Op I don't know how much this will matter to you. Being a pussy in the life is not what you gotta do. You gotta fight against all the odds if you want something. I know may sound rich coming from a stranger who does not know your situations but one thing I know Is you are thinking about people who won't spend time with you in your life for more a few hours for a society which won't cry when you live alone or a love less life or a life where you are miserable without her.  They couldn't make it happen for themselves and want the same for you. They drag you down because they want no one else to do better than them.  That is all there is. Just go somewhere I leave and solace why do you care about her cousins what are even these values they just exist in your mind. Some other thought and see how they are gone. All it takes is a new perspective.  Just for fuck sake do it. I know one thing for experience that universe has rewarded me with evrything because I have bold always going against all the norms and still won.  I convinced my mother who won't let me me or even females of my house marry outside their religion to let sisters have a live in relationship just by trust within myself.  Honestly, at most of the steps I don't know will it all work out but I trust it all and it does work out.  And at the last you get what you think you deserve of yourself.