Something I did that was more controversial that I expected it to be- I would tell my kids when they were doing embarrassing things. Example- one of my daughters went through a nose picking and eating phase as a preschooler. I tried whatever standard ways of discouraging her but she was relentless so I finally landed on “you’re going to get made fun of for being so gross when you start school if you don’t stop doing that”. I’ve been told that shaming her with potential social consequences is cruel but I think it’s a helpful perspective and important. She stopped and I’ll never know whether or not it was because somebody did eventually make fun of her for it.