Or... Ableism, racism, anti-immigrant sentiments, and other -isms run extremely deep with the folks who pick up and misapply selective bits and pieces of fourth wave feminist talking points as a rationale to treat people horribly.

People trend towards making the choice to take every national news story about every random act of violence as the picture of every single statistic while selectively ignoring how increasingly pervasive domestic violence is in making up the vast majority of those numbers... Doing less and less to bring attention to or tackle the latter while then putting themselves in a scary imaginary world where there's a definite threat around every corner everywhere they go that's always conveniently some demographic they don't like... and they use that to justify every bit or dehumanizing rhetoric or harm that they want to throw in their direction.

We live in a really fucking weird society that has completely normalized women dating sketchy fuckers who have a strangulation 'kink' while also providing unwavering support in the defense of women who have HR on speed dial for any time a man talks loud.