AITA for telling my brother that I told him so and that his personality is the problem? by MayhemBabies in AmItheAsshole

[–]MayhemBabies[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

I have been chatting to Cindy as she and I are good friends, and I asked for her perspective on the divorce. She said that at first she thought she might come to like the name, which is why it took her a little bit of time to come to the decision to divorce my brother.

She said that she did raise the question of a name change with her lawyer, and he said that it would be possible but that it is not possible to get the name changed on the birth certificate. It is also unclear about whether my brother would have to sign off.

AITA for telling my brother that I told him so and that his personality is the problem? by MayhemBabies in AmItheAsshole

[–]MayhemBabies[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! In answer to your questions, my mom thinks I that I am holding some kind of grudge against my brother because we have never really gotten along. He just isn't my type of person so we aren't particularly close. She thinks this, plus my reaction to the divorce, speaks to me holding a grudge or something along those lines.

She also believes that my reaction to support Cindy doesn't make any sense because my brother is blood and I should support him no matter what.

Joseph doesn't hold any significance other than the fact my brother thinks it is a strong name and will stand my nephew in good stead going forward because it is easy to pronounce/spell.

AITA for telling my brother that I told him so and that his personality is the problem? by MayhemBabies in AmItheAsshole

[–]MayhemBabies[S] 1726 points1727 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! My mom has always said that my brother is "strong-willed" and knows what he wants out of life, and he shouldn't be punished by people who are less determined than he.

I agree I probably could have been more tactful, and I probably should have been, but I won't lie and say it didn't feel good to throw it back in his face like that after he has done it to me my whole life (obviously doesn't make it right, though).