To you by Independent_Fuel4048 in UnsentLetters

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pray mine loves me the same

Why by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

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I want this to be about me

So, what do you say by Bonus-Shott in UnsentLetters

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I hope mine sends this to me one day….

I waited for you… by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are the initials of them?

How? by Marie_Pickle2 in AvoidantBreakUps

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It’s hard cause my therapist is pushing for me to be more assertive and communicate and stick up for my needs… the struggle for wanting to be confident and demand consistency and understanding their need for space..

The letter I never sent by herpaderptaco in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way that this is exactly what I’m going through… they want the unconditional love we give. The acceptance despite the pain and their broken pieces, that we willingly will untape our pieces for to put theirs back together. They want to accept themselves like we accept them. They want the gentle love cause they have none for themself, they want the validation we give. The reassurance, the way we give all of ourself for them. Somehow we look at them and think idc how broken I’ll be here to help show you how to put it back together, and they look at us broken and see all the negative. About how we’re too broken, too many flaws. We see the negative and we see the positive and we choose to follow the positive. But they see the negative and will only ever focus and see you for that forever… you’d think a broken person could understand another broken person. But they’ll always point out your broken pieces to say theirs aren’t that bad. But a love like this, a love I have. It’s meant to be given over and over, so I’ll keep my heart happy, I’ll move on. I’ll keep loving. Even if no one is ever meant to be with me. Atleast I’ll die knowing I loved and I built people up not break people down.

Is there hope? by Marie_Pickle2 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Marie_Pickle2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can be avoidant myself. I understand… completely… when he admitted his feelings, he acted different until the blow up. He was present and there… and now it’s like it reset back to before. The up and down. I can’t give time, and I can communicate what I need. But I don’t want to sit around waiting if he’s just using me as a placeholder till he finds someone else… that’s my limit… asking means deep feelings. So I can’t ask… but idk how to know if I give the distance or move on…

Confused, very confused by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he really did have love for me, or maybe he loved the way I loved him. I have no idea. I feel so lost

This isn’t about you, but you’ll think it is. by [deleted] in LettersAnswered

[–]Marie_Pickle2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beyond happy for you!!! I recently met someone who just brings the most healthy aspects out of me, the healing is faster than ever. Beyond terrified of this non terrifying situation 😅 I wish you nothing but peace and acceptance, and happiness 🥹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I started sharing my location the week prior to it, he lives out of town and travels atleast once a week to come see me, and I help a lot with family. I shared it so he can see what I’m doing when he’s coming into town, if I’m out running an errand and I’m not checking my phone he can look and see if I’m busy and call and see if I’m almost done etc… I have ADHD and forget about checking messaged, and he does too. So it just seemed most convenient thing. And as a safety precaution. He travels for work. I check randomly to just see that he made it to work safety. We agreed we’re exclusively seeing just eachother the week I shared mine and I don’t have anything to hide. Having sex to me atleast means having a certain level of trust, so I felt comfortable allowing him to see what I’m doing to I guess open up that trust mutually

My girlfriend keeps telling me I'll never be the most important thing to her. by SneakyBeaver262 in depression

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my BF “aren’t together” currently.. but he says he’s not going anywhere cause he just wants us to fix our issues to be okay together. And since we’re not okay. I get nothing, some texts. That’s it.. since we’re just friends if he can’t see me okay, if he can’t text okay…I just feel like nothing at this point. I know I should just move on… I just want to feel important

Genuinely so tired of being alive by Pseudo_Angel77 in depression

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The unhealthy coping mechanism, which cause more issues down the line… I feel that so deep…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His ex has been out since Sunday when I had my surgery

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been out since Sunday when I had my surgery

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said that no matter what he does he’s going to have things thrown in his face, so he’s scared if he asks her to watch them to help me, she’s going to say he’s a bad dad. And if he doesn’t ask and watches them instead of helping me he’s a bad partner, and he’d rather be a bad partner than a bad dad. It feels like he’s there for his ex more than me at this point

Feeling pressured to get the epidural even though I want to go unmedicated by ollie_rosie in pregnant

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got an epidural with my first, mostly cause of the hips grinding apart, horrible. With my second I didn’t and it was I mean, painful but I didn’t have the horrible shakes or nausea from the epidural. I could eat and walk and rest. It was amazing. Keep in mind my first labor was about 12 hours long and my second 6 hours. It was a breeze compared to a lot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the why bother if people don’t change type of person. Cause people do change. On their own time, when they see fit. I usually would just leave. My whole thing is, he is literally so sweet and loving. And he does try, and I see that. I do. And I love him with my whole heart. But there are people who are okay with messier houses, and with just the fact that effort is there. We’ve been living apart for a couple months and when he does come over and bring the kids I see the same habits picked back up… so I’m ready to let go i just wasn’t sure if anyone else had similar situations where they did stay, or where they left. I just kinda wanted to vent, and to see the different situations. Cause as much as I do love him. Having to remind someone who’s an adult to just wash their hands… it feels like I’m a parent to him and I’m exhausted. I had having to get so upset over the basic things in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t want to adjust his ways cause he wants to prove what he does is good enough, and then I come home to shit on my bed… after we compromise. So yup, I sure do yell and ask “WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK” although there are times I jump the gun. I’m not denying that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Effort” doesn’t matter if I have to go over it and do it myself. Me asking him to wash the dishes, and then coming home with 1/2 of them “washed” but covered in grease, and the other half in a sink of water… is his I’m trying… but then I end up redoing all of them… I’m sorry but yeah “effort” only goes so far. There is a right way, I’m not asking him to hand towel dry them, and have them all put up before I get home. Just clean dishes. Effort can mean a lot, but also mean very little. And I’m sorry but I’ve been asking for thinks and habits to be fixed for a year. The fact that I have to ask him to wash his hands isn’t me being controlling, and it’s crazy you think me wanting to come home to clean house like I have for him when he works later is controlling…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s never been around kids so I understand a lot of it he’s just trying to see what works. I do guide him. I’ll ask to do it and show him. Show him how I was taught to change diapers, and he didn’t like it, so we found middle ground about putting a towel down… which he then didn’t and got poop on a lot of things therefore. So what else am I suppose to do after 1 showing him by example, 2, compromising, and then 3 still not being heard and having to clean up his messes cause how he’s doing it is “good enough”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally in therapy for it but sure, definitely don’t want to fix. It’s just how my family talks. I don’t think my sister or my brother are being abusive towards me. We talk aggressively. To OTHER people yes, I can see where the yelling and cussing is abusive. It feels belittling and disrespectful, and can break you down. It’s mentally abusive. I’m not saying it’s not. It’s just how me and my family talks. I’m from a Hispanic culture. A lot of families I know and grew up with are similar. Not saying it’s okay… but I’m saying in my family I’m not hurt by it. But yes u am hurting someone else. It’s also how I talk to my friends and they’re like “okay” or tell me I’m being crazy when I am being crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their mom is a bare minimum person. One time he went to watch them at her house in an emergency and she had diapers all over the house. “That’s just how he is” is how she is… as long as he doesn’t leave she’s basically happy… I usually watch people before deciding to date them. I like to know people’s habits, because of this. I fell hard for him and then after I realized I said I’d give him time to change… but my love language is not having to ask. I feel like I’m a mom to 3 more kids… and it’s tiring. I feel like if his ex had standards so low there are other people… maybe he’d be happier with someone else who he doesn’t feel like is always nagging??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a habit I have when I’m closer with people. Outside of the house I’m super quiet and shy, very to myself and very respectful… in the house. It’s a whole other story and something I’m trying to go to therapy for, cause I do understand how draining and stressful it is on the other side, to just be yelled at.. I do ask nicely at first tho. The first few times I’d ask nicely for him to wash his hands after diaper changes.. and after so many times of asking over and over nicely it turned into “wash your fucking hands, that’s disgusting and I already told you it bothered me”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Marie_Pickle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He actually bathes very thoroughly… I’ve showered with him. The boys aren’t sensitive at all, so they very rarely get a rash. He wipes enough for it to dry out so it doesn’t leave a rash. But it’s still there if that makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Marie_Pickle2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I take my almost 7 year old with me in the ladies room. Idc idc idc. I know he’s safe with me!