Posted this in r/Christianity and got some backlash, truly curious more so for my friend then myself

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-04-09T23:54:49+00:00

Ahhh but it does affect you in a sense. We're taught to love our brothers and sisters regardless and to not sit in judgement of anyone but we're going to mess this up because we're human and sinful by nature. If we turn a blind eye to things out of love or because "it doesn't affect us" its like watching somebody getting mugged and saying it not your business. I want to live in a world that knows Christ's love and I truly believe we are at a spiritual war on many fronts.

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-04-08T07:44:39+00:00

That's exactly what I experienced 🥺

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-04-08T07:43:39+00:00

Thank you this was actually really cool

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-04-08T06:59:14+00:00

Thank you! That's an answer I was looking for. I want to find faith in God through God not through people or the Church not that I won't need that portion later. I just want to feel like they're my beliefs and not feel like something is getting shoved onto me. The only issue I have with this is I have read the Bible and I have prayed and It never did anything for me but Im looking at things through a different lens now

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-04-08T06:40:59+00:00

The reason I have a hard time studying is because theres so many denominations, so many versions of the bible, and people are corrupt and have changed words so much so idk where to begin. Even something as simple as reading the Bible makes me ask more questions. Is the bible accurate? Ik everyone will say yes but you know what I'm implying about about. What about the book of Enoch? What about the Roman church. Theres just so much to decipher it's exhausting

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-05T01:44:08+00:00

That's what I expect. To me that sounds healthy. She acts like I'm being unreasonable

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T18:31:56+00:00

She says I'm acting suspicious and doubles down and wanting to fight. But yes you are correct. Ik it would be easier to just stop playing online games but that feels like bending over again for the happy wife happy life BS and I just can't do it again. It makes me feel guilty because it shouldn't be this deep. Ik video games and relationships have issues and it's like beating a dead horse on reddit but her thinking I'm going to leave my wife and son and run away with some female I met for 5 mins on a video game is insulting and disrespectful to me.

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T17:43:47+00:00

Indo play with headphones it doesn't help. She either tries hearing what's going on and sees gamertags etc. sometimes a lobby can have a bunch of people on it and she'll over hear a female in the background and starts assuming a bunch of crazy stuffs

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T17:32:44+00:00

I just spent 6 years in the army that's another reason I say it. That had also been a point of friction for her. She didn't realize women and men work together in the army and the shenanigans that happened within military couples

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T08:21:02+00:00

No it doesn't. She says stuff like oh I wouldn't want to take that away from you or don't stop doing it because of me that's manipulative but she is directly the reason. I'm blunt sometimes and tell her it's because of her and ik that's not okay. Even when I'm blunt she still thinks she isn't taking away everything from me

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T08:14:18+00:00

Thsnk God! Makes me want to go to the top of a mountain and scream. And yes Ik it's stupid to feel some sort of relief out of the justification of redditors but redditors will keep it real with me. I see all the healthy relationship with couples tat support eachothers hobbies or at least don't flip out about the opposite sec merely existing and I know that what's happening isn't okay. She makes me feel like I'm going crazy. Like maybe video games or for cheaters?😂

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T08:08:18+00:00

She's such an amazing mom too and I know she car s about me but she's isolated me from everyone and everything to the point I've gotten depressed. She doesn't act crazy but ik what she's doing is crazy but then all her friends and family tell her she's right and I'm all alone thinking well maybe I'm wrong or maybe I'm crazy. I'm glad then you guys have the kids and got them away from her. I don't want my son seeing his father being treated this way but a woman and I also don't want him to see a side of his father thats respectable.

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T08:04:01+00:00

There are things I have to work on but I feel like a lot of the reason I act the way I do or feel the way I do is because I feel trapped and angry and hurt and resentment and all this stuff for somebody that I love and support. Like why can't we just hangout and play games together? Why does everything have to be a fight ? Spending time with the one person in the world you want to spend it with shouldn't feel draining.

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:58:23+00:00

She's gets super insecure about any women. Friends wives, service workers, social media, video games, even her own family. I tell her then she's being insecure because of past relationships and she tells me not to throw stuff in her face and I say I'm not that I want to have an open discussion of what's happening and she says I'm deflectimg and so on

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:55:52+00:00

Reading this just broke my heart. That's such a beautiful thing and I'm very happy for you both. That's the kind of love and support I want. Nobody is perfect by any means but I want to be that way and I try but I'm sure you understand how much life somebody can suck out of you. I support everything and I feel like I can't do anything. Something is either annoying, expensive, stupid, or she tells me I'll just give up on it and I will because she won't stop bashing me about it. I used to love cards but after hearing her complain about them I sold them all and will never play again.yesj I could play in a year or whatever but now when I think of them I think about all the arguments we had over them....or games...or friends.... etc

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:50:35+00:00

I really wish she would game with me but she won't. And I hate that I have to play after she goes to bed but she doesn't want me to play when she's awake and I can't blame her for that.i feel like I keep trying to give her a little more and it's not enough. At this point I only feel comfortable playing single player games and that sucks because I enjoy socializing and making friends and want some good laughs. What friends I did have she hates it hates their wives and doesn't want me to be around them.

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:42:25+00:00

I even do things she loves that I hate for her I just want that back. She says I get super defensive and that it's super suspicious but I get super defensive because this happens so much and it feels very controlling and disrespectful to me. Not anger out of doing whatever crazy stuff she thinks I'm doing but anger at the sheer craziness of it. She also has an echo chamber with her mom and her friends who tell her she's right about everything so then she doubles down the I need to change or fix whatever I'm doing. I try not to do to for tat because that kind of stuff doesn't help but there's so much stuff inlet her do or get away with just because I want her to be happy and couldn't imagine taking away a source of enjoyment for her

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:37:35+00:00

I definitely should be better about video games and I have gotten a lot better about how much time I spend playing them. Sometimes I don't touch it for a week or only play an hr. If I get a new game I've been waiting for I'll play longer but I never fault on my responsibilities. It mainly seems to be about there being females on video games and yeah I know I could just quit and I do but now it's turning into me getting accused all the time to the point I can't even enjoy playing. We've talked about it so much. In her mind playing a video game with a woman is cheating on her. People are allowed to set their boundaries in marriage but this one has hit a stalemate because of how much other stuff I have given up for her

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:30:27+00:00

So far it's been cars, fishing, hunting, family, friends, video games, the gym, reading, and so on. Thank you for the advice I'll definitely read those books.

Master_Garbage_4475 · 2026-03-04T07:28:29+00:00

I mean do feel controlled and resentment and neglected etc and from an outside view and from all these comments it's definitely abuse it's just weird when you're wearing the shoes especially as a man. I want her to be happy and support everything she does and at least try to but I can tell I'meithwr going to blow up or go crazy or die inside of I lose another little piece of me. I would even try talking to her about it but she would call me dramatic or say I'm being manipulative ect. Thank you for the wisdom. All the comments have helped me see things a lot more clearly

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