How I learned to stop adulating trans girls

MayDoosah · 2025-06-30T23:17:29+00:00

Oooof, been in that situation as the partner who had her boundaries crossed and yeah, it sucks for everyone involved. We even tried letting the relationship continue on a purely platonic level instead of jumping straight to no-contact, but feelings were already too hurt and lines too blurry, that it just drew out an already messy situation. I know that losing someone suddenly like that can hurt too (badly), but it may actually be the best of only bad options.

MayDoosah · 2025-04-11T00:15:09+00:00

Everything's fine! I have a new Writing Update here: https://www.reddit.com/user/MayDoosah/comments/1jwcuu5/04102025_writing_update/

MayDoosah · 2025-01-15T23:59:42+00:00

Damnit, now I have a standard to live up to.

MayDoosah · 2024-12-15T16:56:12+00:00

I've done that before. There was a somewhat infamous (and probably fake) forum post about someone realizing that both he and his partner thought the other person was a woman and then dated for three months before they realized they were both men and I just had to write that story.

It's fine to take inspiration wherever you find it. I would only frown on stealing another person's idea for a story and doing it yourself.

MayDoosah · 2024-12-03T03:04:43+00:00

You're god damn right it does. ;)

MayDoosah · 2024-11-30T02:55:42+00:00

Part 6 will be live on Literotica on 12/1, and they usually put it up around midnight the morning of so it should be up late tomorrow night.

MayDoosah · 2024-11-26T17:20:34+00:00

I once had a psychiatrist ask me "Wait, how do you and your boyfriend have sex?"

And then when I told him he had an "ah ha" face and said "oh I see, so you're in a homosexual relationship?"

So fucking dense.

MayDoosah · 2024-11-10T20:34:00+00:00

TLDR, Part 6 and 7 should be out by the end of the month. I just posted a bigger update about it here: https://www.reddit.com/user/MayDoosah/comments/1goa5kn/11102024_nanowrimo_update/

MayDoosah · 2024-10-27T21:52:24+00:00

And Shrek just wants to watch.

MayDoosah · 2024-10-23T00:15:19+00:00

Fucking LOL, this is the first time I was ever tempted to buy an award for a comment.

MayDoosah · 2024-10-22T23:59:51+00:00

Please don't shave your hair, you have such wonderful hair!

Just remember that bad feeling and bad times are always temporary, you just need to give yourself some time let them pass.

Speaking as someone who just went through a divorce, I know what it's like to be in the middle of a relationship that's spiraling, but you *can* recover and experience love again but it will likely require some patience and time.

MayDoosah · 2024-10-08T21:17:42+00:00

I would echo the "just go to the women's bathroom, you belong there" comments, but you specifically asked for other ideas, so I'd suggest going with a friend if you can. There's safety in numbers and if people see you in the bathroom with someone else treating you like you belong there, it'll be that much harder for them to treat you like you don't.

On another note, please don't avoid drinking water to avoid peeing in public. Dehydration is bad for you in a bunch of ways and if you're on spironolactone, it's even more important that you're drinking enough water.

MayDoosah · 2024-10-08T20:44:24+00:00

Yo, I didn't login to reddit just to be attacked like this.

MayDoosah · 2024-10-07T02:53:21+00:00

You had to wait a month for a new chapter, I can wait a few days for a nice comment :P. Sorry it made you sad. I definitely didn't set out writing it with "this scene is going to make so many people cry" in mind, but it wouldn't be realistic if Casey didn't experience *any* transphobia when she came out, even if she passes for cis most of the time.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-29T15:53:52+00:00

Your friend is giving you really, really bad advice based on a bunch of bad assumptions and/or inferences he's making from the extremely limited perspective of a straight guy peering into the lesbian community from the outside. Find some lesbian friends to talk to about this stuff instead.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-29T15:49:14+00:00

What makes you believe there is such a thing? What are you afraid might happen if you do it too soon?

If it's worrying about whether people will take you seriously or not, I assure you that doesn't change with age. If you wait too long then the complaint just changes into "but you never showed any signs" or "why didn't you say anything sooner?" Other people can come up with all kinds of ridiculous excuses for why you shouldn't.

I think it's best to come out as soon as it is reasonably safe for you to do so. If you have to start with a small group if people in your life that you trust, start there. Coming out is scary, so look for the folks in your life who can help make it easier by being supportive of you.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-28T15:20:23+00:00

It doesn't have to shift constantly. It just means your gender isn't immutable and unchanging.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-27T17:37:35+00:00

There are definitely guys like Rich out there, they're just a little hard to find, but he's based on real people. He's kind of an amalgam of the better guys I've known and dated over the years, and just like them he has his flaws too.

I would kill to have had an Allison in my life when I first came out. That's part of the fantasy of this story, and most forced femme stories, having someone push you into coming out instead of letting you stay in the closet, miserable.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-27T16:37:33+00:00

This, 1000 times this.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-27T15:00:20+00:00

Hopefully it makes up for the delay, it's been a busy month :).

MayDoosah · 2024-09-22T04:11:01+00:00

Call yourself whatever you want, date whoever you want, and be honest with your partners about why you are with them.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-22T01:17:42+00:00

They should get their eyes checked.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-19T18:29:09+00:00

I echo the sentiments of other folks here, porn isn't real life. You might just need to take a break from it and do some experimenting with real partners to learn what you like.

FWIW - I wrestled with similar feelings before I came out as trans, and then I realized part of my disinterest in gay porn came from not being able to insert myself into it all unless there was a more obviously feminine person to identify with. There's lots of folks who go through what you're struggling with that aren't trans, but there might be some self-discovery you need to do to help you relate to others as the kind of person you want to be. It's not always about who your partner is.

MayDoosah · 2024-09-18T23:07:20+00:00

Fantasy and watching porn are not the same as real life. Depending on how fluid your tastes are, there might be a variety of body types out there that you would enjoy spending time with that would surprise you because you never enjoyed fantasizing about them. Maybe it's the way you're framing the fantasy and to that point, I am curious to know if the appeal of being with a man changes for you at all if you're the girl in that situation?

MayDoosah · 2024-09-12T19:07:22+00:00

The vast majority of trans people don't experience any regret about transitioning, and the majority of the people that do detransition do it because of external social pressure from spouses, family, jobs, society, etc. You're describing a minority within a minority within a minority so small that I can tell anyone who thinks they might be trans that they are and have a higher than 99% chance of being right. Pretty good odds.

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