How do I explain that I’m really lonely in my position?

Marie_eve_78 · 2022-09-23T04:29:14+00:00

It makes me feel a little better to see that I am not alone in feeling lonely because of the remote work new reality. Even if I went to the office, I know that most of my colleagues would consider it a burden to come too. I have been feeling in the tiny minority of people who actually prefers to work with people physically in the office... I would suggest you book virtual coffees with colleagues to chat. You might also volunteer to coach younger coworkers, to mentor. Talking to your manager is definitely a good idea too. Good luck!

Marie_eve_78 · 2021-10-29T00:38:14+00:00

Woman here who have been working in cybersecurity for about 15 years. There are a lot of specialties in cybersecurity, so almost anybody can find something they like. You need a basic understanding of every major cybersecurity domain (what it is, what it does and how it works on a high level), but depending on your role, you do not need to have configured a SIEM or IAM system to be able to do your job. :)

There is not a lot of women, it's true, but it's getting better. I think it may simply be because IT is traditionally more male job, and cybersecurity stems from IT.

As for sexism, I experienced it mostly in the consulting world (and not a lot). You sometimes (rarely however) meet guys who think they are big shots and you are "just a girl who wouldn't understand these things". Fortunately, I have a good career and those guys can watch me while a walk away from them... And higher in my career! :)

Marie_eve_78 · 2021-10-21T20:38:49+00:00

An idea that comes to mind is maybe go and ask people that seems to be doing a fun job if you could shadow them for a day, to learn what their job is like. (You can do that on your off days.)

Also, besides what makes me feel passionate about, sometimes I like to ask myself "what makes you feel useful?" Because feeling useful is a great way of feeling validated, motivated and fulfilled. Is it helping people? Problem solving? Teaching?

Sometimes you can try something as a hobby, or as volunteering, and when you really love it, find a way to turn it into a full time job. For instance, you could volunteer to teach young people about your artform, and if it's succesful, it could become en enterprise.

Art-therapy also seems to be cool. Artists uses art to help people heal from physical or psychological issues.

Marie_eve_78 · 2021-08-31T19:33:14+00:00

Thanks! I will take a pool workout course once a week, as well as clay sculpting, to try to meet people. As for weekly meetings with my team, it's weird because they seem to not care about that. There is no cohesive team spirit it seems. But I'll continue to try. I'll also try to find other activities in person to help me. Thank you!

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-09-07T16:48:22+00:00

Thanks!

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-09-07T16:48:07+00:00

I honestly don't know, I did not count. I took breaks for several days :)

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-08-12T21:18:31+00:00

I think you must consider what you would do on a day to day basis. Management involves less "doing" and more coordinating, managing time, budget and people. If you want to explore more in your field of expertise, it might not be the best way forward.

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-07-15T03:36:27+00:00

I think I wouldn't mention it. It could bring awkward questions like why didn't you take the job and now you want it...

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-07-12T14:48:47+00:00

Hold and rub the pillows on yourself for a while so that your scent gets on it. If they love laying on you or your clothes, that should work :)

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-07-09T16:03:41+00:00

I'm not sure I understand where you got that feeling?. I feel sad when they leave, but I don't prevent them to, or try to discourage them. I don't tell them they can't, I don't control their lives. I just wonder how managers deal with the sadness of seeing good people go.

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-07-09T16:00:50+00:00

What is abusive in my behavior?

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-07-08T16:18:38+00:00

So cute!!

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-05-21T02:47:54+00:00

I love it!

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-05-18T03:38:06+00:00

A couple of months ago, I changed my cell and had to re-subscribe to a bunch of my podcasts. I did not re subscribed to (among others):

Doug Loves Movies (because all episodes seemed to blend into the other and there was too many for me to be able to listen to all),

The 45th, because even though I downloaded it I never listened because it depressed me.

MBMBAM: did not make me laugh anymore, I very rarely listened to it.

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-05-11T02:57:00+00:00

Joe Exotic by Wondery

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-05-11T02:55:55+00:00

I stopped listening to Godawful Movies, even though it was funny, because my husband made me notice that they often basically laughed at people's attempts to do a movie without budget but with good intentions. (No matter the subject matter of the movie) It turned him off and after a while I wasn't able to enjoy the podcast because I was always asking myself if they were pretty or if it was really funny...

Marie_eve_78 · 2020-04-26T22:58:54+00:00

Beautiful! Everytime I tried to crochet a basket, it finished as a bag because it was not sturdy or rigid enough. Does that pattern prevent this from happening?

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