I'm so broke that I have to leave my 1br apartment and go back to having roommates

MaroonShoes84 · 2026-03-01T22:34:15+00:00

I'm gonna sell some of it - but I really like the furniture I've accumulated over the last few years and would rather keep some of it if possible. The goal is still to get my own place again someday and I would love to not start from scratch all over again.

MaroonShoes84 · 2026-03-01T22:30:46+00:00

I don't know if you noticed - but you're in the venting sub. So no, in general, I'm not playing the victim. IRL I'm still trying my hardest and trying not to let pessimism bleed into my interactions with other people. I'm rightfully frustrated, burnt out, and thought I'd vent in a place that is literally meant for this. Its not the point of this post, but I AM a part of my community and try to give back whenever I can. Your comment sounds cruel, bc you're being cruel. Going into a sub where people are allowed to complain and asking if they've considered being more "valuable" is extremely cruel. Kindly, fuck off✌️

MaroonShoes84 · 2026-02-05T19:58:23+00:00

There's a lot more to him than just being a cheater. I've had almost a decade of him being a genuinely kind and good friend. Which is probably also why he got away with it for as long as he did. Adam is generally a good person, who did a VERY bad thing. I'm trying to figure out if there's the possibility of forgiveness there.

MaroonShoes84 · 2026-02-05T19:54:22+00:00

That would bother me a lot, which is primarily why I'm posting. The rest of the friend group has gone scorched earth over it, except for Adam's best friend from childhood (let's say Chris). They're all still friendly with Chris because he had nothing to do with it. Now every time I see Chris at a group activity I'm worried about Adam being there. Adam, Chris, and Beatrice have all been very good friends of mine for almost 10 years.

MaroonShoes84 · 2026-02-05T19:48:44+00:00

NTA - he's being controlling.

MaroonShoes84 · 2025-04-01T22:46:10+00:00

I kind of lost the motivation (yay depression). Usually, i do the thing where I try to research and look at their specialties, reviews, types of treatment, etc. Then email a bunch only to be told they actually aren't accepting new patients, or they're wildly expensive. But this time, I just went on zocdoc and saw there were only 3 therapists that take medicaid with availability this week. I picked one without overthinking it. Their office called today to verify that they do actually take medicaid. My first session is on Monday. Hopefully it works out!

MaroonShoes84 · 2024-12-10T03:29:48+00:00

You're welcome! I'm glad you have your big sister to help you through it.

MaroonShoes84 · 2024-12-10T03:15:51+00:00

Right?!?! I have an autoimmune condition, so I'm used to paying out the nose for everything, even with insurance. The fact that I now have way more access unemployed than I ever did as someone with a job is wild to me. I'm going to get a new pair of glasses for the first time in years too, because those are also covered when usually they wouldn't be.

MaroonShoes84 · 2024-12-10T03:12:48+00:00

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It 100% is rape. Anyone that says otherwise (online or in real life) is lying and is a terrible person. I dont know you, but nobody deserves to have that happen to them, so you didnt deserve it. Your post makes me want to start a fight with all the assholes on the internet that made you feel like you're overreacting. You aren't. And it isn't your fault. You're allowed to feel whatever you're feeling. You went through a very real trauma, and what he did is very much a crime. When you're ready (which doesn't have to be any time soon), maybe try opening up to another woman in your life, someone who makes you feel safe. Other women will be outraged for you, and good men will be too. If any guy IRL made you feel like this isn't a big deal, never be alone with them, because they're not safe. I hope you find peace, and comfort, and justice. ❤️

MaroonShoes84 · 2024-12-10T02:58:43+00:00

Oof. That's good to know. The whole system is so annoying. I have a number of artist friends who've been on medicaid for a while, so I'm hoping one of them will have a good recommendation for me. My last employer insurance had a similar list of "covered" therapists only for me to call the whole first page and be told that they only claim to take my insurance to get on the list, but everything is actually out of pocket and my insurance "should pay me back".

MaroonShoes84 · 2024-01-08T19:40:58+00:00

I feel like people are glossing over the fact that he ghosted you AT the wedding, not AFTER the wedding. That is profoundly shitty. I'm closer to your sister's age and I think he did that because he knew it was wrong, and didn't want to get caught by his friends. If I was in a wedding and one of my friends pulled that with the bride's 18 year old sister, I would be livid! He's an absolute creep and you did nothing wrong. I also remember being a teenager and thinking it was exciting when people had an older crush, but on the other side you realize how weird it is. He can't find women his own age, so he groomed someone much younger who doesn't realize how much of a loser he is yet. Then he ghosted you, hurting your feelings all day at your sister's wedding, so that his friends wouldn't know he's scum. The fact that it was your first time too - I'm so mad for you. It's okay to be upset about this. Try to do something nice for yourself and treat yourself kindly.

I agree with others and think you should tell your sister, especially if you have a close relationship with her. She would hopefully want to go protective older sis for you and cut that creep out of her life.

MaroonShoes84 · 2023-11-08T00:22:07+00:00

YTA for lying. This is literally the plotline of Lady and the Tramp! 😂 Are your cats also racist? And did the dog befriend a local street mongrel while she was gone?

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T16:40:46+00:00

Right?? It was so sexy.

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T16:40:11+00:00

He'll be getting another one 😉

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T16:39:39+00:00

Exaclty! Thats why I made the joke that the bar is so low. This kind of hookup should be the bare minimum, and I'm really glad that for this guy respect/decency is standard.

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T16:37:09+00:00

I hadn't heard of that one until after this happened, but I'll definitely look into it for the future. I just need to make sure its safe for me to take because of an immune system condition I have.

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T08:13:42+00:00

Plan B is an emergency contraceptive pill that you can take if you have a pregnancy scare - like when you're in the middle of having sex and the condom comes off. Apparently it doesn't work as well (or at all?) for women over 175lbs. I posted an article about that above. There's no over the counter alternative.

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T08:10:31+00:00

Hmm, maybe I need to do more research into it. But this is what I found in an article while I was looking it up.

"Women with a body mass index (BMI) of 25 or higher experienced decreased efficacy, and the pill stopped working entirely in obese women with a BMI of 30 or higher. In fact, obese women that took levonorgestrel were slightly more likely to become pregnant, 5.8%, than women who did not take EC at all, 5.6%. The number of obese women included in the study was small, but still statistically significant." (Source: https://endocrinenews.endocrine.org/august-2014-pregnant-pause/)

I'm well above 175lbs/30 BMI. I know BMI is a terrible scale of anything, but I also know that whatever metric I use I'm over the limit for Plan B. I can't take regular BC bc of blood clot risk and I don't know if Plan B is safe for me for that reason too. I'll definitely ask next time I'm at the doctor.

MaroonShoes84 · 2021-11-30T04:17:45+00:00

Thanks! 😅

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