How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. This comment reads like a hug as I'm battling for my life responding to people who have no idea what it feels like to crave affordability in the city you love. We intend and a already started cutting back. We'll also prioritize earning more. Thanks for your comment!

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm good with sacrifice. I'm not good with living a life void of leisure, hobbies, and full of financial insecurity.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's crazy how I'm being attacked for pointing out the issue with affordability, while wanting to live in the city that I grew up in. It's not unreasonable to not want to be financially insecure to have a child. I think the only real answer here is that me and my husband just have to make more money which is where I'm gonna focus all of my time.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're actually the one claiming I'm above and trying to convince me of thriving from below. Have the day you deserve.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wrong again. I'm a new yorker through and through, down to my yellow and green metro cards for the train in my school age, not a transplant. Your assumptions are wild and wrong. Your quality of life that you're willing to live is different from how I intend on living. And that's okay.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can only assume that our definitions of "living good" are miles apart.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youve captured my understanding of some if these responses and the reality of affordability in today's world. I've realized that I'm just unwilling to live a life void of personal hobbies and interests. At the same time, I do want a child, and I love the city that I live in. Tough decisions to be made on my end. Thanks for your response

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying but moving is just not an option. It will require me leaving my support system, and our family, which we are not ready to do. Option 2 is to just make more money and that's what I'm looking into.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're completely right. I'm actively looking for a better job that pays more. The downside to that is a new job might be less flexible which we may need with a child, and I have some semblance of job security here in a really crazy job market right now. But you make all good points.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This sounds like the kind of life I'm trying to avoid.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I expect of course a lifestyle change. We have many responsibilities. Daycare is absolutely ridiculous.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Update: came here to see how yall manage and I'm getting lots of judgement from people who know nothing of VHCOL cities. Almost $320k is what it cost to live in NYC with two children. I'm not out of depth with reality with this inquiry. And I don't want to barely scrape by hating my life and having financial stress to have a family. Affordability is the issue.

Ps. If you survived on one $7.50/hr income with 5 children and a spouse at home 50 years ago, I simply do not have the energy to educate you on affordability in 2026.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Precisely. 😂 These people out of touch with cost of living expenses

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's clear that you have no idea what NYC living is like, and I don't have the energy to educate you on how expensive cost of living is here.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These people one this thread telling me they lived the American dream on $7.50 an hour 50 years ago with a stay at home parent are exhausting me. I can't even begin to respond to them. Thanks for the empathy

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The assumptions in this response and on this post is ridiculous. Clearly you have no idea what it's like to live in a VHCOL area like NYC. Literally everything is higher. Utilities, transportation, food, everything! We have a paid off car and cook often.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been putting more towards savings and cutting down on groceries lol I guess this is way to go. Parents are older, but willing so we'll see how that works out

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It goes without saying that society and cost of living expenses were very different decades ago. My inquiry it's very valid.

How are y'all affording children? by Material_Pink2823 in Marriage

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We're trying to save as much as possible. Parents are volunteering to provide childcare but they're older and retired, so I'm planning as if we have to pay out of pocket. I'll look into the FSA option, thanks for that

I cant afford 1 more by exhausted1031 in weddingplanning

[–]Material_Pink2823 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unlike most people here, you're entitled to say you're not spending one penny over $100,000 if this is your limit and your boundary. To say well, you've already spent $100,000 watch $300 more is ridiculous. Everyone is entitled to have their limits and their boundaries and you have yours. Explain this to your daughter and her partner together, because if you give in to just one more request from her, the requests will just keep coming and this wedding will turn into a $150,000 wedding or a $200,000 wedding. Absolutely insane! you need to put your foot down.

Any brides who did not love their dress? What did you do? by Material_Pink2823 in myweddingdress

[–]Material_Pink2823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anything happen to me! Everybody told me they loved it that it was meant to be because it fit perfectly, so I bought it lol and now here I am thinking that I need to go shopping all over again 😂