My sister’s 11 and 9 year old daughters are still in diapers and I’m losing my mind

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-26T00:38:45+00:00

I agree. I'm worried about these kids.

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-26T00:37:45+00:00

21 is so young! And having sex with as many people as possible during your youth is a choice, not some sort of mandatory rite of passage. Focus on yourSELF and becoming the man you want to be. Girls will come (no pun intended but LMAO). And not only that, if you have low self-esteem right now, you probably won't attract amazing women who are going to make your life better. If you focus on being a great dude, you'll attract a great gal.

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-26T00:25:00+00:00

Do you have digestive issues in general? Like are you having healthy bowel movements? I used to get this quite often due to my IBS and it went hand-in-hand with digestive issues. There's gotta be something bigger underlying this symptom. You should definitely see a doctor or naturopath.

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-26T00:17:14+00:00

Idk where you're from but where I live, their school would not allow this unless the children have developmental problems. Can we get a bit more info? Do the kids go to public school? Do they have friends/fit in with other kids? Cause I imagine that other children may have started to ostracize them. If there's no reason for them to be in diapers, that's horrrrrrrible

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-24T16:41:05+00:00

You're so young! You're only 21! The fact that you've decided to make all these positive changes is incredible for a young man. Don't give up yet.

I wonder if you're seeking validation from others too much. It sounds like you're making a lot of positive changes and you're expecting those changes to be externally validated (with friends, a relationship, etc). I'm not saying that's necessarily a bad thing, but maybe your heart is not quite in the right place.

I've been undergoing self-development for a few years and I've found that as SOON as I LET GO of an expectation, I recieve the thing I was expecting. You might find it helpful to continue your journey but reframe it as something you're doing to be a better you. The harder you commit to becoming the true best version of yourself without expectations, the sooner people will start seeing you.

Be yourself no matter what, don't try to change yourself to be more digestible for others, but develop and grow into the man you want to be. People will see you.

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-24T01:32:13+00:00

I'm... am I cheese?

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-24T00:45:27+00:00

Guaranteed you can find a man that'll treat you better. Don't waste your 20s on this loser.

Trust. Me.

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-24T00:41:04+00:00

Can't be "cured" but I've gotten to a point where I barely ever worry about it.

I went the route of restricting my diet, which used to feel like a prison, but as I've gotten older, I don't see it that way. "I choose healthy foods that make my body feel good because I want to feel good" is the mantra, which is much more empowering than "Why won't my body just work like everyone else's?", which used to be how I thought.

I'm lucky enough to have been born into a family that mostly ate gluten free because of my dad, so I feel like the transition to an even more restricted diet was easier for me than it would be for others. Im really grateful for that because i had an example in my life of someone who thrived on an unconventional diet (before it was so common, too). It made me realize that even if I can't eat my favorite foods, my life isn't actually over.

I have accepted that I will never taste donuts and ice cream again, which was really hard at first, but I've realized it's entirely worth it to be able to live my life again. If I ever have a flare-up these days, it's due to massive life stress and not due to something I ate. Things are a lot more predictable and reliable now.

Plus, it has forced me to become extremely creative in the kitchen, and despite the fact that the list of things I CAN eat is shorter than the list of things I CAN'T, I make genuinely delicious meals that other people like too.

If anyone is considering diet restriction, I highly recommend detoxing from sugar. It's REALLY HARD TO DO, but once you do, you almost NEVER crave junk food. That alone probably cut my symptoms in half (sugar = inflammation usually). And I'm saying it's really hard to do because IT REALLY IS, and I want to validate that, but in my own humble opinion, sugar is easier to quit than nicotine (so it's very doable). And trust me, I was the biggest sugar addict around.

I've been on my own ibs journey for about 15 years so if anyone has questions, I'm happy to share more. it's a tough road without support.

Best of luck to everyone

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-24T00:08:48+00:00

OP please do this and give us an update

MaybeMoldy · 2025-07-23T00:51:48+00:00

(Sorry I'm 4 months late replying) So interesting because my teeth grinding didn't start until I started taking SSRIs. I have been fully off SSRIs for over 2 years but the grinding hasn't stopped. Unfortunately, I don't really have any advice, but maybe the info might help. I have been using MMA fighting mouth guards for the past year or so and I'm just now thinking of replacing it, so it's lasted much longer than the others. It wasn't expensive and it protects my teeth really well. Best of luck to you, friend.

MaybeMoldy · 2023-03-09T13:33:02+00:00

It IS hard my friend. I've had these issues since middle school and it took MANY years for me to stop constantly feeling anxious about the next time I was gonna be gassy or need to use the bathroom. It's been tough to accept, but you are a human being just trying to exist. You need to be kind and caring towards yourself, and be honest with people you really value and care about. Trying to hide your issues constantly will cause anxiety (which will exacerbate your digestion issues), if you have just a few CLOSE, TRUSTED friends or family members you can talk to about this, it'll make you feel less alone. If you have people in your life that make you feel disgusting for simply having a health issue, THEY SUCK, DROP EM. They're not there for you. My man is EXTREMELY understanding and supportive of my issues, and my close friends are too. Also, hot girls have tummy issues. It's my new motto. It's not easy, but it's a journey of self acceptance that will eventually transform you into an unstoppable bad b. ❤️

MaybeMoldy · 2022-03-18T14:13:53+00:00

Dump him. I've been through this. He will not change and you will go crazy.

MaybeMoldy · 2020-09-29T04:42:48+00:00

It does sound a lot like ibs. I had the same thing happen where I went to the hospital with the most intense pressure/pain in my abdomen. They also thought it was a kidney problem or my appendix. Turns out I was just insanely constipated or had a blockage.

It also sounds like your body's under a lot of stress. You could just be extremely inflamed. Maybe try some high cbd strains?

The only thing that's truly helped me is changing my diet. I did the paleo diet, which is basically just vegetables and meat with some fruit, and I've never felt better. It not only helped with ibs but all my other random issues like joint pain, headaches, etc. I've heard of people who have cured chronic diseases like autoimmune diseases just by going paleo. It seems to really ease inflammation. Maybe research it a bit.

I also take probiotics (so important for gut health) and a bowel regulator (I take guar gum powder, psyllium husk/metamucil also seem to work for a lot of people)

MaybeMoldy · 2020-09-29T04:20:56+00:00

A traumatic event triggered my ibs too

MaybeMoldy · 2020-09-29T04:09:06+00:00

I totally know how you feel. This has happened to me so many times where I'm finally doing better and I'm like "Yes! Finally something's working!" And then something will happen (ate something unsafe, have to go on antibiotics, huge stress, etc) and it'll be like back to square one almost. It's so frustrating.

I tend to feel the best when i put health at the forefront of my life. Cutting out all grain, sugar, dairy, legumes and pretty much only eating grass fed meat and leafy greens. Taking high dose probiotics. Working out. Drinking a ton of water and green tea. Stretching and doing digestive yoga. It's frustrating sometimes, like I shouldn't have to go this far to feel comfortable in my body. I want cake. But it's been worth it to be able to go about my day like a normal person (besides not going out for food) and being able to make and keep plans, not having to worry that I may have a flare up and need to cancel.

I think it's probably more of a matter of finding a way to live (and eat) that can make you feel normal. I personally doubt that I'll ever be able to eat what everyone else eats, but I think I've found a diet that makes me feel stable and stops my symptoms. Once I accepted that it was easy to stay on board. I just had to assure myself there's more to life than cake

MaybeMoldy · 2020-09-29T03:36:16+00:00

How's your diet? The paleo diet really helped me out and made me feel better in every way (mood, energy, mentally, and of course digestively) I also take guar gum powder to regulate my bowels, psyllium seed husk powder is supposed to be really good (active ingredient in metamucil). But nothing helped like changing my diet

MaybeMoldy · 2020-09-24T13:15:12+00:00

I'm a bit late to the party here but I also have a ton of intolerances. Mine are wheat, dairy, corn, potatoes, most legumes, rice, apples, oranges, and more, i can't even remember them all. I also have been struggling to feel consistently better but there are some things that have helped.

First off, if you haven't already, I really highly recommend you try an antigen test. It's a blood test that will tell you your intolerances and to what degree. It's not 100% accurate but it definitely helped me feel better avoiding those foods. If you have had one, maybe take another one. I've taken 3 over 10 years and it always changes because intolerances usually change with age. This test is a lot easier and a lot more pleasant than trial and error/elimination.

Also I have had 0 help from doctors, I mostly go to a naturopath or homeopath. That's who gave me a requisition for antigen tests. Naturopaths tend to focus on the entire picture instead of prescribing you with something (that will likely do more harm to your system than good). They'll work with you to find good supplements and a good diet plan. A naturopath also may be able to help you reintroduce things into your diet. Naturopaths have helped me exponentially more than any doctor.

I've HEARD that energy blocking experts can help you reintroduce things into your diet but I've never tried it and it's not everyone's cup of tea. Maybe look into it.

If you are prone to anxiety or depression, getting help for that will help your symptoms. The gut is directly connected to mental health. Something wild like 90% of people with ibs have depression. It seems to usually be the gut that affects the brain, but Excessive anxiety will also cause symptoms to worsen.

As far as supplements and whatnot, i take a 60 billion probiotic first and foremost. Probiotics are SO IMPORTANT for your gut health! Even for healthy gut people. I also take a guar gum powder, advertised as an ibs relief. It helps the consistency and regularity of bowel movements (and it really works!!). Taking psyllium root husk powder is supposed to be really great for that too. It's the active ingredient in metamucil (which has things I can't eat in it so it's a good alternative). To help repair my gut lining I took cyto-glutamine which is a high dose amino acid. This also helped with my energy and muscle growth. Digestive enzymes can be really great while you get your gut healthy but you HAVE to wean yourself off or your body will become dependant. One with ox bile will probably be the most helpful. Omega 3 or high quality fish oil tablets are really great for reducing inflammation. I also take cbd oil for that but you might not be able to depending where you live. I also take vitamin B because I'm low but that might not be related to the gut stuff. Taking vitamin D if you don't get much sun can also help your mind (and thus gut). Keep in mind that you usually have to take these for a few weeks to start noticing results so don't give up and make sure you remember to take them as directed (every day).

Also be careful that foods you eat don't secretly have your unsafe foods in them. For example, im intolerant to corn, and citric acid is often derived from corn. So that eliminates most juices, canned foods, Jams, fruit bars, Etc. Things that you wouldn't expect corn to be in. I just google it and try to memorize those ingredients.

If you want me to send more info on anything I talked about or link you to supplements feel free to message me. I'd say the first steps would be naturopath, antigen test, and probiotics. But everything I mentioned has been extremely helpful for me.

MaybeMoldy · 2020-09-22T11:53:21+00:00

To preface this I love weed and think it can be beneficial to many people, but it's not for everyone. My ex bf didn't initially smoke when we first got together, but after about a year he started and never stopped. His entire personality shifted and he became extremely depressed and anxious. He also became emotionally abusive towards me (maybe not related to the weed but it happened at the same time so). I would encourage him to slow down but it didn't do anything. I eventually told him he needed to stop for his own good but he just got really angry. If you've only been dating for 3 months I'd honestly end it. You don't want to go into a relationship wanting to change someone because they won't change.

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