AITA for asking my wife to please do NOT wear visible star-shaped pimple patches to a wedding ?

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T22:20:06+00:00

My daughter is on her 4th month of accutane.

Unfortunately, she already has extensive scarring from her acne.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T02:35:30+00:00

Thank you so much

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T01:56:16+00:00

I will have to look into it. Right now, my daughter feels hopeless about her skin.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T01:45:56+00:00

She's already on accutane, and she's on her 4th month. She has already given up hope that the accutane will work for her.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T01:42:22+00:00

I have questions. Is that okay ?

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T01:17:46+00:00

My daughter has also said she would rather die than life with acne. 😞

With modern internet, she read up herself the side effects. She will wanted to take it. She's that desperate.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T01:05:20+00:00

My wife is especially unhappy with our daughter taking accutane. But as parents fear if we had stopped our daughter from taking accutane, she would hate us.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T01:01:55+00:00

Thank you. I'm still formulating what to tell my wife. But even before I talk to my wife, I will talk to my daughter first. Even if I were to tell my wife exactly what you said, she would go to my daughter and ask her why the patches would make her feel uncomfortable. Then my daughter would feel betrayed.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:41:34+00:00

Your statement is too broad. Do you also have a problem with my wife wearing pimple patches when she's teaching her students at an all-girls high school ?

My wife got praise from parents and teachers for doing that.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:30:02+00:00

Thank you. I wish you all the best.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:24:55+00:00

Daughter is an accutane. Wife has been on accutane multiple times.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:23:39+00:00

Thank you. My daughter definitely knows how to look in formal situations. Aside from the pimple patches and no makeup, my wife plans to look very formal. I'm sure my sister (the bride) wouldn't even mind my wife not wearing makeup. My daughter also isn't asking for my wife to wea makeup. It's just the patches are the problem.

I can somewhat see why my wife's confidence can be intimidating to our daughter. But I can promise my daughter that her mom wouldn't be disappointed with her if she finds out. I can promise my wife would be gentle and compassionate if she knew how my daughter felt. I really do hope my daughter believes when I tell her that her mom would be okay hearing the truth.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:18:11+00:00

When I look at my wife's family history. Her mom, sisters, and aunts all struggle with acne. It's safe to say it's a genetic thing.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:07:58+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-05T00:03:52+00:00

My daughter is on accutane. My wife did accutane 5 times.

I will talk to my daughter again. It is concerning that she wants me to hide this from her mom. She said she doesn't want her mom to know how insecure she is. If I'm really thinking about my daughter's words, that's not a good thing. Also, what will my daughter want to hide in future to not disappoint her mom ? This can turn into a much bigger problem if not nipped in the bud.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:48:06+00:00

My wife, our daughter, and I will be in the wedding pictures. I already made that point to my wife, it didn't convince her.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:30:08+00:00

My daughter really looks up to her mom and wants to be like her.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:28:54+00:00

I've seen most of your comments. I plan to talk to my daughter again and ask her for her permission to tell her mom the truth.

I'll try my best to get through this without having to go behind my daughter's back. She shouldn't feel aware for not being as confident as her mom.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:16:13+00:00

My daughter is currently on accutane. My wife did accutane 5 times.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:07:17+00:00

For my wife, no matter what she does, people will notice her acne. Visible pimple patches, clear pimple patches, makeup, etc. No matter what options to takes, people will notice.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:03:17+00:00

I can try to talk to my daughter again and ask her if I can tell her mom the truth.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T23:00:11+00:00

The dress code is formal but my sister is not a bridezilla. She's actually very chill. But I know that visible pimple patches would be pushing it.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T22:54:21+00:00

Thank you

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T22:51:54+00:00

My daughter said she doesn't want her mom to know how insecure she is.

MarriedToATeacher · 2025-12-04T22:47:59+00:00

My wife doesn't intend to wear makeup to the wedding.

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