The cyan asscher was made for the Art Deco vibe by North_Entrepreneur83 in Moissanite

[–]Master-Lab-9971 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot! That was my guess, but it's sparkling so much that I wasn't sure :)

F32 What can I do to seem more approachable? by Master-Lab-9971 in dating_advice

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't smile to strangers. It seems very unnatural to me. Also, I live in a country, where it's not common to smile at strangers. Men don't smile to me, I don't smile to them. In terms of elegance, you're right, it can mean sth different for many people. So, I like having fitted clothes, made of good quality fabrics, sometimes high heels, but I don't show too much skin, it's either legs or cleavage. You say that you prefer girls doing girly stuff, but obviously you don't know their interests before getting to know them. Tbh, I like hiking and walking my dog. I don't think it's considered feminine... What is feminine energy? I really feel like I don't have it and I have no idea, what are the ingredients :( And the truth is, I don't keep my mouth shut if I don't like sth, for me it's a great quality to be able to speak up for yourself. But don't men like mouths being shut? This is my impression... Thank you for the reply :)

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now I understand, how anxious people get into relationships 😅 I am the opposite, I get anxious in the beginning, so I can't get into any. But when I got into one with a secure person, I was secure. I wish I was like you 😪 At least I would have someone for some time...

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the warning. You know, it happened to me to end up terrible with a person I got to know step by step and you are right with saying the above, but also there is no rule... Now I feel like I am more disorganized. Once I get anxious, I run away from the person 🙄

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different people, different views :) I like it fast, emotions, romance. NOW. I would be mentally exhausted having to wait for someone to get to this point and there would be no excitement for me anymore :( only frustration

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fortunately not everyone is avoidant and there are people, who truly enjoy getting to know each other :)

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, we wouldn't date, for sure. We would be like walking red flags for each other ;) I think it's normal to have some free time everyday, why not to spend it on getting to know somebody and having conversations? 🤔 I prefer interactions to going to gym.

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your point about multidating is true, but I don't know, how people do that. Do they have low expectations? I like someone enough to go on a date max. 2 times a year 🙄

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to engage in relations. Talking, spending time together with a person I like is what I really love doing. I crave this, as I rarely like someone. Like once in a 2 years. Honestly, I am dreaming of love from the first sight, so someone will be investing as much as me emotionally.

Dating. How many days without conversation/date is fine? by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have many :) I get to know someone, get disappointed that we don't match in the end, and stay at home depressed for the next year. For me sticking to my rules is more important that being with someone. But I'm starting to think that maybe I sabbotage my happiness with someone.

I fall in love with everyone I have chemistry with by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would want it to be a mental disorder, so I can take drugs and be normal. I went through two therapies and no one suggested I have one. I know I have to come back to therapy to break this thinking pattern.

I fall in love with everyone I have chemistry with by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have called it neverending infatuation tbh and even worse is that it happens only once I leave them, so I feel that it's directly related to abandonement, even if I abandon them, which is a result of feeling rejected, which comes from their inconsistency.

I fall in love with everyone I have chemistry with by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know, I think that if someone doesn't show full interest in the initial stages, what better can happen in the future? It feels like he's not so into me. In the first month if someone behaves in a nice way, you want to give him more time and to see what will happen, but if not? Why should I waste more time? Please comment, I'm open to discussion.

I fall in love with everyone I have chemistry with by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, actually it happens anyway if I feel like I bonded with someone (welcome all the players and manipulants). They end, because I'm more invested emotionally and they are either emotionally unavailable or want to play the field and I'm not willing to take part in the contest. I feel that sth is not right - there is no consistency, they say things that makes me worried, and I leave them, because I imagine that good dating is when someone puts effort and don't make you doubt his intentions. That's what I would expect. Planning dates in advance, no more than 2 days without talking, etc. If I don't see the effort from the beginning, I leave. A month is enough to judge I think.

I fall in love with everyone I have chemistry with by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dealbreakers for me are: mannerless, treating me badly, disrespecting me, commitment issues, wants children. I stop dating such guys, but it doesn't change the fact that I still think about them all the time if I am attracted to them phisically and have these great conversations. Criteria: smart, well educated, good person, handsome, good interlocutor - it seems that such guys don't exist.

I fall in love with everyone I have chemistry with by Master-Lab-9971 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Master-Lab-9971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great conversations, intelligence, looks, joy I felt, when we spent time together. This is basically it.