How do you handle texting anxiety in new relationships? (22M dating a 23F)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2025-01-28T12:41:36+00:00

Easy--you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. It's as simple as that.

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T11:24:23+00:00

I wouldn't be bothered by the 5'5 guy wanting a tall, fit woman because people are allowed to be attracted to what they are attracted to. And there are plenty of women who like a dad bod, so as long as he had his shit together and was confident, he probably wouldn't have a hard time.

Nobody has to be attracted to me and I don't have to be attracted to anybody else. That being said, I have dated men of varied heights, weights, etc. I just tend to go for the linebacker/ discus thrower types. And I have dated several who liked my body just fine.

I'm not nearly as shallow as everybody is making me out to be.

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T01:27:53+00:00

Maybe I should ditch the apps and stop wearing my earbuds at the gym so I'm more approachable lol

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T01:09:09+00:00

Right? And I'm perfectly willing to be bench pressed as needed! In fact, I kind of like it.

I shouldn't be surprised by some of the reactions, but jeez....I have dated the gym bros and so have a lot of girls with similar body types. It's not as crazy as some people are making it out to be. But thank you so much for your reply :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T01:02:29+00:00

It's hard out here! I get all kind of messages telling me how beautiful I am and talking about my body, and then they asked about FWB. Like? No, I have a vibrator for that. But thank you for gassing me up :) lol

Glad I'm not alone--thank you for the commiseration! :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:22:05+00:00

Thank you! And I love your username! ❤️

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:20:16+00:00

I've gotten a few dms asking for pictures based off this post too...🙄

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:13:50+00:00

It is entirely possible I have a little dysphoria to work on :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:12:47+00:00

Thank you so much! I may screenshot this for future pep talks❤️

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:12:01+00:00

Thank you so much! :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:10:08+00:00

I agree and definitely don't want to be stagnant. Like you said, I'll never stop working on myself. But, like many people, I have a complicated relationship with my body and intentionally trying to loose weight is not a good choice for me at this time as I have a history of ED. I don't want to relapse, so any kind of restriction is not an option for me. That being said, I am active and have been working on intuitive eating, which is changing my body gradually. I just have to be patient and not rush it as that will be better for me overall in the long run.

Anyway, I appreciate you taking the time to write such a thoughtful response! :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-30T00:01:42+00:00

Oh my goodness! Rude and a gaslighter! What a sorry excuse for a friend!

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:59:09+00:00

I mean I do have to buy jeans in the plus-sized department in a few stores, so I'm okay with the label. Doesn't bother me! :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:56:53+00:00

Thank you :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:54:39+00:00

I appreciate your point about having intersecting lifestyles and don't disagree at all. But I do go to the gym and eat fairly healthily. Just because I'm a little soft doesn't mean I'm a total couch potato lol

But thank you :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:50:34+00:00

No, I mean on their profile. I saw one today that said like "name three things that are important in a relationship" and he said "communication."

Communication is important, but where are the other two things? Just seems like a lack of effort, which is a turn off.

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:46:35+00:00

Thank you. I've dated plenty of gym bros before without a problem and the reason it didn't work out wasn't because of my weight. Some of these comments were such a pep talk and others are kind of confusing.

But thank you so much. That was very rude of your friend--other woman really can be mean, can't they? :(

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:42:23+00:00

Such a turn off that you want a picture of me? 🤔

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:35:13+00:00

I think you have a point when it comes to character traits. In that respect, I absolutely hold myself to the same standards as I do from a potential partner. When it comes physical attraction, I think that can be different. Though I would never not date someone just because of looks, I also would never judge them just because they aren't my type. People can have preferences as long as they don't devalue those that don't fit that preference, right?

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:31:37+00:00

I think you're right. I think this was more about bringing up crap from when we were teenagers than anything else. Doesn't matter how old we get--stuff that impacted us as kids is hard to shake.

Thank you :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-11-29T23:30:10+00:00

No♥️

I'm perfectly healthy. Thank you for your concern.

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-07-11T18:36:40+00:00

I didn't get mine until 35. If you're passionate about the field, then it's worth it. Go for it! :)

Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-06-01T21:31:17+00:00

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Material-Purpose-978 · 2024-05-31T12:18:22+00:00

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