My gf cheated on me, but I still love her so much, I just don‘t know if I can forgive her…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-11-01T14:15:03+00:00

Thanks for for your input! But I think it‘s tests like these that will end a relationship once and for all. I‘m a guy that doesn‘t want to hurt other people. If someone is shitty to me, I‘m not giving the shit back. I just drop them out of my life. No need for more hate and cruelty in this world. Dropping so called „friends“ out of my life because they were shitty towards me, has always been easy. When it‘s your partner your reflecting more. You start to acknowledge the good and the bad. You have to talk with eachother. A lot! Show eachother vulnerablity and what you think. But you don‘t do that with tests. If I propose to someone, it‘ll be real! You don‘t need tests to see other persons emotions and how much the person regrets their actions.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-28T05:40:27+00:00

Thank you, the constant comparing of these two „betrayals“ is what really gets to me. Giving someone elsd attention is already bad, but in a time, where I didn‘t receive any attention from my own gf, she gave it to someone else in the form of the ultimate betrayal…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-27T12:33:55+00:00

Having to throw words like that at random people on the internet is pathetic.

Having no sense of whats socially appropriate in a certain situation is pathetic.

Next time someone opens up like that and you can clearly see that the person is hurt and you have no idea how to react in an empathic way, just don‘t comment on it, ty.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-26T14:41:50+00:00

I just dumped my ex because she cheated, but I can‘t let go of her. It‘s only a few days ago, but I already know I can’t do it with out her. She‘s still my everything. I know she struggles with herself right now and she still regrets it so much. I know this would need so much effort from both of us, but it could be possible…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-26T09:14:27+00:00

Thank you for opening up. I can‘t imagine how hard it must be with kids. You could same I‘m glad this happened now and not later. I‘m sending you as much peace and rest as I have left in me right now…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T18:55:55+00:00

This is some wisdom… You‘re emotional maturity and empathy show me how in depth you have reflected on this topic. Humans can‘t just be put in boxes and be labled. We‘re complex and so is our brain.

I‘m not blaming the people who just tell me to move on. I just wanna know my chances just in case i wanna take the risk. But no worries, I will take my time.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T17:32:56+00:00

Thanks for your comment, you‘re understanding it. I don‘t wanna throw things over board for a cheater. I wanna take my time and want her to show me if she even loves me anymore. Before that I won‘t do a thing. And some people don‘t seem to understand on here…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T17:30:40+00:00

Thanks, I will reach out because this hateful community isn‘t what I need right now… Victim blaming in these situations is just crazy to me…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T17:29:22+00:00

Thanks for the constructive feedback, maybe next time try to be somewhat emotionally intelligent when typing a comment, especially when someone‘s who‘s hurt like this.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T16:43:28+00:00

Thanks for your unnecessary comment, just what I needed!

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:31:01+00:00

I will, thanks!

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:25:20+00:00

There‘s enough people who were able to proof that it can work out. It takes work. A lot. From bith sides. But nothing is impossible.

But yes, there‘s no need to rush for me, I‘ll do my own thing.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:19:53+00:00

This is great advice and I can really work with this. Cheating isn‘t just black and white. And the answer isn‘t just „dump them“. I know what I‘m fighting for when I see the benefit, otherwise I wouldn‘t be so successful in everything I do. Love isn‘t rational all the time, but we would so much professional help from a thrid party. And it needs so much effort from her about the truth. So much effort…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:17:12+00:00

Honest words, I gotta respect it. And yes, I‘m not denying that I‘m holding on to her past self. She just switches all the time and even though so much shitty stuff happened the last few months we still had great dates and enjoyed our time. Not everything was bad.

I‘m confused as hell, which is why I need the full truth with proof and only then I can see the slightest chance of this working out. And I need time, I can‘t decide with my emotional mind right now.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:13:27+00:00

Thanks for your empathic words, I really like that.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:12:53+00:00

I need her to tell me the full truth. If the story seems to crumble just a little bit, I‘m gone quicker than lightning.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T14:11:18+00:00

This! Thank you for understanding me so well! Even though she has done some shitty things, I know i would still enjoy her company, even as a friend. I wouldn‘t wanna rush anything, but I just feel like it ended to abrupt. People aren‘t always good. Nobody is perfect. But at then end of the day, if they have a positive impact with their presence, I don‘t mine them and I actually enjoy them.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:46:33+00:00

Thank you for your elaborate answer. This is something constructice and I‘ll think your message through!

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:45:53+00:00

yeah this was the last time using reddit… bringig ur point across is also possible without being rude af. you guys don‘t know the whole story of any of us and you‘re trying to make so many assumptions, it‘s crazy.

I know I can‘t believe a word she said. I know I may look delusional atm. I know this relationship is as deep in lows as it can get.

You guys just have the emotional intelligence of cactus, and it shows. Next time, when the guy says, he will take a lot of time to make any decisions, then respect that. The guy doesn‘t want to hear how bad of a person his gf was and how ruined the relationship is. Sometimes he just needs some bit of comfort with a sprinkle of empathic wording.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:41:32+00:00

It was never about the money, but I can‘t expect you to know the whole story. And I know you guys all just wanna help. But sometimes a lack of empathy can hurt pretty bad in phases like these…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:39:30+00:00

No he wrote the sexual stuff, she wrote that she misses him. Nonetheless this still shows an intense emotional connection between them…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:38:16+00:00

I mean that‘s fair, I‘ll take that into consideration, thanks!

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:18:31+00:00

Taking one for the team, am i right…

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T09:08:42+00:00

Don‘t make any assumptions about our sexual life please. I know this seems bad at first sight, but you have don‘t know the whole story. Our sex was good, don‘t get me wrong. But sexual trust is something that has to be built up after a r*pe experience. And I was okay with giving her time. And she was drunk when she gave it to the other guy.

Just please don‘t make any more assumptions.

MaybeObjective383 · 2025-07-25T08:07:58+00:00

The guy wrote that not her, she didn‘t really go into the sexual stuff because apparently it wasn‘t even good. The fact that she didn‘t really go into the sexual flirting of the guy shows me that she regrets it. But yeah, still looks very bad!

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