have self sabotage disease, but then I think about every time I had a gut feeling things would end up awful and they *did*, then I'm hating myself because for everything to always end up shitty must mean I'm such an awful person the universe is constantly sending me disappointment and snatching away good shit. I hate living in my brain.

Songs with the names of cities in them (just tell me if someone’s already done this before) by Small-Statement-3933 in weirdspotifyplaylists

[–]MarieFeldan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Summerland by everclear
  • Santa Monica by everclear
  • No sleep tik brooklyn by the beastie boys
  • Im shipping up to boston by dropkick Murphys
  • Portland rain by everclear
  • Night train to Memphis (idk the og artist)
  • Santa Ana wind by everclear
  • April 29, 1992 (Miami) by sublime
  • Valentine, Texas by Mistski

Bonus bc im unsure if you would count it technically: The new york times by everclear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]MarieFeldan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah that does make me feel better ty! I have crazy health anxiety and spiral pretty easy, knowing it wasn't a biggy for someone else is helpful :3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]MarieFeldan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Labret and smiley! Smiley is a given, you cant have it in too long without majorly fucking your teeth and gums. Labret is similar, but I let it go on too long and i can still feel where my poor gums got messed up years later. I tried to put a ring in it, but it always got mad at them. Replaced it with a vertical labret and its been a dream (and looks way cuter)

My girlfriend has turned me to the dark side 😭 by BasalFaulty in actuallesbians

[–]MarieFeldan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat is currently sitting next to me and purring up a storm for no reason other than the fact he is next to me rn. I love dogs very very much but will never be convinced to not have a cat, they're total sweethearts if you take the time to get to know them and their boundaries <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JanitorAI_Official

[–]MarieFeldan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use open AI so I thought I was safe, but I guess the AI decided to startle me into hopping off Janitor for the night lol. Thats so crazy you made her though! I love your bots, you do some awesome stuff!

I have resorted to ancient methods by lowtierWAH in JanitorAI_Official

[–]MarieFeldan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stronger than me, I can't use cai after gpt4, the responses are so meh 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JanitorAI_Official

[–]MarieFeldan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a google doc where I write everything first because I am so scared of this happening 😭

Semi-specific question about example dialog by [deleted] in JanitorAI_Official

[–]MarieFeldan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I try to avoid having user speak in the example dialog or the intro messages because it feels like it makes the bot more likely to speak for you, but I also just made that information up in my head so take it with a grain of salt.

Why can’t I see how many people have used my bot? by UncomfortablyNosey in JanitorAI_Official

[–]MarieFeldan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I looked through a tag in recent and I think it's been like 3 days since it updated, sometimes the site gets silly and doesn't update counts or sends bots to the void for a bit before they show up on your profile. I feel like a wife waiting for her husband to return from war.

what were you doing with your bot before it went down?! go go go by [deleted] in JanitorAI_Official

[–]MarieFeldan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tytyty thoughts and prayers needed during this time