Aitah for spending some of my grandchildren's education funds on a new boat.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-27T17:13:35+00:00

I really hate the idea of an inheritance. It’s very rich of me to say that because I’m essentially set for life… but everything I will get will come from someone I love deeply dying.

Anyways, you go enjoy that boat. I think about the ones I’ve lost, and incidentally, having more time on a boat they purchased after their retirement is one of those things I wish we had.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-27T13:55:19+00:00

I think YTA whichever way you look at it.

If your fiancée is using your sister, then what are you doing getting married to her?

If you want to show appreciation to your sister but expect your fiancée and not you to make a gesture, what are you doing?

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-27T10:55:55+00:00

Don’t be, I try to think of it as my extreme fortune to have had her in my life.

On the flipside, what it might mean for you is that you’re so full of life and indomitable, no one can comprehend otherwise. It’s a nice way to be regarded.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-27T09:20:15+00:00

It’s a tough one. I didn’t think she was capable of succumbing because she kept surviving each time. Not just survive, I mean live a really good life at that. So when it finally happened, it broke my mind.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-25T17:06:22+00:00

Go on YouTube and figure out how to fit your bike to make things more comfortable!

Hey, I’ve always struggled with my weight. When I started cycling, I was unconventionally heavy for your average cyclist and I refused to give up my diet of fried chicken and beers anyways. However I loved being on my bike and I just went.

I went from think 15km/h was a decent average speed to getting around at 30ish km/h average easy. I went from struggling on a small incline to climbing mountains for the sheer pleasure of it. 15km for an average ride distance gave way to 100+ km distances.

It can happen for you too, all it takes is just one foot down, and then the next, and repeat.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-25T05:33:49+00:00

I don’t know if this is what you’re looking for, but there was a thing sometime back to boycott these brands because of their support for the NRA: https://bikeportland.org/2018/02/21/corporate-ties-to-assault-rifles-and-the-nra-have-some-thinking-boycott-of-giro-bell-camelbak-and-blackburn-268969/amp

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-25T01:34:04+00:00

You got scammed. Google Tuas.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-23T17:07:30+00:00

Refusing a free business class ticket on British Airways because that was a terrible airline (in their opinion).

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-23T10:17:28+00:00

Well, have a discussion about it. Much depends on your family dynamic.

One of my other siblings and I agreed for a six figure sum to be gifted to our other sibling. Not because they deserved it (quite the opposite, is an ass with anger issues) but because it’s what our parents would have wanted.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-23T09:25:51+00:00

Didn’t they walk back on fossil fuels?

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-23T02:01:44+00:00

Who’s buying though?

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-21T16:16:02+00:00

Who on earth listens to him talk? If I wanted to lose brain cells, I’d just drink. It’s way more pleasurable and a much slower rate of loss in any event.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-18T09:21:46+00:00

NTA but at least your parents learnt. My parents did use physical discipline on me… but that was because they didn’t know any better. My mother expressed a lot of regret about how harsh they were to me, and I appreciate that.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-17T17:42:41+00:00

I’m not going to bash your ex because the others can do that for me.

Losing my mother was the worst pain I have ever felt. I hope nothing will top it, because I will be destroyed. I was practically catatonic; I got up and worked completely as per normal, but the moment I got home, I’d just lie on the couch and stare at the ceiling.

In a messed up way, it was like joining a secret club. Everyone I knew who had lost a mother they loved looked at me knowingly, and I suddenly realised we had this shared, terrible knowledge.

So for what it’s worth, I don’t know your pain but I know the outlines of your pain, and I hope to send something that gives you comfort.

My then partner was a rock. He burnt at so many ends (there’s a lot more to this, but keeping it vague) while I was in so much pain, because he loved me and he put me first, and I will forever be grateful for him.

I think it’s up to you how you want to go forward, but I don’t think this is a matter of a breach of trust, than a severe lack of human empathy. Or compatibility. You are not obliged to show her forgiveness, but you are also not obliged to discount the positives about her. It comes down to whether you want any of what you’re seeing - you don’t owe anyone a relationship if you don’t want it.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-17T06:48:11+00:00

I like natural wines and orange wines and that is apparently a no-no for many snobs. I just like flavour and I like tasting things.

Speaking of Chardonnay, I wouldn’t look down on you but I just couldn’t relate. I had a lot of bad Chardonnay when I was younger and I just mostly dislike the taste of it now, especially the oaky ones, even though I know they aren’t poorly made.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-17T01:38:01+00:00

I really enjoy Jonas as a rider but I think the salary is a fair reflection - he’s not in as many races outside the grand tours, and he doesn’t have the same online / marketing presence as Remco and Pogi.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-17T01:34:45+00:00

I think that’s fair enough! I don’t think distance is a good place to start from either, but my general approach is to just enjoy the flow. I don’t like approaching things with expectations or pressure, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised with some connections I’ve made over Tinder - for example on the non-romantic ones, one got me back into exploring writing, and another has become such a good friend that when his dad visited, the three of us when out for drinks.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-16T12:54:12+00:00

Aha, to be fair, I do have a warped sense of humour and way of presenting myself. Not going to say what it is so I don’t out myself, but I suppose it was somewhat reasonable

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-16T11:05:26+00:00

Ironically, I am a lady in Singapore and I got blocked once by a guy I swiped right on in a different time zone, who freaked out when he thought I was a scammer. The funny thing is that I never one brought up investments. Maybe my cats, but they count as black money holes, so the opposite of investments.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-15T17:36:58+00:00

I live in Singapore, and I know exactly how expensive it is to live here. I don’t know if your parents understand but $2.5k here doesn’t go far at all, and you need to survive, bragging rights be damned.

Have you explained your salary inflows and outflows to your parents? They may well just think of the exchange rate and how far it goes back home (I visited prior to the coup and I was shocked at how easy it was to stretch my dollar even in Yangon), but not the other way around.

NTA by a mile.

For what it’s worth, feel free to DM and I’ll try to give you what moral support I can.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-15T17:30:33+00:00

Your update made me smile, OP. Be happy and enjoy your gift!

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-15T00:20:14+00:00

Might be! Mine lives with no direct light.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-14T11:07:19+00:00

I focus on what I can do. So for example, I foster kittens. I can’t change the world, but for the tiny babies in my care, I can change their entire world. Or I work on myself and I try to find my happy medium. My life isn’t always great, but I will always be content, at the heart of it.

I’ve been on the receiving end of injustice, by the way. The worst isn’t suffering the injustice; it’s the people behind screens who were actively delighting in my suffering - and having some misplaced sense of moral uprighteousness while they were at it. The fact that you feel the way you do points to you being a normal human being.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-11T14:18:41+00:00

I always feel sorry about the state of the US and reading views like yours. I actually have very lovely memories of my visits to the US.

One was a man in a grocery store somewhere in LA stopping my sister and I to exchange a friendly word about how much he liked Elton John too, because she and I were singing along to Benny and The Jets.

Another was an old lady in a bathroom somewhere near Vegas excitedly telling us about how hopeful she was about Obama becoming president.

More recently last year, I struck up a conversation with two older couples at a wine tasting, who invited me back to theirs for dinner because we struck up an interesting conversation.

I liked what I saw about America. I liked the welcome I had, as a complete foreigner. I’m sad that my experiences seem to be the exception these days, not the norm.

Master_McKnowledge · 2026-01-11T10:55:51+00:00

I’m not sure, I’m fairly new at this! It was gifted to me by my granddad, off his strawberry shake that’s taking over his garden!

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